What to do with oogling men?

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BlestOne:
I think a woman with long hair naturally attracts attention because it is rare to see these days…sad because it is really a very feminine and beautiful thing to see.
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I think you’re right. My second daughter, in eighth grade now, has very long hair – can’t quite sit on it yet – and it is noticeable. Fortunately she hasn’t had any of these sorts of problems. I think there are a lot of people who need their mouths washed out with soap and a cold shower. You and Michelle are talking beyond noticeable; it’s probably well I have not witnessed such behavior so as to spare me from judging.

Alan
 
MichelleTherese ~~~~

I understand your situation, I have the same one with my body because I have really low body fat and my muscles are super defined. People always comment and stare if I am wearing anything that bares legs, arms, or shoulders. It makes you feel icky and naked.

But I understand what people say when they say they are admiring in a pure way. I just say thank you and try to make a joke out if it somehow. I just say something like, “I’ll be this way till the steriods wear off at least”…

BTW… at my grocery store there is this checker who has the most amazing hair. After oogling for months I finally just had to tell her that her hair is incredible. We are such bumblers aren’t we?
 
Michelle…i cant take it anymore!!! how long is your hair for pete’s sake!!! 😃
 
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martino:
Michelle…i cant take it anymore!!! how long is your hair for pete’s sake!!! 😃
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Thanks for asking first, martino. I thought I would explode! :rolleyes:

Alan
 
Daniel Marsh:
I have the same problem with my body. And, I just say thank you and I am happily married. and, quickly move on.

I think it has something to do with that story were the lady lowers her hair from the tower so that her beloved can climb up. But, the time it takes the hair to grow long enough to reach the ground from the tower window, the beloved would be too old to climb.
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you have long beautiful hair on your body???http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_35_7.gif:rolleyes:
 
I’m trying not to crack up too much reading the last few post here!

I don’t like attention drawn to myself because I get ambarresed easily, but whenever I go out I get lots of commemts on my hair, too.
Maybe they like your hair because it’s something different. It’s very trendy to have really straight hair right now so it seems that a lot of people are styling it that way. Maybe I missed this, but is your hair really long, or a really different color, or very thick and wavy?
My hair is very curly, so if I haven’t washed it yet and I have to go somewhere, I just try to “arrange” it a little before leaving (combing would make it worse). It’s a riot because that’s when I get most of the compliments. I just got back from the doctor and when checking out the lady said something like “if it seems like I stare at you alot it’s because of your hair”. And men seem to really like it, but I’m sure it’s because it’s just different. There are two categories- old women (don’t mean to offend if anyone that considers themselves"old" is reading this 🙂 and men really like it. But women about my age really seem to like it when it’s straightened out…
Anyway though, I don’t think that I could ever permanently straighten it because the curly hair is like my trademark. Whenever my husband wants to find me in a store he just looks for the hair!
-Tamara
 
From behind my bunker, I notice that this thread started out all formal and stuff, and then degenerated later. Michelle’s experience in real-life is that the hair issue hits up front.

There seems to be some sort of reverse osmosis tachyon field here that is making this thread behave in the opposite manner from “real life.” Maybe that’s why I like it here at CAF … escape, escape, escape! :whacky:

Alan
 
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AlanFromWichita:
From behind my bunker, I notice that this thread started out all formal and stuff, and then degenerated later. Michelle’s experience in real-life is that the hair issue hits up front.

There seems to be some sort of reverse osmosis tachyon field here that is making this thread behave in the opposite manner from “real life.” Maybe that’s why I like it here at CAF … escape, escape, escape! :whacky:

Alan
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anyone here know what alan is talking about?? 😃
 
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martino:
anyone here know what alan is talking about?? 😃
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Apparently not. :confused:

Thanks for asking, though. Now I know I must not have been sufficiently clear. 🙂

Alan
 
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AlanFromWichita:
Apparently not. :confused:

Thanks for asking, though. Now I know I must not have been sufficiently clear. 🙂

Alan
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sorry, alan, i couldnt help but mess with you a little!! 🙂

but we are both still waiting for an answer to our question!!!
 
I was once young and lovely… 😉

I still have long, beautiful hair, down to my waist. to keep it out of my way, I usually wear it in a long braid down my back, and rarely hear anything about it. But on the rare occasions when I wear it down, I do get compliments.

So my first suggestion is, wear a braid.

My second suggestion is the following phrase: “Thank you… excuse me, I’ve got (work, shopping, studying) to do.”

Take an honest look at your hair compared to the world.

The fashion in hair today seems to be to make it as ugly as possible. I feel both amusement and grief that women are spending money at the salon to get hair that looks like they just got out of bed. Or that they haven’t washed it in years. I’m just waiting for the “beauty” industry to come out with a product for instant split ends.

So just the fact that your hair is clean, neat, and long may make it stand out. And if it’s exceptionally lovely on top of that, then you are going to get compliments. So practice that phrase I gave you.

Oh, another thing about the braid, it also sort of keeps my hair for my husband, who finds it very sexy.
 
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martino:
sorry, alan, i couldnt help but mess with you a little!! 🙂

but we are both still waiting for an answer to our question!!!
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You’re sure right about that! I have seen some nice long hair before, but any hair that gets men acting like that for upwards of 15 minutes is something that, well, enquiring minds want to know about!

Either that or the men were drunken pigs to begin with so they were lucky to keep on topic for that long! :rolleyes:

No problem with keeping me aware I was not clear – that worked as well as anything to bump the thread. 😃

Alan
 
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Ruthie:
The fashion in hair today seems to be to make it as ugly as possible. I feel both amusement and grief that women are spending money at the salon to get hair that looks like they just got out of bed. Or that they haven’t washed it in years. I’m just waiting for the “beauty” industry to come out with a product for instant split ends.
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LOL! I can see it now! The “can’t believe I paid this much to look this bad” look!

Alan
 
Why don’t you wear it “up” - in a bun, french twist, looped ponytail etc.? Or wear a hat - either way would attract less attention than a head covering…
 
Michelle,

A woman’s hair is her crowning glory. Don’t become vain over it. Thank God for it. Thank God for the men who aren’t oogling other parts of your body. Wearing a head covering is a wonderful thing to do which men will appreciate. It isn’t about you. It’s about God.

CDL
 
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GregoryPalamas:
Don’t become vain over it. Thank God for it.
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Exactly. Vanity is silly–it’s taking personal credit for God’s work.
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MichelleTherese:
That and I’m also trying to avoid VANITY. Do you know how easy it is to get full of yourself when folk go on and on about something that is great about you?
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Who is really responsible for this incredible hair of yours?
Think about this: someone paints a beautiful picture and gifts it to you. You display it in a prominent place in your home. When people come to visit you, they praise the beauty of this painting, and go on and on about how amazing it is. Do you get all proud of it and say
“why yes, it *is *a very beautiful painting. Aren’t I great, I display it for your viewing pleasure and take such good care of it!”?
Or are you going to refer the admirers to the artist and praise him/her instead?
 
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MichelleTherese:
I have an annoying problem which has led me to decide to cover my hair like I’m some kind of Amish woman. (I’ve already been asked once if I’m a Mennonite…) It’s my hair: men just can’t keep their eyes off of it and the older the man is the more verbal he gets about how “beautiful” my hair is etc etc. I’ll be in a public place and it’s like someone turns on a spotlight - it makes me very uncomfortable.
Can hair cause men to lust?? Am I doing something wrong by wearing my hair uncovered and “making” men oogle it?? I like my hair but GEE WIZ guys! Lay off!! Even fellow women go nutty over it - and that gets me all vain and feeling pretty and before you know it I get a chip on my shoulder…
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It might help if you stop looking to see who’s looking at you. Sometimes when we think we have a certain attribute, we subconsciously try to read others to see if they agree with our own high opinion of ourselves. If you are looking at some guy to see if he’s looking at you, and you make eye contact…he may percieve that as you flirting with him. Then of course he’ll make an attempt to talk to you.Don’t worry about what others think of your hair…but when you start to think too much of it, think of God instead.
 
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