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wacky_wonderful
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Besides relocating to another area, what would it take to make you leave your church? To what lengths would you go to in order to remain a parishoner? How loyal are you?
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asquared
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We always attend our geographic parish, since we are members of the Catholic community in that locale and would have to have an overriding reason to abandon our neighbors. The only thing that would do it would be an openly heretical, invalid teaching and administration of the sacraments on the part of the pastor and those assisting him. Even then I would not leave, but take formal steps to go through channels in addressing the abuse.
personal preference in the matter of the personality of the priest, type of music, decoration and architectural style of the church, quality of the sound system, conflicts with lay persons in positions of leadership, do not arise when it comes to “choosing” a parish. The parish is chosen by virtue of the fact that I live there.
personal preference in the matter of the personality of the priest, type of music, decoration and architectural style of the church, quality of the sound system, conflicts with lay persons in positions of leadership, do not arise when it comes to “choosing” a parish. The parish is chosen by virtue of the fact that I live there.
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Karin
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We just left our parish(10 minutes away) for another one 1/2hour away.
We left for several reasons…the COnfirmation program my son was enrolled in was a bunch of “quack” (basically all Sacrament programs where “quack”) and the second reason was that it was such a large Church no one knew anyone and you where lucky if the Priest knew who you where! Last the homilies where filled with such hooey that you never got anything out of them…the new parish is the total opposite of what the old parish was!
We left for several reasons…the COnfirmation program my son was enrolled in was a bunch of “quack” (basically all Sacrament programs where “quack”) and the second reason was that it was such a large Church no one knew anyone and you where lucky if the Priest knew who you where! Last the homilies where filled with such hooey that you never got anything out of them…the new parish is the total opposite of what the old parish was!
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Dorothy
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Good reason for leaving! Now if parishioners of that parish started leaving in droves then the bishop would have to wonder why…and hopefully look into it.
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aurora77
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I’ve been in my parish for 5 years. During our first year of marriage, we lived in another town and it took us 40 minutes to get here, but we came anyway. The only reason I would ever leave my parish would be if I moved far, far away.
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Firebug
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I’m not very loyal. 
Sometimes I will go to the church that is 2 minutes away, sometimes to the church that is 30 minutes away, and sometimes to the church that is an hour away…I like to move around a lot. 
Sometimes I will go to the church that is 2 minutes away, sometimes to the church that is 30 minutes away, and sometimes to the church that is an hour away…I like to move around a lot.
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stbruno
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As a deacon, I could get transferred. But where ever I am called to serve, I am ready.
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Wolseley
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I’m kind of the opposite of asquared. We live about 10 minutes from a small Catholic parish that I suppose we’re actually within the jurisdiction of, but we choose to drive a half-hour into the city to attend another parish that’s much more orthodox.
The small parish 10 minutes away has liturgical abuses until you can’t see over them—one thing after another. The music is provided by three aging hippies (a male cantor, a woman with a guitar, and another man with a harmonica). The priest is decidedly effeminate, right down to his gestures and his manner of speaking, complete with (God forgive me, this will stir up controversy) a limp wrist with a constant “G’wan!” gesture and a lisp. The church itself is modern, but it at least looks like a church, which is more than you can say for some others I’ve been in.
The parish we attend in the city has a priest that is extremely careful about following the rubrics; the church was built in 1875 and looks like a Catholic church is supposed to look. The music is nothing much to brag on----the organist is not that good and has a repertoire of 15 songs that she plays over…and over…and over…and over; but at least it’s done with an organ and a choir and not by Peter Paul and Mary backed by Three Dog Night. (“Groovy, man—like wow, can you dig the colors? Copic!”)
So all in all, what it takes for me to leave a parish is a simple case of the parish ignoring Vatican II and instead, embracing “The Spirit of Vatican II”. I know my kind of attitude infuriates some people, but I have a 4-year old son whose spiritual welfare I am responsible for, and I will be hanged if I will have him growing up thinking some of these para-Catholic semi-liturgical dog-and-pony shows (not to mention the swishy nature of the priest) are the norm for Catholics.
Oh, and by the way—as Fr. Benedict Groeshel has stated, if you ever meet the “Spirit of Vatican II”, do us all a favor and drive a wooden stake through its heart.
We live about 10 minutes from a small Catholic parish that I suppose we’re actually within the jurisdiction of, but we choose to drive a half-hour into the city to attend another parish that’s much more orthodox.The small parish 10 minutes away has liturgical abuses until you can’t see over them—one thing after another. The music is provided by three aging hippies (a male cantor, a woman with a guitar, and another man with a harmonica). The priest is decidedly effeminate, right down to his gestures and his manner of speaking, complete with (God forgive me, this will stir up controversy) a limp wrist with a constant “G’wan!” gesture and a lisp. The church itself is modern, but it at least looks like a church, which is more than you can say for some others I’ve been in.
The parish we attend in the city has a priest that is extremely careful about following the rubrics; the church was built in 1875 and looks like a Catholic church is supposed to look. The music is nothing much to brag on----the organist is not that good and has a repertoire of 15 songs that she plays over…and over…and over…and over; but at least it’s done with an organ and a choir and not by Peter Paul and Mary backed by Three Dog Night. (“Groovy, man—like wow, can you dig the colors? Copic!”)
So all in all, what it takes for me to leave a parish is a simple case of the parish ignoring Vatican II and instead, embracing “The Spirit of Vatican II”. I know my kind of attitude infuriates some people, but I have a 4-year old son whose spiritual welfare I am responsible for, and I will be hanged if I will have him growing up thinking some of these para-Catholic semi-liturgical dog-and-pony shows (not to mention the swishy nature of the priest) are the norm for Catholics.
Oh, and by the way—as Fr. Benedict Groeshel has stated, if you ever meet the “Spirit of Vatican II”, do us all a favor and drive a wooden stake through its heart.
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KCT
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We left a parish because the pastor constantly quoted the Catholic Reporter and gave blessings, “In the name of the Father and the Mother and the Holy Spirit.” (why he left out the Son, I don’t understand)
Once the folk group announced that the pastor had agreed to change the gospel reading so the new reading would go with their favorite song, “The Woman at the Well.” (You read correctly - the pastor changed the gospel reading to fit better w/ a song.) —KCT
Once the folk group announced that the pastor had agreed to change the gospel reading so the new reading would go with their favorite song, “The Woman at the Well.” (You read correctly - the pastor changed the gospel reading to fit better w/ a song.) —KCT
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m134e5
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I will only go to a parish I know I can invite non-Catholic family members and friends to Mass with me, and not have to worry the whole time that the priest is going to say something heretical (but my family and friends would innocently think “he’s gone to seminary- he must know”) and make me have to start over in explaining my faith. I have a parish I am comfortable with now. I would leave if the priest left and was replaced with one who have questionable homilies, give questionable advice in confession, or if they ever invalidate a Mass.
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kage_ar
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Ditto.
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