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Colorad007
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Is it a grave matter to raise your voice out of frustration and anger in an argument with one’s parent? I’m not talking about screaming obscenities or yelling at the top of your lungs.
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CEM5
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I don’t think it would ever be mortal sin (but I could be wrong), unless the offspring murdered their parent(s). Then, in order to be mortal, it would have had to be with the “child’s” full knowledge of wrongdoing, (understanding it was grave), without coercion, (free will).
Good question. Hopefully someone knows for sure the answer.
blessings,
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Cristiano
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Are you my son posting as Colorad007?
If the answer is yes then my answer to your question would be yes too. It is gave matter and you know that.
Are you my dad posting as Colorad007?
If the answer is yes then my answer is absolutely no. And I would add that a parent should not sin by making his son angry and frustrated.
If your answer to both questions is no, then I would say that it is not grave matter to raise the voice because in the way you described. However, apologizing for that especially if it is an habit would help you practicing poverty in spirit.
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rom422
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If you merely yelled or spoke forcefully while stating your opinion, then no. If you insulted them, yes. In either case, an apology is the next thing to do.
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revert_jen
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To the OP: I would personally say that raising your voice, assuming the actual content of what you said was not overly disrespectful, was not grave matter. I mean, if you raised it to say something like, “You’re not listening to me!” it’s probably OK, but if you raised your voice to say something like, “You’re too stupid/old/closed-minded/whatever to understand me!” that would be more serious, but I think even then it might not be grave matter. In addition, of course, it is difficult in the heat of anger and frustration to give full consent of the will… It’s hard to say. It’s good that you are asking the question, anyway, to help us all think.
Just MHO. I am not aware of any official place to go for an answer to this, except it would be a good idea to ask your parish priest.
–Jen
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bmonk
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A mortal sin is one that cuts us off from a living relationship with God. As such, I would think leaving home or something similarly drastic might risk being serious matter–but as long as the communication continues (even if at the top of your lungs), the relationship is not yet dead.
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