When do Catholic girls start seriously contemplating marriage?

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Not sure if Catholic girls are any different from the rest in this regard, but I thought I’d ask, anyway. After college? When they enter their mid or late twenties? After 30? I know it’s different for everyone, but I just wanted to get a ballpark. Thanks in advance!
 
In my experience it is between 18 and 60. I don’t think it can really be narrowered down much more than that.
 
When they meet the right guy.

As a teen I never thought I’d get married till I was at least 27, 28.

But after DH and I got more serious, no way was I waiting that long to marry him and have babies 😛 We were 23 and 25 when we got married. I wasn’t going to get married before I finished school though.
 
Lil_M said:
When they meet the right guy.
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Right! 👍
We got engaged just after I turned 21… and then married one year later when I was 22.
He’s 10 years older, though… so it took DH a little longer, LOL! 😃
 
Well I’m a Catholic girl and right now marriage is the last thing on my mind.
  1. I’d have to meet, get to know and discern Mr. Wonderful and that takes time. At least a year I would think though some claim they knew right away and as I don’t even have a date in the forseeable future this is all conjecture.
  2. My calendar is packed for the next two months. 😃 😃 😉
 
I’d just turned 19 when I bet one of my Mom’s friends $5.00 that I wouldn’t get married until I was 25. That very night I met DH and 3 years later I paid off the bet at our wedding reception. Of course since I had neither purse nor pocket I asked DH for the $5.00 😃
 
I was 20 or 21, I think, when I started trying to figure out if I were called to marriage/religious life/single etc. I think many girls don’t seriously start thinking of it until they are out of school (wether it be HS, College, Masters, etc). Although God sometimes likes to throw a wrench in there!
 
I wish I really knew…

Usually the woman has to meet the right guy…but then even then they may not be ready.

Women are such a fickle species, and a complete mystery to those who wish to understand them
 
Lil_M said:
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Seconded! I didn’t really think about marriage until I met my current boyfriend. The Lord only knows if we’ll ever get married, but I keep hoping.
 
For me when I was 17 I knew I wanted to get married and have a family! I am a huge family person! I love kids!! 😃 I just wished things weren’t so complicated and that the man I had chosen to be my husband wouldn’t have mistreated me so badly I ended up leaving him!! 😦 And became a single mom of 3 children…I mean I wanted children he didn’t, I wanted more, he didn’t, things weren’t working out, he wanted them to after all he put me through…I was destroyed inside and out… I didn’t know what else to do and I left…Not only that but he never married me through the church!!!
So I did what I had to and ended with him…Now he won’t even pay child support!! 😦

I finally found someone great who’s looking forward to marriage and a long life, GOD willing, together…But still, it has been a difficult road.

I know many 22 year old girls that all they want is to have fun, no relationships just fun. And I know many 30 year old men that don’t care about having children but want to be married!!! 😦

I also know a few 17/18 year old girls that can’t wait to find the right man and get married and have lots of children!!
Just like I know several women in their 40’s who are still waiting for the right man to sweep them off their feet and actually want to settle down!!

So you can’t really generalize…

My brother finally is a father after almost 25 years he decided to finally get married and have kids! 😃

My youngest brother, 21, swears never marriage and never kids…just fun!

So it all depends…
 
I second or third the whenever they meet the right guy person…

…but,…sometimes age is difficult 🙂

I’ve just recently turned 18 and I’m approximently 10 1/2 months into a courtship with an amazing guy–but, he’s just 16 1/2…he acts like he’s a lot older though…definitely not like a highschooler. We’d love marriage in the future…hopefully not too far in the future…

Before starting hanging out with Grant, I figured I’d worry about marriage when I was older–I’ve always wanted a lot of kids, so I probably never wanted to wait a long time to get married. And the years just seem to fly by, anymore…
 
Not every one at the same time. They are so different from one another that you cannot recover a standard rule. At the same time, they are not so unlike each other and what they want is often so strikingly similar. I would risk saying most women want a normal, secure home with a caring, providing and protective husband, even if they wouldn’t admit that. When they get their senses right is either when they meet the right man or when they for some other reason tidy up their lives, or perhaps if they mature enough, given they have the right upbringing.

I am worried, however, by how often it seems to be at some point starting to look for a husband to set them up. I don’t want to be a part of that kind of scheme. I understand that they need to consider “such factors” and it’s a good thing they do, but too much is too much. No getting fan with masters of the highway and settling down with a more docile man when you’ve had enough, sorry. 😉
 
I think the only correct answer as some previous posters have said is when she meets the right guy. Before I met my wife, she swore that she wasn’t going to get married until she was 29, and I went and ruined that.😃 We got married when she was 23, and she tells me that she doesn’t regret it:thumbsup:.
 
Nechasin said:
I think the only correct answer as some previous posters have said is when she meets the right guy. Before I met my wife, she swore that she wasn’t going to get married until she was 29, and I went and ruined that.😃 We got married when she was 23, and she tells me that she doesn’t regret it:thumbsup:.
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Your story gives me hope.

Thanks:)
 
Well, I always thought that 28 was a good age to get married. As a child and as a teenager, I always figured that “the right way” to do it was to meet a guy around 25, date for about three years, get married at 28, have the first child around 30, and there’s time to have around four to six children before fertility is likely to become an issue. Hehe… the young know so much! :rolleyes:

Now I’m 28, and I figure the right answer is “when you meet the right guy” and “after you’ve finished school”. I met the right guy last year, and it sure won’t take me three years of dating to get a ring on my finger! I’ll be finished my master’s degree in six weeks (well, five weeks and five days) so we’re right on schedule with that. Part of me really wants to get married before my 29th birthday, just to satisfy my inner child who wants to be right and follow the plan… and then if I got pregnant around four months or so after the wedding, the first baby could be born just after my 30th birthday for bonus points!

But now I’m mature enough to realize that age isn’t the important thing. I’m confident that I would have married this man if I’d met him when I was 21. It’s meeting the right person that makes you contemplate marriage. Being in the position to be able to start a family (ie finished your education, employed productively, able to afford a two-bedroom or three-bedroom house) also leads people to consider starting a family. Age really has little to do with it.
 
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