What's a good response to this argument against no premarital sex?

[Tis_Bearself]

Yes, and we all know that rape victims are always able to “speak out immediately”.

 

[Ammi]

Immediately means, asap… as opposed to waiting to decide. Report to authorities, if there was a crime.

This has relation to today’s world too. It has to do with God’s intentions. Whoever sleeps with another, willingly, ought to commit to marriage, or repent and no longer have relations.

If it was willful intercourse, then be responsible and commit. A potential child deserves sincere parents.

 

[Cruciferi]

repent and no longer have relations.

This is all that the Church requires. Nobody is obligated to marry another person that they’ve had relations with.

 

[Ammi]

I didnt say they were obligated. But that the right thing to do would be marry. That is, pursue a valid marriage. Either way, reconcile with God for engaging in what ought to be a celebration of both people already making the commitment of marriage, but not having done so.

 

[His_helpmeet]

You’re assuming that sex is the only thing that’s important in marriage and that sex isn’t something you can learn together. Sex is a part of marriage but it is not the only part. It should grow naturally out of your affection and love for each other. Two inexperienced people can learn together what they enjoy.

 

[TryingToBelieve]

You’re assuming that sex is the only thing that’s important in marriage

I just wanted to say something about this. My wife and I were in a bad place in our marriage a few years ago and we weren’t holding hands. I have to say that not holding hands was hard on me as we always held hands in public. Marriage has plenty ups and downs and you have to work at it constantly. I say it takes some of the hardest work you will ever do being married.

 

[Tis_Bearself]

Marriage has plenty ups and downs

^^This is true.

and you have to work at it constantly. I say it takes some of the hardest work you will ever do being married.

^^This is not necessarily true. I didn’t find my marriage to be hard work. My husband and I got along pretty well and I was blessed in that regard. God gives everybody different crosses; some might have crosses in their marriage that they have to work hard to overcome, some might not.

 

[Daisy]

went something like this “claiming you need sexual practice before marriage to prepare for marriage is like claiming you need to practice doing X to prepare for Y” ( and the analogy sounded rightly absurd).

Can any one help me come up with some X and Y’s for the above analogy (or another replies to this argument)? This should be easy. We live in a sound byte culture and it’s I think it’s important to come up with sound bytes in apologetics.

I’m sick in bed and bored, so I came up with some ideas.

claiming you need sexual practice before marriage to prepare for marriage is like claiming you need to eat the bag of chocolate chips to prepare to make the cookies.

claiming you need sexual practice before marriage to prepare for marriage is like claiming you need to practice watching Rambo, First Blood, to prepare to become a marine.

claiming you need sexual practice before marriage to prepare for marriage is like claiming you need to buy a diamond ring and practice wearing it in order to prepare for married life.