What would Jesus Do? Please help!

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Yes I had a similar situation where the state and national gov’t sources wouldn’t give me much. I went to a college that cost me about ~$12,000 per year (room, board, tuition) I was able to make about $4000 per year over the summers and didn’t work during the year so I ended up getting a rather substantial loan each year from a bank. I now have a $36,000 loan to pay off (which the bank doesn’t require you to make payments on until you are finished with school) However my payments are only like $300 a month. Well worth it. Also, you can get defermnets (from making payments) for other reasons (depending on the bank) too like you are attending grad school, are laid off, become pregnant, etc.

You should check more into loans from banks. You should be able to get another (or add onto the previous years) for each year you are in college. I don’t think things can be that different in Canada. If you find out you can do this, do it. It is much better to take the loans out and pay them off when you are making more money because you have a collge education.

Good luck and God bless. You’ll be in my prayers. In the meantime I hope negotiations with the roommate go well!http://forums.catholic-questions.org/images/icons/icon7.gif
We have some messy tennants that live upstairs that we are walking a similar line. (we don’t want to nag too much or they might leave and then we would be out the $500 a month rent they pay us till we found new tennants)

-Tim
 
Maybe I should explain that last post a little…

You sound like you do not want to “rock the boat.” If that is the case, then you will have to do all the cleaning you want for your standards. But because they are your standards, then you should not hold it against your roommate that you are doing “all” the work. I’ve been there, so I do have sympathy.

But don’t let it turn your heart! Your attitude is your responsibilty, even if the dishes aren’t.

Just my humble opinoin though.
🙂 Lilder
 
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raphaela:
This may be kind of trivial but I’m having a hard time with this…So my question is…what would Jesus do in this situation …I’m at a loss. i want to be more Christ-like, but find myself losing patience!

Sorry for the length!!
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He would get Martha to do it.
 
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raphaela:
Tim,

Thank you for your answer, that is a good idea. It just gets frustrating!!

I suppose he wouldn’t just throw us out, but he’s already threatened to do so (while intoxicated though), and his parents would foot the bill if he needed it.

I live here for financial reasons. There is no possible way that I can get enough money to go to college and pay rent on my own…no way. I applied for a student loan btu OSAP is ridiculous, the estimate…700 a year. I’m gettign a loan from a bank but it’s only 10 000, and bymyself I’d go through that in a year and then would have to worry about paying two more years tuition plus a 10 000 loan. My parents wont help. so this is my only option.

I’m very strong willed, if i don’t want to have sex, i wont plain and simple and my fiance understands this. Last year I lived with 2 males (not my fiance or J) and there was no temptation whatsoever, and there isn’t here either.

I don’t believe in statistics, I never have so especiialy that one. I study it in highschool and it made no sense at all.

Thank you for all your responses. To let you know, i am considering moving out, been praying and i solution has yet to come up.
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He’s a nice guy, except he expects you to be his maid and he threatens to throw you out when he gets drunk. Hmmm. Well, okay, we all have our weak points.

I did observe a rule back when I had roommates “In the absence of house rules setting responsibility and timelines, at least 80% of all housework will be done by the roommate driven nuts by the mess first.” Having said that, I have found that training adults is a losing proposition… like trying to teach a pig to sing. You just frustrate yourself and annoy the pig.

The truth is, you need a new roommate. You and this guy are a bad fit. If, however, you can’t find a new situation, you may make life better for both of you if you propose that you keep the bathroom clean and do all of the dishes that are actually stacked by the sink in return for a cut in the rent. After all, you do need the money, and even slobs like to have dishes available to eat from. It may end up working in everyone’s favor, with less resentments all around. And hey, he’s a nice guy with parents who have deep pockets but who didn’t teach him how to clean up after himself.

Jesus very well might do the dishes, but only if he could make it a gift. Jesus did not advocate becoming a passive-agressive. If you resent what he’s doing to you, then work something else out.
 
Jesus wouldn’t have gotten Himself into that situation to begin with. . .
It’s hard, but bite the bullet, move out to a boarding house or into a house with other women … and live your chastity as an example to others . . . sometimes – often – in my experience – when one does what appears to be a financial suicidal leap out of obedience to Gospel principles, that leap turns into a fantastic bungee jump which one survives and springs back beautifully – if not totally in the finance relm, even better, in the spiritual relm. my :twocents: (American).
 
Come to think of it… What would Jesus do?

I simply don’t know.
Jesus is the most mysterious man that walked the face of the earth. To say I would even attempt to know would fall too far short.
I can only tell you based on my weak humanity what I would do!👍

Fergal
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raphaela:
What i’m concerned about is with my room mate, mainly because he is the only one with his name on the lease, he’s mad at me for asking him to contribute and has the ability to kick us out if he wants too. I don’t want the dishes to be a reason for me being homeless, but I don’t want to do all the work either.

I know that you are only concerned, but spare me the lecture on living together since I have already recieved that one many a time on the forums…sorry if that sounded rude, it wasn’t meant to be, but i can’t think of another way to put it!!
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Dear Raphaela,

I’ve been homeless before. Sleeping under bridges and out in the wild. Bathing in gas station restrooms. Eating out of missions and begging on the streets. It wasn’t so bad. I remember sleeping better under park bushes and in the back seats of unlocked cars on used car lots than I do now when I know that I’ve done something to offend God.
Anyway, it’s nothing to fear. Don’t let it stop you from doing the right thing.

God bless,

Fran
 
You shouldn’t be living with your fiance and roomate shapes up or ships out!
 
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