I strongly agree. Additionally, I would like to see stronger oversight in the area of catechetical instruction by our bishops. It has been really sad to see the watering down of the faith these past forty to fifty years.
In addition to working with RCIA, I also work with Returning Catholics.
Catechesis is part of the problem. But it is simplistic to blame a whole lot on that; no one has yet convinced me that the people I see returning would not have left because of the issue of catechesis.
My own experience is that people leave for a multitude of reasons. In my own extended family, I have on one side of my family 6 cousins out of 11 that have left the Church (the youngest is in their 40’s); and all but one of them that left was in what we used to call a m"mixed marriage"; I would attribute each of them leaving to spouses who were stronger in their faith (coupled with issues of anger with the Church over some issues, such as the Pill); the other one left after a divorce that soured him on the Church.
Just my own personal opinion (but based on something more than just opinion - it is called “evidence”), but I suspect the number one issue has to do with sexual morals. as in, the Church teaches one thing, and society teaches another, and what society teaches sounds like a lot more fun.
And from what I have seen and heard, the second issue is what some nun or priest said, or is allged to have said. People get mad, and split. Granted that we can talk about catechesis till we are blue in the face; but you can say all you want to someone about the Eucharist, and when they get a head of steam up, they will leave. It may be the Eucharist that finally draws them back, but it sure doesn’t seem to slow them down when they are leaving.
Third is what I call the “siren call”, the attractiveness some people find, especially in the evangelical churches which have a very active social attraction. manfy people find the Catholic Church (meaning the peiople in the parish) to be cold and distant; they go to Mass and split. They are not friendly to you when you arrive, and seemingly can’t wait to get away from you when they leave. People who have left and come back remark about how friendly our parish is; so do people who started looking for a home parish, and chose ours over several other suburban parishes. and people have commented that they joined another church because of getting a constant “cold shoulder”.
Fourt is those who leave because they saw a vibrant snes of love for Scripture in one of the evangelical churches, and couldn’t find that in the parish they were in. I always find that an interesting indictment.
The list goes on and on. How many kids go to college, and 1) get too busy, 2) get into sex, drugs and rock & roll, 3) rebell against their perception of dominating parents, 4) add your comment here… and simply don’t get back? It is jsut too easy to not go to Mass, whehn that requires effort, particularly at a time of such great peer influence.