What was your trauma, and How have you got over it?

[littleone]

I have had so many traumas that it is hard to say which was the worst. I guess the murder of a daughter would be one of the worst. But I think the worst for me was having our Lord tell my wife of the past that the people she was listening to were out of order and that soon they would leave the church and that to prove their right I as the leader of the prayer group should also leave. But I knew that they were wrong. But my wife left the church and followed them.

Latter she wanted to do a nursing course which she had my blessing. The crunch came when she would come home for the weekend and start on me. She would tell me I was a useless husband father and lover, and that the children hated me. This happened over years to the point where my friends and son who played cards would just be playing and she would come out yelling that we shouldn’t talk about her.

I started getting head aches and they turned into migraine. Every Friday when she was coming home I would get a migraine at the thought of her coming home.
In the end I told her I was going to seek help and that it would probably take about 2 years for me to come right. But I knew I couldn’t stay in the house so I left and took 10 years to heal.

I am now free and I wonder what you have found has helped in your healing.

My healing started when I realised that in the bible and rosary when we speak about the cross of Christ we speak of healing. So over years as I prayed I realized that the cross meant “forgiveness”. I asked Jesus to forgive me for my sins since I am the principal in the situation, and then to forgive my wife for her part in the situation (knowing that this was NOT a blame situation) but a setting free situation.

I told Jesus that I forgave her friends for their part and then I realized that if I lay these situations down at the feet of Jesus Christ on the cross they would be His. And then I nailed that part of my life to the Cross of Jesus. Then I realized that I would be giving them over to Him. To Jesus because that is the very reason why He came to die for us. To take on the sins of the world. You know, in givig them over to Jesus on the Cross I know these things happened but not one of these things hurts now. And I went over to Ausse a couple of weeks back and with my daughters children and also my past wife and our daughter, we had a BBQ that had NO animosity at all. Praise God, a full stop on that part of my life.

And it all happened because Jesus showed the power of the Cross. Remember Jesus said “I make all things new”! also that it is on the Cross that death happens to our past. And how fare are they taken, Jesus said “as fare as the ears is to the west”.
( that represents for ever).:yup:
Wow

God bless
littleone

 

[Margaret33]

littleone,

You might want to post this in an identical active thread at:
forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?t=149895

Hope this helps,
Margaret

 

[RWMorris]

I had an incident (work-related) that led to PTSS with reactive psychosis. I would see things or think of things that weren’t there. With psychiatric help and with prayer I have slowly gotten much better and now am at work again. But it took two years to get over.

 

[littleone]

I had an incident (work-related) that led to PTSS with reactive psychosis. I would see things or think of things that weren’t there. With psychiatric help and with prayer I have slowly gotten much better and now am at work again. But it took two years to get over.

It can be quite easy to fall into situations like this at times it seems, and then again very hard to get out of. You have gained composure very rapidly good for you.
God bless littleone