What to do, broken 5th Commandment: Obeying parents

[Technoforever84]

Ok, I do not know what to do and how to deal with this. I have disobeyed my parents many times in the past. I even rebelled them sometimes. But now, they died from old age. I feel so bad for breaking this amendment habitually before. I regret it.

How can I have this sin forgiven if my parents already died? I can’t say I’m sorry to them, they’re no longer here.

 

[1ke]

I think you mean the 4th commandment.

Confession forgives your sins. Be at peace.

 

[Norseman82]

During the Jubilee Year of Mercy, it was said that the plenary indulgence could be obtained for/applied to the departed (not sure if this applied only to the Year of Mercy plenary indulgence or if it is true for all plenary indulgences). So, even though you will be or have been forgiven in the sacrament of confession, it may give you some peace to obtain a plenary indulgence for your departed parents. One opportunity that is coming up is Divine Mercy Sunday (Sunday after Easter). Please check with a knowledgeable Church authority to verify if it can be applied to your departed parents.

 

[acadiANNA]

I would have Masses said for them. My mom passed away 17 years after my father. My father and mother lived with our family since my dad had a stroke. They came to live here directly from the hospital. Dad was bedridden 6 years before his death. Mom was bedridden 3 years. I cared for all their needs with the help of home health. After mom passed on, I realized how much trouble I gave them in my teen years. I know they forgave me. I had a lot of guilt. I confessed to Father that I was sorry I gave my parents so much trouble. He gave me absolution and I was able to forgive myself. I believe your parents knew you were sorry and forgave you long ago. I will seek a Plenary Indulgence per the post of Norseman82. God bless you and find peace.

 

[Paganus]

During the Jubilee Year of Mercy, it was said that the plenary indulgence could be obtained for/applied to the departed (not sure if this applied only to the Year of Mercy plenary indulgence or if it is true for all plenary indulgences). So, even though you will be or have been forgiven in the sacrament of confession, it may give you some peace to obtain a plenary indulgence for your departed parents. One opportunity that is coming up is Divine Mercy Sunday (Sunday after Easter). Please check with a knowledgeable Church authority to verify if it can be applied to your departed parents.

You can get indulgences for the Church Suffering every day, if you are in a state of grace, have no attachment to sin, receive Communion, pray for the intentions of the Pope and perform an indulgenced activity such as reading the Bible for 30 minutes or praying a family rosary.