What to do when a family breaks apart (siblings fight)

[IamGroot]

Hello, I come from a pretty large family, as my Mom and Dad both have many siblings. Within the past decade on my Mom’s side, her 8 siblings have really split into 2 groups with it being a 2 against 6 kind of deal. This, of course, happened because of money and with one of my Aunts taking my Uncle to court. Since then the 2 refuse to talk to the other 6. My Mom is part of the 6. Luckily all of us nieces and nephews still get together and are trying to heal this rift. But as the years go by there’s absolutely no communication and instead still a lot of resentment and blaming both sides. Letters have been written on both sides but now I feel that both sides are just as guilty for this rift. Sadly both my grandparents have passed but they would be absolutely broken hearted because before they died our family was extremely close. Does anyone else have experience with this kind of family resentment and distancing from one another. I have made a vow never to let money or anything come between my siblings and I. Please pray for my aunts and uncles as one of the 8 has already passed and even at the funeral the groups didn’t speak.

 

[Beryllos]

I don’t have a lot of great advice except pray for them all. Pray for healing and forgiveness. I’m praying.
Our Father, who art in heaven,
hallowed be thy name;
thy kingdom come;
thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread;
and forgive us our trespasses
as we forgive those who trespass against us;
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.
Amen

 

[EasterJoy]

Pray for them, because prayer works wonders that you cannot. That, and: “Do you wish your prayer to fly toward God? Give it two wings: fasting and almsgiving.” —Saint Augustine

Otherwise, it usually takes a tragedy to bury this kind of stubbornness. If that doesn’t do it, it goes to the grave, and they get to work it out in Purgatory. They’ll not get through the narrow gate without letting it go. If they ever express some fondness for this nasty business to you personally, remind them of that: that is, they won’t live forever, and won’t have forever to make up with each other, and they won’t get to take this enmity to Heaven, either. The older we get, the more we are prone to take those truths seriously. If one wants to mend and is getting no cooperation from their siblings, point them to prayer, fasting and almsgiving, too.