What to do with my invalid marriage stuff?

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Hi everyone:wave:,

I’m in the process of reorganizing my house and I’m coming across a lot of things from my so-called “wedding.” I have no idea what to do with it, including my wedding dress, shoes, veil, rings, etc. Not to mention the pictures and video:banghead: :hypno:.

Has anyone had to do this? I just don’t know what I should do with all these things. I know that whatever is personalized needs to be trashed, whose gonna want something with someone else’s name and wedding date on it:ehh: :rotfl:. My issue is with all the other stuff.

Your help and suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!! My dress was custom made and absolutely gorgeous, about a size 8 for anyone who may be interested:D.
 
The dress, you could sell it, or - you could donate it to a convent or even to your Parish. I’d bet that the Parish has brides who cannot afford a dress and would be thrilled that the Parish had one available.

The rings, again, if you do not NEED the money, donate them to a worthy cause.
 
Don’t have any different suggestions for you really, just sympathizing. My dress mercifully disappeared somehow. I left it at my parents’, and when I asked for it, they said I had taken it with me. Just glad I don’t have to deal with the what to do with it question. Thrift stores are full of wedding dresses, so I wouldn’t feel to strange about donating it.

I do know some women who have had their wedding rings remade into other pieces of jewelery. I don’t think this would appeal to me. There was one day that I came pretty close to throwing mine away at a trash can at a fast food restuarant, but ended up deciding that was a bit dramatic. I’ll probably hold onto it and see if my daughter wants to turn it into some other piece of jewelery. Why don’t you see if maybe your mom or another relative would like to do that?
 
Dress/shoes/veil…easy…sell or donate and be rid of it. If you can’t imagine resetting the rings/stones and enjoying the jewelry–you could try a couple of different things. If the jewelry is high quality/valuable, you can sell it–or–use it as trade for value at a good jeweler for something else you would enjoy, for something for your son, or perhaps make a donation in Fatima’s name to someone in need/a cause you feel passionate about.
 
I don’t understand. Is/was your husband the problem or the wedding ceremony invalid and you don’t want to be reminded of it?
 
I sold my wedding dress, tossed the rings in the collection plate at church, and burned all the congratulations cards in the fire pit. I still have the head piece because I made it myself and it is pretty. I’m not sure my daughter will want to wear it some day, but am keeping it just in case. I still have the wedding pictures because the kids might want to see them some day, although it’s very tempting to attack them with a pair of scissors. My sense of vanity is keeping from doing this however, because I was a beautiful bride.😃
 
Here is a crazy thought: If you have kids and are willing to tell them about the marriage and want to encourage them to do better… See if you can get a jewler to remake the jewlry into pendants for each child; a token that you hope they will have a happy successfull marriage. Along the lines of the pheonix myth. destroying a token of the bad times and using the remains to create a symbol of new hope for the future.
 
I’d sell it on ebaby and use the proceeds to do something fun with my kids
 
My dress is at Mom’s and I’ve asked her to give it to someone at the church who needs one. I didn’t have the emotional energy to think about selling it. I gave my veil to a friend who is rebuilding it for her wedding. The jewelry, some of it I sold, some is at the bank. Last year I couldn’t imagine having it reset and being able to let it touch my skin again. (it was basically hush-money jewelry) This year I’m getting over the heebies about that. Maybe in another few years I’ll have a pendant made, I had a really nice diamond and it’s a shame to waste it, I suppose.

The photo album, strangely, I still have and want to keep. I knew and respected the photographer, photography is a hobby of mine, and I consider the album art. I’m able to look at it with some detachment. The framed photo of me by myself in my gown I plan to hang in my house! I was that girl one day, with all those naive hopes, and that is real and true. I’m still proud of myself in that photo…I had good intentions, I was just very stupid. Stupidity I can forgive. 😃
 
Somewhere on one of these postings I saw a link to a website that takes old wedding dresses and makes burial garments for stillborn babies. I think it would be very nice if you donated your old wedding dress to this organization so maybe something good would come from something that’s obviously very painful for you. I’m on my way out of town. I think I have the link on my work computer. I’d be glad to send it out when I get back on Monday if you’re interested in doing that – or maybe someone else remembers the link.
 
Nanny_PK said:
Somewhere on one of these postings I saw a link to a website that takes old wedding dresses and makes burial garments for stillborn babies. I think it would be very nice if you donated your old wedding dress to this organization so maybe something good would come from something that’s obviously very painful for you. I’m on my way out of town. I think I have the link on my work computer. I’d be glad to send it out when I get back on Monday if you’re interested in doing that – or maybe someone else remembers the link.
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Yes, I remember this thread too, but don’t have the link. I think CatholicSam might have been the one who posted it…maybe you can PM her?
 
The wedding photos I would tuck away and keep. You do have a child with this man and your son may want to see or even keep them.
The other stuff can be donated or sold.
 
rayne89 said:
The wedding photos I would tuck away and keep. You do have a child with this man and your son may want to see or even keep them.
The other stuff can be donated or sold.
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Gosh, Lexee, I can’t imagine how hard this is…:hug1:

If I were you I’d get rid of your dress–donate it or sell it like other posters have said. 👍

I don’t know if I’d keep the wedding bands…you could sell them and put the money in your son’s savings. 👍

I’d keep at least some of the photos as Rayne suggested. Maybe not all of them, but the ones that your son might like to see someday. 👍

Just because your marriage wasn’t valid, doesn’t mean the wedding didn’t happen and two beautiful babies came out of all the problems. It’s a part of your son’s life, so think about holding on to some of the photos…
 
kevinsgirl said:
I’d keep at least some of the photos as Rayne suggested. Maybe not all of them, but the ones that your son might like to see someday. 👍

Just because your marriage wasn’t valid, doesn’t mean the wedding didn’t happen and two beautiful babies came out of all the problems. It’s a part of your son’s life, so think about holding on to some of the photos…
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Absolutely agree and left this out of my post. It was part of your life too…as well as your son’s. You likely have shots of extended family as well that would be nice to have…keep the photos.
 
Top ten things to do with annulled marriage stuff:
  1. Have a bon-fire.
  2. Mail it to your former Mother-In-Law.
  3. Donate it to your local St. Vincent de Paul society.
  4. Put it all in the composter.
  5. Put on your old annulled wedding garb and go paint balling
  6. Practice your skeet shooting skills with it.
  7. Have a garage sale and when people ask, “Is THIS for sale?” Say, “No, it’s free.”
  8. Use the garments to test various commercial strain removal products so you know which is the best one to buy.
  9. Old wedding rings are the perfect size to place in your basement dart board’s bulls-eye ring for that extra added flair.
And the number one thing to do with old annulled wedding stuff is:
  1. Take the old wedding dress and make several baptismal gowns out of it and then give them to people in your parish.
 
Lexee, my mom kept her wedding dress but I guess when we moved form Mexico to here she either sold it, gave it away or threw it out.

The wedding pix, she kept them for us. My sister has them. I wish I had some of them because they are beautiful pictures… oh, and my mom kept some where she is on them with her relatives.

But I wanted to say, the thing about donating your dress to the still born baby thing is a great idea. here’s the link to the thread, the link to that site is on there.

forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?t=206807&highlight=donate+wedding+gown

As far as the jewelry, you could donate them to your Parish so someone who cannot afford them can use them?
 
b_justb said:
Top ten things to do with annulled marriage stuff:
  1. Have a bon-fire.
  2. Mail it to your former Mother-In-Law.
  3. Donate it to your local St. Vincent de Paul society.
  4. Put it all in the composter.
  5. Put on your old annulled wedding garb and go paint balling
  6. Practice your skeet shooting skills with it.
  7. Have a garage sale and when people ask, “Is THIS for sale?” Say, “No, it’s free.”
  8. Use the garments to test various commercial strain removal products so you know which is the best one to buy.
  9. Old wedding rings are the perfect size to place in your basement dart board’s bulls-eye ring for that extra added flair.
And the number one thing to do with old annulled wedding stuff is:
  1. Take the old wedding dress and make several baptismal gowns out of it and then give them to people in your parish.
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:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:!!!
 
The city where I used to live had a home for the blind, and they had a thrift shop. I gave my wedding dress to them, because I figured I was a blind fool when I married my ex. 😃 The headpiece went into the trash; it was quite simple and no one would have wanted it. The wedding band went to the pawn shop, and I traded the engagement ring in on a lovely cocktail ring. We didn’t have professional photos, so that wasn’t a problem. My mother still has some of my wedding photos in her album, but that’s her business as long as they aren’t displayed. We had no children, so there is no one to pass those along to.
 
Question: if a ring is blessed, can it still be sold?
I’d assume so, but I don’t know the rules…
 
SarahR said:
Question: if a ring is blessed, can it still be sold?
I’d assume so, but I don’t know the rules…
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The blessing is not sold, only the ring. The person is allowed to recoup the monetary value of the blessed item (remember, people have houses blessed, and they are still free to sell that house).
 
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