What to do if the child doesn't want to be a wrestler and hates to exercise in a wrestling club?

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In childhood we often do not know what we need. Sometimes we mature very late.
For example, I knew that I wanted to become a doctor of medicine, but the study started too late.
When I stayed for two years until the end of school, I realized that it’s too late to get chemistry and biology.
It is important to start on time and improve slowly and steadily.
At first the sport may seem not attractive but later on seeing the success you get pleasure from the training process.

I once watched how cruel the parents of the young birds tried to spread the wings of its chicks.
To ensure that the сhicks have learned to fly they spread their wings and just pushed out of the nest, it looked very painful, but chicks gotta fly.
Today even girls are wrestling and at the wrestling there are sometimes the traumas; break ribs, shoulders, hand, it’s a tough sport.
But in general, “free style wrestling” for example, one of the least traumatic kinds of sport.
Why is boxing more popular than wrestling, even though in boxing you are constantly hit in the head.
 
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You are missing the point. There are things that kids NEED, yes, such as to get an education so they can become self-sufficient contributing members of society. If a kid doesn’t like math, he still has to do his math homework, it’s not a choice. However, no one NEEDS wrestling. Wrestling is an EXTRAcurricular activity, which means that it’s the child’s choice to participate or not. There is a difference between required and optional. Math is required, wrestling is optional. Just like for an adult going to work is required, going skiing on a Saturday is optional.

I grew up in Russia, and I remember parents forcing their kids to play the piano or do a particular sport, even though the kid hated it. It was sad to watch, even as a child myself. My parents never did that to me. Yes, in the end some of those kids may end up good piano players or wrestlers or whatever, but at what cost? Their own personality is stifled in the process, they don’t learn to explore the world on their own and decide for themselves what they like. It’s not worth it.
 
It may just be me, but having full body contact may cause problems with some people. Could it be that as they get older they don’t want to experience confusing feelings and emotions?

Maybe the child is feeling conflicted about an activity that is directly drawing attention to something your child may be trying to avoid pertaining to the 6th commandment?

Peace.

+JMJ+
 
No one “needs” wrestling. What kids do need is periodic exercise and to feel capable at something. Forcing them to focus all their energy on something they hate and don’t feel good at is a waste of time and could be damaging. Better to find an activity that your son feels really passionate about and feels that he could be good at. I could see insisting on a certain amount of exercise for health reasons, but demanding that they devote time and effort to a sport they don’t care for is a waste. Your neglecting his real potential in other areas.
 
There are effeminate societies where power sports for most may seem harmful, but there are circumstances and forms of existence where power sports can be even useful.
Power sports useful where schools often found the brutality and the school pupil/student should be able to protect him/her self.
There are regions where not always safe to get on the street at the evening.
There are States where even young girls are forced to learn to hold a gun and martial arts in their hands. (Israel, Kurdistan, Eastern Ukraine…)
Power sports is able to cure some types of masochism, able to make even a brave girl at the moment when the robber is trying to rob or hurt an old person or defenseless person. Wrestling cures cowardice and indifference.
Half of my life I often do what brings no pleasure, I just know that I must pass the exams of life and it will make me stronger.
In January I haven’t missed a single workout. (21 training on a wrestling Mat), I constantly go to workout with great reluctance, but I do have to force myself. I gradually turn into a state which once described by a famous wrestler, saying:. - “I enjoy the process of training” .
Although in reality I know that I’m learning to do a huge effort to overcome laziness and reluctance.
 
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Martial arts is cooler anyways. 🙂

Seriously, though, maybe you can encourage the kid to pick a sport he would like, but don’t force him into something. There are so many sports out there. (If he wants to do one at all.)
 
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Actually certain contemporary charismatic priests and saints have a problem with martial.arts because of the mental and spiritual.techniques they employ. I haven’t heard any such critics from Christian pastors regarding wrestling. So if it was my kid and wanted to fight I’d chose wrestling over martial arts.
A general sport that is healthy for the generic kid …I think swimming and running. I think you have to use sense of humor when convincing the kid…so that they are reminded it’s a game it’s like video games only…it’s real. The serious historical part about why do sports may bore many kids off.
I used to play the piano…quite well. At 12 I said “enough! This is music for old ppl.” And never looked back. On the other side my mom never took me to ballet lessons because she said it is too cruel. Ok…some time later I admit mom was well informed. But if my kid would ever want it I’d rake her. I would however be worried if she would be planning on becoming a professional ballerina and nothing else. It’s a short career and only the peeks are fully rewarded with satisfaction.
 
Yeah,in wrestling also, in many countries at best you can become a coach.
Titled wrestlers have a chance to work as a coaches and not titled wrestlers can work as a conventional coaches, poorly paid coaches.
You can open your own club, or security Agency, or to switch to more popular martial arts.
But in the kids lives the power sport helps sometimes to balance the school. This is a reasonable pastime for juniors.
The energy is thrown out on the wrestling carpet, not on the street in violence.
And the child will be neither pampered nor cowardly, but responsible with a strong responsible character.
 
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In the Greek-Catholic Community in Ukraine, people heard about the tragic death of the priest’s family.
Two tiny daughters survived but were orphaned.
They found themselves in a sports boarding school in Lviv.
Perhaps they had no choice but to survive in this cruel world.(and at the same time the beautiful world)
Perhaps trainings and competitions for them were a big challenge. There were traumas, fractures, but in their life there was a transition from the hated training experience to the workouts that bring pleasure.
This transformation is familiar to many who decide to devote themselves to sports.
Today these two twin sisters win international tournaments and for the future, they are the hope of the female national team of Ukraine on free-style wrestling.
Of course their coach created them “the young lionesses.” The coach specially trained them with very strong rivals. They went through the impossible. Bruises, broken arms, a reluctance to go to training, the inability to fight against a strong opponent.
But now these two fragile girls become strong and promising athletes.
Citing the example of the sisters Vinnick, I am speaking about the conversion and the transition from “hated the reluctance experience of training” up to “the pleasure of the process of training”.
An example of sisters Vinnik from Lviv Sports Boarding School is an example of a quote from the Holy Scripture.
“With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” -Matthew 19:26
https://www.facebook.com/permalink.php?story_fbid=1183549061780208&id=302702286531561

On a photo, twin-sisters, winners of the international tournament among cadets-Maria and Solomiya Vinnik. I want to believe that in the future these sisters will be able to repeat the victorious experience of other legendary brothers from Kiev - Sergei and Anatoly Beloglazovs.
 
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I started in what we called Pee Wee wrestling.
I think the right approach is to teach your kid to participate in a range of sports and not select their preference when they are too young.
 
“Pee Wee Wrestling” looks very exciting.
In General, it amazes me how wrestling is promoted in the United States, both among children and the students of the Colleges.
Looking at the atmosphere of competition it is evident that all tools are enabled that the children would like it.
It seems that “Pee Wee Wrestling” not an easy job for the coaches as kids are too young.
 
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Wrestling is a noble sport, it builds the character.

I’m from Eastern Europe.(Ukraine)
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Yeah, wrestling just doesn’t have the same level of “prestige” here as it does in Eastern Europe. I mean, kids do it, but no where near same levels of young kids that do baseball, soccer, basketball, swimming, etc.

And around me, more kids drive 1-2 hours on the weekends to be on a ski team than wrestle.
 
I know one friend who believes that humanity lives in a time of great apostasy.
It seems to me that he belongs to the militant Christians, which skeptics call Christiopathic, (something like psychopathic)
Its an extreme form of militant Christianity.
They often hold prayers opposite abortion clinics.
He says: “ora et labora”- pray and work!..and believes that Christians; men and women, should mobilize themselves not only by the spiritual weapons in the hands, but also by the real weapon and skills of martial arts.
Luke 22:36…“and if you don’t have a sword, sell your cloak and buy one.”
In his opinion , the Muslim invasion is a real danger of the future of Europe, and this is what is happening in the Мiddle East and North Africa also awaits Europe.
I do not know about Europe, but in such countries as - Israel, Kurdistan, Ukraine, girls really study the possession of weapons and martial arts of hand-to-hand combat.
 
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I personally believe that we should not interfere one with the other, and in the civilized Western world there is no danger of being conquered, etc
but power sports really have a lot of positive.
I think that even grades in school have children better if they are engaged in power sports and not sitting day and night with computers.
Only bullies and hooligans on the street show the force, and wrestlers show it on trainings, and on the street they are modest and polite.
Where the average person will manifest the instinct of self-preservation and fear, the wrestler won’t allow to offend the defenseless person and will show courage to condemn evil.
The successful pursuit of victory on the wrestling Mat in his youth, will help later to achieve goals in other areas of life at mature age.
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Those parents may want their son to be in a contact sport to learn to defend himself, but if the boy doesn’t like contact sports, he will just resent being forced to participate more and more. Yes, there are things in life people must learn and do that they don’t like, but being forced to participate in a contact sport they hate should not be one of them. Do you know if the child told his parents that he doesn’t want to participate in ANY sport, or is it just wrestling he doesn’t like? I think the parents should sit the child down, and find out what type of physical activity he would be interested in and go from there.
 
:blush:Yes, very rich people sometimes hire security agencies and personal bodyguards.
 
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