What to do when you are stressed out?

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Hey,

Heres a question for you all: what do you all do to help calm yourself down when afraid,stressed out or lonely??
I am having a bad day today. It has been very stressful and upsetting. I feel lonely right now. I have been reciting the rosary and reading my bible trying to find comfort.
What else can I do help calm myself down and relax?
 
Jet,
You might want to get out and go for a walk if the weather allows. Look around at nature and seek beauty in the world. It always lifts my spirits to be outside in the fresh air. You could even say your Rosary as you walk.

Hope you are feeling better soon. May God bless you and guide you. 🙂
 
jet100 said:
Hey,

Heres a question for you all: what do you all do to help calm yourself down when afraid,stressed out or lonely??
I am having a bad day today. It has been very stressful and upsetting. I feel lonely right now. I have been reciting the rosary and reading my bible trying to find comfort.
What else can I do help calm myself down and relax?
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Laying on the bed with my dogs, knitting, crocheting (It doesn’t matter if you’re a guy or a gal, it’s still repetitive and relaxing), praying…I have a pretty cool view, so, sitting out on the front or back porch. Spending time with a pet or other animal usually calms me like nothing else. Walking in a field. Take a warm/hot bath.

If you’re at work or something and stressing out, or otherwise panicking, try counting backwards from 100.

Inhale for 3 quickly, and exhale for 8 very slowly, and repeat several times.

Try tensing up your entire body and slowly, relax, part by part until you’re all relaxed.

I really liked this to help with anxiety. Maybe you might like it too.
 
This can help if it’s an ongoing problem. I was trained in biofeedback (as a patient, not a therapist :o ).

I have one of these and honestly, it’s as good as any biofeedback machine. I had a series of back surgeries and every time I got really stressed and scared. My surgeon was starting to get a bit upset with me. Before the third surgery I used this ring and concentrated and prayed and just tried to relax and think about past events that have been especially happy (for me it was playing on the beach with my dog).

The surgeon and anaesthesiologist were trying it on to see how it worked.

I highly recommend it. It’s amazing how much conscious control we have over what we think is unconscious.

I’m just throwing this in for what it’s worth. BTW, I noticed it’s on sale so I’ve ordered a new one. I have a tendency to lose things.

Oh, one more thing: This is NOT a mood ring. Mood rings are a fad. This is a serious tool used in biofeedback. My therapist gave me my first ring. It’s not for play.

Good luck!
 
Rephrasing the words of a certain fictional pirate… when I’m stressed, I confess that I grab my PSP, pick up a violent game and then hack, slash, slaughter, and otherwise pilfer me weasly, black guts out. 😛

I find adrenaline is a nice way to flush out all those feelings of exhaustion and restlessness. 😛
 
Hi jet100;

I just love this verse,
Philippians 4

4Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! 5Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. 6Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 8Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 9Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

Blessings

Eric
 
Eric_Hyom said:
Hi jet100;

I just love this verse,
Philippians 4

4Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! 5Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. 6Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 8Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 9Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

Blessings

Eric
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I recite this verse to myself all the time 🙂
 
jet100 said:
Hey,

Heres a question for you all: what do you all do to help calm yourself down when afraid,stressed out or lonely??
I am having a bad day today. It has been very stressful and upsetting. I feel lonely right now. I have been reciting the rosary and reading my bible trying to find comfort.
What else can I do help calm myself down and relax?
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I have three cats. I listen to classical music. I solve Sudoku.🤓
 
Hello jet,

If Philippians 4 has a meaning for you, then you could try this prayer link, it is for helping people recover from emotional and alcohol problems.

http://www.cyberrecovery.net/forums/showthread.php?t=1802

If you seek that inner peace that transcends all understanding, help others find peace.

You might try doing some voluntary work, in helping others, you also seem to help yourself

blessings

Eric
 
jet100 said:
Hey,

Heres a question for you all: what do you all do to help calm yourself down when afraid,stressed out or lonely??
I am having a bad day today. It has been very stressful and upsetting. I feel lonely right now. I have been reciting the rosary and reading my bible trying to find comfort.
What else can I do help calm myself down and relax?
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pray. the rosary works best for me and in fact I returned to the rosary during just such a time. If you are afraid, cast all your fears on Jesus Christ, if you are said, mourn with his Mother, the sorrowful mysteries are great for this. If you are lonely, meditate on the agony in the garden. then eat a healthy but light supper, do some physical exercise like housework–cleaning closets and drawers is the classic. If you can get out find somebody to serve, to help. If not, pray for someone else, all those who are lonely, stressed and upset tonight.
 
Prayer, of course, and hobbies. It is good to have several interests such as reading, crafts, gardening, etc. that can refresh your mind.

When I feel overwhelmed I set up my kitchen table for a couple of hours of craft time. (making greeting cards with real pressed flowers, and small mosaics for gifts).

It is good to put some sacred music on a CD while doing this.

We all need re-creation!

And keep remembering to give to the Lord what it is that is causing the stress.
 
Disclaimer: I have suffered from severe clinical depression, anxiety, and alcoholism. I pray you aren’t at that point, but if these practices helped me to experience joy, they could help just about anyone!
  1. The serenity prayer: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
  2. Talk to God. The rosary is essential. What I was missing was the personal. See the Practice of the Presence of God by Brother Lawrence. I used to pray “please God make “x” better in such and such a way”. My wife taught me to pray like this: “God, I know you love me, and I know you will take care of this problem in your own way and on your time. I trust you, and I love you too.” This has helped me to learn to keep an ongoing conversation with God throughout the day, even out loud when I am alone. When a loving God is on my mind, it is hard to be stressed.
  3. Find a human confidant whom you can trust. Share everything, especially the “crazy” stuff. Unverbalized thoughts can become poisonous.
  4. Make a gratitudes list. Read it.
  5. Do a worst case analysis. Anything you can do to prepare or mitigate (reasonably?). Do that and turn the rest over to God.
Above all, don’t forget that God loves you. He loves you. He always loves you. He loves you even when you sin. He loves you because He made you. He loves you because that’s what He does. Run to His arms. Run to Mary. Be a child in their arms. It will all be ok.

God bless you.
 
there’s a terrific puzzle game “Portal” that is being offered for free on Steam until May 24th … may occupy you for a few hours 😃 … gaming is a general favorite to unwind.

However, in all honesty, prayer is the way to go. Make time to go to Church / adoration / pray the rosary / spiritual reading … let God know straight up what’s troubling you and ask Him to help you find a solution. Maybe you need to direct your energies into something positive, maybe consider teaching CCD or volunteering for a good cause.

Here’s some spiritual reading I enjoyed, maybe you will find it comforting:
olrl.org/snt_docs/trustful/
 
Thank you all for your amazing help… I am going to read that online book. I do practice the presence of God daily, the rosary brings me the best comfort. When i’m upset I will just start saying hail marys and our fathers for comfort.
I’m doing alot of spiritual reading and trying to find comfort in Our Lord.
I am discerning a vocation right now to the church and it’s really hard not to get lost in this world.
 
LWOTF said:
Disclaimer: I have suffered from severe clinical depression, anxiety, and alcoholism. I pray you aren’t at that point, but if these practices helped me to experience joy, they could help just about anyone!
  1. The serenity prayer: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
  2. Talk to God. The rosary is essential. What I was missing was the personal. See the Practice of the Presence of God by Brother Lawrence. I used to pray “please God make “x” better in such and such a way”. My wife taught me to pray like this: “God, I know you love me, and I know you will take care of this problem in your own way and on your time. I trust you, and I love you too.” This has helped me to learn to keep an ongoing conversation with God throughout the day, even out loud when I am alone. When a loving God is on my mind, it is hard to be stressed.
  3. Find a human confidant whom you can trust. Share everything, especially the “crazy” stuff. Unverbalized thoughts can become poisonous.
  4. Make a gratitudes list. Read it.
  5. Do a worst case analysis. Anything you can do to prepare or mitigate (reasonably?). Do that and turn the rest over to God.
Above all, don’t forget that God loves you. He loves you. He always loves you. He loves you even when you sin. He loves you because He made you. He loves you because that’s what He does. Run to His arms. Run to Mary. Be a child in their arms. It will all be ok.

God bless you.
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everything you said to do. It does work and help calm you down… Thank you!
 
One more suggestion: Go over to the Prayer Intentions forum and pray for other people’s intentions. Pray for the Pope’s intentions, your spouse’s intentions, your neighbors’ intentions, total strangers…it helps get you out of your own head 👍

-MM-
 
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