Whay does modesty mean to you?

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Another question on modesty in dress. Now, I have my own definition/rules of modesty in dress, being conservative. But I’d like to know from the MEN 😉 how do you define a modestly dressed woman? One might think lose-fitting pants is modest, others may not.

After I get enough thumbs up for dressing modesty I shall post my number. 👍

Just kidding… 😛
 
Hmm.

That’s rather difficult to define since it depends on the experience of the observer. Some men are more sensitive than others, and some men are rather desensitized by viewing too much porn.

Here’s my suggestion. Find a man, or better yet several men that have your best interest at heart, and ask them. There’s some men that will seek to dominate you by insisting that you should wear miniskirts. There’s other men that will seek to dominate you by insisting that you wear a burqua. But, I hope that you know at least one man who sincerely wants to see you fluorish - he’s the man to ask. Fathers, brothers, and husbands usually make good sources.

Generally speaking the clothing should bring the observers eyes up to your face.
 
Depends on context, for one thing.

What is modest at the beach is not necessarily modest at Midnight Mass.
 
I heard a priest define modesty at church best when he said, “Remember, the more attention you draw to yourself, the more that is being drawn away from Jesus”. Although he was only referring to being at Church, should our attitudes change once we walk out the door?
 
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IanS:
I heard a priest define modesty at church best when he said, “Remember, the more attention you draw to yourself, the more that is being drawn away from Jesus”. Although he was only referring to being at Church, should our attitudes change once we walk out the door?
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That is a good point. I think modesty is more about not drawing attention to yourself than it is about having skirts of a certain length, etc.
 
I’ll cut to straight to it.

No tight jeans. If they are tight on your bum then they draw a mans gaze. No upper body clothes that are tight, loose ones only, preferably those which cover your bum.

If you can wear them, wear long loose skirts instead of trousers.

Modesty also means not spending hours plastering yourself with makeup and doing your hair.

Imagine you were dressing to have dinner with Jesus Christ, how would you dress? Then do so every day, :).

In Christ.

Andre.
 
I’d always thought it would be ridiculous for a woman to try to wear a dress every day. I certainly thought it would be a good thing, but I figured it would be so far removed from the norm of today that it would be laughable. A girl at my college; however, wears a full-length skirt every day. She looks good in them, and surprisingly doesn’t stand out all that much by doing so. I don’t think there’s anything too wrong with wearing jeans (as long as they’re not too tight), but I’d just like to point out that jeans aren’t a necessity either.
 
I have great respect for girls who dress very beautiful…but don’t try and get guys to look other places. I’m cool with almost anything that a girl wears up until the point where it is obvious she is trying to get guys to look at her. The fact that a girl dresses modestly tell me that that particular girl can respect herself and is interested in attracting guys only by who she is and not by what she can flaunt at them.
 
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Magicsilence:
I’ll cut to straight to it.

No tight jeans. If they are tight on your bum then they draw a mans gaze. No upper body clothes that are tight, loose ones only, preferably those which cover your bum.

If you can wear them, wear long loose skirts instead of trousers.

Modesty also means not spending hours plastering yourself with makeup and doing your hair.

Imagine you were dressing to have dinner with Jesus Christ, how would you dress? Then do so every day, :).

In Christ.

Andre.
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It sounds like you want women to fress like muslim women!! That’s oppressive.
 
I have noticed calls for modesty in others often harken back to a bit of envy.
 
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thistle:
It sounds like you want women to fress like muslim women!! That’s oppressive.
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No, not doing so is being liberal.

You might think its ok to wear tight jeans and a tight top for a woman, i heavily disagree.

I am trying hard to think how Satan could tempt me to lust over a nun no matter how beautiful they were.

Simply put, their modest dress is perfect to stop people looking at them in the wrong way.

The law of God does not change.

In Christ.

Andre.
 
Iam not a guy, but I will tell you what it means to me. Modesty in dress means to me, wearing appropriate clothing that does not
show things. It means when going to church, wearing proper attire
such as a head covering, and an ankle length dress or skirt.

My husband aslways dresses modestly. He’s not one of those guys
that takes off his shirt and shows his muscles. We both dress
modestly for all times and all seasons. Everyones attittude difffers.
Some see it differently than we do. Myself, I do not wear mini skirts,
never have. I don’t show myself off. I prefer to wear clothing that is
in my opinion, conservative. For instance, jeans and a shirt, or a long sleeved shirt, and slacks, or a 3 piece pantsuit. Dresses, long.
Or mid calf length.
 
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Magicsilence:
No, not doing so is being liberal.

You might think its ok to wear tight jeans and a tight top for a woman, i heavily disagree.

I am trying hard to think how Satan could tempt me to lust over a nun no matter how beautiful they were.

Simply put, their modest dress is perfect to stop people looking at them in the wrong way.

The law of God does not change.

In Christ.

Andre.
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In case I’m misunderstanding you again are you suggesting that all women should dress similar to nuns?
 
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thistle:
In case I’m misunderstanding you again are you suggesting that all women should dress similar to nuns?
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Andre, I wish you would come to my neighborhood and yell that through the streets in my behalf. What I get from my ELDERS is
‘if you’ve got it, flaunt it!’
 
I doubt he desires to see all women dress similar to nuns. But rather keeping curves covered is a lust repellant. 😉
 
As a man I have to say that I consider dresses more modest than pants, especially tight ones. A dress is still attractive, and a pretty girl will always attract a man’s eye even were she wearing a potato sack, but I don’t think a dress excites lust the way that tight pants would.

Same for tops: anything that isn’t skin tight and/or exposing cleavage tends to be simply attractive. It goes without saying that exposed mid-riffs are classless. I think most women instinctively know what is modest or not, but are often slaves to peer pressure or fashion.

I don’t endorse the religion, but stand outside a Mormon church sometime when people are going in on Sunday morning (I live in Mormon country and there are tons of these). To a woman, they are dressed modestly without being in the least bit ostentatious OR frumpy. Being modest dosen’t mean wearing a burka, the conclusion some people in this forum always seem to jump to.

And again, it’s true that some men are just dogs and will oggle at anyone wearing anything. But that’s no reason to not dress modestly for other men who are otherwise trying to guard their eyes.
 
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Magicsilence:
I am trying hard to think how Satan could tempt me to lust over a nun no matter how beautiful they were.

Well, maybe he couldn’t tempt YOU, but I am sure there are perverts out there who have a “nun fetish”.

Simply put, their modest dress is perfect to stop people looking at them in the wrong way.

There is the problem. Many different things appeal to many different people. You can’t take something like modesty and only apply your own standards. What about the men who are so used to seeing a woman show everything off that they lust over those who are covered up and have that air of mystery about them?
I think your perspective that modest dressing somehow can alter other people’s behavior is flat out wrong. Modesty comes from a closenes with God, not from a place that intends to manipulate others.
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Modesty is a function of culture. Norms of modesty change from one culture to another, and change over time within a culture.
 
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Aquarius:
Modesty is a function of culture. Norms of modesty change from one culture to another, and change over time within a culture.
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That sounds nice in theory, but it neglects the fact that while culture may indeed change, man’s fallen nature (concupisence) does not.
 
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