Whats wrong with me?

[1ke]

You already know what to do. You are 100% correct that you cannot move forward in a relationship that is not centered on God and shared faith, vision, and values.

The other things you listed: drugs, gangs, etc… those are a given. There are millions of guys out there who are clean-cut, Godly Catholic men. Do not go into a mixed marriage with a JW because he doesn’t do drugs or is not in a gang!

Find a Catholic with whom you can build a family and grow in faith together.

 

[jmcrae]

Now the question is:
How should we involve God in our relationship without getting into eachother’s way?

Involving God in your relationship assumes that you are praying together frequently about your mutual goals and for each other, that you are going to Church together on Sundays, and that you spend time together working on service projects for the poor and volunteer work at the church.

If these things seem impossible right now, then imagine how much more difficult things will be when you get married and have children - and have to decide how you will teach your children to pray, where you will take them to Church, and what kind of service projects and volunteer work you will get them involved in.

There are lots of nice Catholic boys who live a clean life-style and are fun to be with - and they won’t be offended if you want to pray the Hail Mary with them, or talk about the funny thing that happened at Mass, or other stuff like that.

 

[Jay2]

You’re 16. You’ve only scratched the surface of possible life-mates you will encounter. I myself gave one up at 17… I was totally crazy in love (an 17yo’s understanding of love) with this girl. I’d get physically ill or totally bent out of shape if we were apart. Then a day came in my life were I had to ask her some very direct questions, and ask of her only Yes or No answers… “maybe” was NOT an option. (I was leaving home and moving out of state. I wanted her to come with me.)

She offered “maybe’s”…I packed my stuff, gave her one last chance, then left…No lie here, I still have feelings for her 20+ years later… she was my first real love, but that is now so many miles down my road. (Last I heard she’s been married twice, has 4 kids by two men, and still isn’t happy… If she’d said Yes, I’d probably not be posting here… who knew).

Enter my life at 23… I met a gal. We dated twice and KNEW we were supposed to be together. There were no serious life “questions”…no “maybe’s”… just the usual compromises that happen between two people who care for one-another.

We’ll be married 3 years longer than you’ve been alive come September… Yup, I’m an “old fart” (at least in your eyes). I’ve got a daughter just 1-1/2 years younger than you… but I DO know how much young love can hurt, and I do know how much “older” love can fulfill your life if you give it some time.

 

[Uknowhoo]

Hi everyone
Sorry for not answering for a while (my computer was a bit crazy)

Well, I just want to inform you that Im still with my boyfriend and that we’re just letting God guide us.

Thanks for your replies, they were tons of help
Hope you had a great Christmas

God Bless