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Fidelis
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I’d say:
"Don’t spend so much time thinking about girls, trying to impress them, or getting them to like you. Many men have wasted their time, ruined their lives, and made themselves unhappy by being obsessed with the opposite sex. Most of the girls you moon over aren’t interested, many of them aren’t worth it, and it’s just by being friendly and yourself that you’ll attract the decent ones anyway. This is how you’ll find a sweet and interesting girl. Take your time.
"Sex is wonderful, but in many ways overated as a source of happiness. Outside of marriage it is wrong and unless you have no conscience, it complicates your life and your relationships for the rest of your life. Wait for marriage: you will not be any less of a man if you do.
"Try to have fun, but don’t be foolish or reckless. Drugs are for losers and fools, and if you are either you probably shouldn’t be drinking either. If you are temperate, having a beer with good friends or other decent folks is a good thing to do occasionally. Don’t imitate the popular when they are being crude, immoral, inconsiderate or reckless.
"Eat what you want, but not too much. Get plenty of sleep, but don’t lay in bed too long. It leads to brooding and laziness. Practice good hygiene and dress appropriate to each situation.
"Read as many good books as you can, but do other things as well. Expand your interests and you will meet interesting and nice people. Go outside when you can, especially if the weather is nice. Television and video games are OK, but they will stunt your intellectual growth if that’s all you do, or even if it is your automatic default when you are bored. Don’t believe everything you hear, especially in school or in the media. If something disturbs you or doesn’t seem right, verify with a reliable source.
"Be moral, but do not be a prig. People will (eventually) respect you for the first, but will avoid you if you are the second. Avoid viewing pornography and gratuitously violent images. They will stay in your mind forever whether you want them there or not and it will permanently scar your psyche.
"Learn to laugh at yourself: the earlier in your life the better. Learn to take (and give) a little gentle and good-natured tweaking. Don’t take offense easily. Thin skinned people are unhappy people, and unhappy people are unattractive. Everybody isn’t out to get you: most people are more pre-occupied with their own concerns than with you.
"Be respectful of older people, weaker individuals and creatures and those that are a little strange to you. I wish I could take back many a thoughtless thing I said in my own youth.
"Don’t wait until later in your life to embrace your Faith and draw close to God. It will give you a ground and a compass for the tough times that will inevitably come. Pray a little in some manner everyday. Read the Bible every day. Don’t miss Mass. Arrive a little early to recollect yourself, and don’t be the first one out the door. Learn as much as you can about your Faith and share it with those that know less than you. Your faith is a gift that should be shared with those who have no faith or who struggle. Be patient with the struggling.
"Love your country and be a good citizen. Even though you are a minority * recognize the fact that MOST people in our country mean well and, until proven otherwise, will usually judge you by the content of your character rather than the color of your skin. Don’t buy into the rhetoric of hate or resentment: it accomplishes nothing and will only make you bitter and unhappy. Consider serving your country in some way either in the military or otherwise. Visit other countries if you can and you will come to understand you are immensely blessed to live here.
“Value your friends, but value your family more. Respect your parents while you still have them. Don’t allow barriers to grow between you and your siblings and other relatives. Be a sterling example to your children; if you fail sometimes, apologize and start anew. Love and cherish the girl you marry. She has given up a lot for you and you should always treat her tenderly as a precious jewel and God’s gift to you.”*
"Don’t spend so much time thinking about girls, trying to impress them, or getting them to like you. Many men have wasted their time, ruined their lives, and made themselves unhappy by being obsessed with the opposite sex. Most of the girls you moon over aren’t interested, many of them aren’t worth it, and it’s just by being friendly and yourself that you’ll attract the decent ones anyway. This is how you’ll find a sweet and interesting girl. Take your time.
"Sex is wonderful, but in many ways overated as a source of happiness. Outside of marriage it is wrong and unless you have no conscience, it complicates your life and your relationships for the rest of your life. Wait for marriage: you will not be any less of a man if you do.
"Try to have fun, but don’t be foolish or reckless. Drugs are for losers and fools, and if you are either you probably shouldn’t be drinking either. If you are temperate, having a beer with good friends or other decent folks is a good thing to do occasionally. Don’t imitate the popular when they are being crude, immoral, inconsiderate or reckless.
"Eat what you want, but not too much. Get plenty of sleep, but don’t lay in bed too long. It leads to brooding and laziness. Practice good hygiene and dress appropriate to each situation.
"Read as many good books as you can, but do other things as well. Expand your interests and you will meet interesting and nice people. Go outside when you can, especially if the weather is nice. Television and video games are OK, but they will stunt your intellectual growth if that’s all you do, or even if it is your automatic default when you are bored. Don’t believe everything you hear, especially in school or in the media. If something disturbs you or doesn’t seem right, verify with a reliable source.
"Be moral, but do not be a prig. People will (eventually) respect you for the first, but will avoid you if you are the second. Avoid viewing pornography and gratuitously violent images. They will stay in your mind forever whether you want them there or not and it will permanently scar your psyche.
"Learn to laugh at yourself: the earlier in your life the better. Learn to take (and give) a little gentle and good-natured tweaking. Don’t take offense easily. Thin skinned people are unhappy people, and unhappy people are unattractive. Everybody isn’t out to get you: most people are more pre-occupied with their own concerns than with you.
"Be respectful of older people, weaker individuals and creatures and those that are a little strange to you. I wish I could take back many a thoughtless thing I said in my own youth.
"Don’t wait until later in your life to embrace your Faith and draw close to God. It will give you a ground and a compass for the tough times that will inevitably come. Pray a little in some manner everyday. Read the Bible every day. Don’t miss Mass. Arrive a little early to recollect yourself, and don’t be the first one out the door. Learn as much as you can about your Faith and share it with those that know less than you. Your faith is a gift that should be shared with those who have no faith or who struggle. Be patient with the struggling.
"Love your country and be a good citizen. Even though you are a minority * recognize the fact that MOST people in our country mean well and, until proven otherwise, will usually judge you by the content of your character rather than the color of your skin. Don’t buy into the rhetoric of hate or resentment: it accomplishes nothing and will only make you bitter and unhappy. Consider serving your country in some way either in the military or otherwise. Visit other countries if you can and you will come to understand you are immensely blessed to live here.
“Value your friends, but value your family more. Respect your parents while you still have them. Don’t allow barriers to grow between you and your siblings and other relatives. Be a sterling example to your children; if you fail sometimes, apologize and start anew. Love and cherish the girl you marry. She has given up a lot for you and you should always treat her tenderly as a precious jewel and God’s gift to you.”*