What to do if the child doesn't want to be a wrestler and hates to exercise in a wrestling club?

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Wrestling is not a table tennis and not a football, it happens that the child does not want to wrestle.
How to make him not to miss the workout hours and to like the wrestling?
Yes, sometimes the kids go back to wrestling in the teenage age, but losing a childhood lack on the wrestling Mat, they unfortunately will not be able to achieve the success which they could atchieve.
May 8-10 year old child be financially reward on weekends by the parents for every work week on the wrestling Mat?
How can you prove to the child that wrestling is exactly what he needs?
 
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I’ve never wrestled and don’t really feel I have missed out, could you find another way to exercise?
 
Find another sport that he likes. If not, there is learning a musical instrument, crafts, another language, magic tricks.
 
God bless you, we know you wish the best for your son.

However, why should your child not find an active sport he prefers?

He may have the ability to excel in and enjoy another physical activity. Why not swimming, for instance, bike-riding, or…

There are some things that we need to expect our children to do whether or not they wish,
but a particular sport he dislikes is not one of them.
 
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Are all men where you live wrestlers? Is it a feature of day to day life?
 
You can’t make them like it. Why don’t you ask what they would rather do? I think they’d be much more successful achieving in an activity they enjoy.
 
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The child sometimes has a transitional period in which later he starts to like wrestling.
Learning the school lessons the children will not always like , but there are sometimes approaches in which they simply must to make efforts for progress.
In the wrestling there are exercises which are not always pleasant; to swing the neck is not a very pleasant experience, work out many times, fight with a stronger opponent; not always enjoyable activities for the child, but they need to get used and accustomed, as well as need to get used to the pain.
Just in the cadet age it is possible to achieve something, in later years it is much harder to improve and achieve success at competitions.
 
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How do you know if he will have a transitional period and start to like it? Do you live in a society where your son may one day need to fight someone stronger?
 
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what country are you in?

why are you insisting this child learn a physical contact sport, ?

this child is already rejecting the physical contact, the fighting. that wont change, it will get worse if forced.
 
You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it _______? 🤔
 
I’m assuming there are some language/cultural issues here. OP, where are you from?

I do understand what you’re saying. Sometimes a kid will want to quit an activity early on because they’ll get frustrated that they’re not very good at first, but if they push through it they’ll learn the value of sticking with something and working at it.

That said, if your kid really doesn’t like wrestling, I’m not sure why he HAS to wrestle. Physical activity is a must for kids, but I don’t see why it couldn’t be some other sport he actually enjoys. Don’t try to force your own interests on your kid.
 
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My first thought was that this original question was some sort of ‘clever’ variation on the question of how to get ones kids to become enthusiastic about going to Mass and other sorts off Catholic instruction when they really weren’t interested in doing so.

We’d get a dozen responses along the lines of “don’t force the kid to do something he isn’t interested in” and then the surprise trap of “then why force your kid to go to Church?” would be sprung.

But I’m old and cynical. Maybe it really is about wrestling.
 
I was thinking some sort of Hunger Games society where you have to wrestle for food and it would be a very irresponsible parent who didn’t prepare their children
 
Why would anyone want to “make” a child like sport they don’t like? There are other sports that give a child exercise. It sounds more like a parent likes wrestling so much and wants to live through their child. Please allow the child to choose their own sport that interests them, and then, support them. Even if does not interest the parent.
 
Well a few thoughts.

1: You mention rewards at competitions and ECT. Remeber that the vast vast vast majority of children in a sport will never make it professionally. So being determined that your child will make it to professional wrestling is like betting on the lottery.
2: If your child initially showed an interest in wrestling and now isn’t, talk with him. Ask him why he’s not liking it. Then you’ll be on an even footing with him and maybe he’ll freely choose to go a little longer if he thinks it might be what you’ve labelled a transitional period. But if it were me I’d offer something along the lines of, “Well why don’t we try wrestling for (X amount of time more) and if you’re sure you don’t want to continue wrestling, that’s fine.” And I’d say (X amount of time) would be until the end of the season at most.
3: And if he never showed interest in the first place, cross country & track and field, swimming, lacrosse, water polo, soccer, baseball, ect. are all good ways of getting exercise too. With soccer for example he might like the team aspect. With cross country he might like the running.

My parents had their interests and I share some of them. Not because they forced me to partake, but because they introduced me and I continued. I’ll take chess as an example.
My father plays chess and introduced me. At first I wasn’t too interested, but later did get an interest. And while I’m not as good as I would be if I had really studied chess, I don’t think I would liked it if I’d been made too. In other words, not being pushed brought me into it more. And for comparison, there are kids that play chess and are very good for their ages, but they leave when they get older. Why? Because they were never the ones that really wanted to study chess and get into it. Their paremts were. So even though the parents did a lot to make their child good, it was rejected when the child could finally choose.
 
I wrestled. I love wrestling. I honestly think that it is the best sport for child development in many ways.

All that said, it’s an intense sport. It isn’t for everyone. I don’t think you can force someone to love a sport. At best, you can get them to willingly endure it.
 
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Wrestling is not a table tennis and not a football, it happens that the child does not want to wrestle.
How to make him not to miss the workout hours and to like the wrestling?
Yes, sometimes the kids go back to wrestling in the teenage age, but losing a childhood lack on the wrestling Mat, they unfortunately will not be able to achieve the success which they could atchieve.
May 8-10 year old child be financially reward on weekends by the parents for every work week on the wrestling Mat?
How can you prove to the child that wrestling is exactly what he needs?
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Find another sport. When I was a kid, my parish had both wrestling and basketball in the winter. I’m sure you could find another sport(s) for him.

Though, I do think he should play a sport, but wrestling is a very niche sport… some boys love it, but others do not. So my suggestion would be to have him play another sport: even if it’s one like being on the swim team.
 
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