When people start talking about what girls are hot

[Contrabass101]

How on earth do you reply?

I got a temporary job somewhere, and after having known him for only a couple of days, one of the other guys says to me: “That red haired girl overthere looks like a real hot one”

Do I just tell him to either shut up or use the word “beautiful” instead? Do I ignore him? Do I punch him? Do I mumble something, look dumb and smile?

The next day someone else did basically the same thing (same girl, too). None of them said anything explicitly dirty, so should I just accept it as a way of saying, that she is beautiful - to which I agree - but then again, wouldn’t that come across in another sense?

I dont know if I made myself clear, but I’m basically just unsure how to reply to that kind of situations.

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[1ke]

You could say, “Would you want someone talking about your mother or your sister or your (future) daughter that way? She is not an object, she’s a person.”

Probably won’t make you many friends in your workplace but will likely shut them up.

Of course, you can always just walk away.

 

[zemi]

You could say, “Would you want someone talking about your mother or your sister or your (future) daughter that way? She is not an object, she’s a person.”

That is a very good answer…

Maybe it could be preceeded by:

“Hmm… Do you have any daughter/wife yourself?”

 

[Liberanosamalo]

I agree with the previous posters. You could disagree with them by saying “Yes, she is lovely. And she might be more flattered by that word and it might win you more points than telling her she’s hot.”

Or you could turn it into a vote. Go over to her and ask her whether she prefers guys to find her “lovely” or “hot.” Then when you are both fired for creating a hostile work environment, you will have learned your lesson.

I’d just smile and say “Dude, pay attention to your job and don’t be crude.” And resolve to always take the verbal high road when you discuss a woman’s attributes, now that you know how crass it sounds when guys take the low road.

There is always the small possibility that you are very cute, and Little Red-haired Girl has noticed you, and Mr. Crude has worked there and has been sent over to see if you’re interested or available. In which case, your answer is “Yes, I noticed how lovely she is. But I’m engaged/going into the seminary/married with children.” Or “Yes, I noticed how lovely she is. And after my temp position here expires, I might be interested in asking her out. Do you know if she has a boyfriend or anything?”

You haven’t given us any details here. Believe me, the office can function just like middle school, but with bigger people.

 

[FelixBlue]

To some degree I agree with the above replies. In other words, we cannot objectivise any human being. At the same time, it is difficult to imagine what we (men) mean by, “She is beautiful” other than, “She is hot” i.e. sexually.

I imagine it depends partly on if you are married or not. If married, say simply (as I have), yes, But I am married. If not, you can agree that she is “hot” without allowing it to go any further.

 

[whatevergirl]

How on earth do you reply?

I got a temporary job somewhere, and after having known him for only a couple of days, one of the other guys says to me: “That red haired girl overthere looks like a real hot one”

Do I just tell him to either shut up or use the word “beautiful” instead? Do I ignore him? Do I punch him? Do I mumble something, look dumb and smile?

The next day someone else did basically the same thing (same girl, too). None of them said anything explicitly dirty, so should I just accept it as a way of saying, that she is beautiful - to which I agree - but then again, wouldn’t that come across in another sense?

I dont know if I made myself clear, but I’m basically just unsure how to reply to that kind of situations.

• CB

Also…if this is done in a work setting…saying ‘I wouldn’t say things like this at work especially–never know if HR is around the corner,’ might help, as well. I also like others’ ideas as well.

 

[jman507]

I’d just give a disaffected reply like “sure.” Eventually if you disengage enough in a conversation topic, it tends to go away. I don’t really see any need to make that it needs to be made a big issue. You need to pick your battles, and the needs of a rebuke need to be carefully calculated in the workplace, as well as anywhere else. You can lose influence with something like that especially short term. If it’s well placed, eventually you can regain it back and with more respect, but that is if the other party will see that it actually is in the best interest. Sometimes the better option is to just give uninterest in minor infractions, and a bit of a frown so they fizzle out, so more attention can be paid to more important things on the table.

 

[Contrabass101]

You could say, “Would you want someone talking about your mother or your sister or your (future) daughter that way? She is not an object, she’s a person.”

Probably won’t make you many friends in your workplace but will likely shut them up.

Probably won’t

As for details, I am unmarried, my job extends to only four weeks (Im saving up for my studies by working night-time on a factory during my summer break - good money, stinkingly unawsome work time), and while, as I said, I *do *agree that she is attractive, I’m not particularly interested in starting a relationship.

The reason I asked is that I want to know how to respond to future remarks like it. There have been many good and helpful replies. I will have to take them all into consideration and then use whatever feels appropriate in the situation. Thanks a lot

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[adam_in_ohio]

I talk about my wife like that…usuly to her. is that ok??

 

[Scottgun]

I talk about my wife like that…usuly to her. is that ok??

My wife is in my T-Mobile 5 phone under, “Hot wife”.

“Hot” is one of those words so overused, it has lost much its provocative power.

scott

 

[adam_in_ohio]

Mine is under boss. Ha ha ha hee hee hee! just kidden…oh wait… yes dear…Comming dear…Gotta go:extrahappy:

 

[Mag_Uidhir]

Do I just tell him to either shut up or use the word “beautiful” instead? Do I ignore him? Do I punch him? Do I mumble something, look dumb and smile?

You could be a smart*** like me and say "oh ! has she a temperature, shall we call the doctor or the fire brigade " ?

Otherwise inform the girl and maybe she’ll punch him or be flattered.

 

[Mirror_Mirror]

How on earth do you reply?

I got a temporary job somewhere, and after having known him for only a couple of days, one of the other guys says to me: “That red haired girl overthere looks like a real hot one”

Do I just tell him to either shut up or use the word “beautiful” instead? Do I ignore him? Do I punch him? Do I mumble something, look dumb and smile?

The next day someone else did basically the same thing (same girl, too). None of them said anything explicitly dirty, so should I just accept it as a way of saying, that she is beautiful - to which I agree - but then again, wouldn’t that come across in another sense?

I dont know if I made myself clear, but I’m basically just unsure how to reply to that kind of situations.

• CB

My only response would be to say “Praise God for her beauty, He does GREAT work!”

 

[Ford850]

Your response to such comments will probably depend on your relationship with the person making the comment, company policies etc…I have been in workplaces where such comments aren’t that unusual and have responded in different ways.
“Hmmm, she reminds me of my niece…”
“Oh shut up, you’re gonna get us fired”
“Oh leave the poor girl alone”
And yes, there were times where I said “ya” or just ignored the statement.
Whatever you do be sure that you ask the Lord for wisdom because your goal should be to honor Him and not to put the ner-do-well down.

 

[TOP]

" whats wrong with you?" with a look
“Thats just asking for trouble”
" Thats niiice"
“you think I’m what?” with a wink
“exsqueeze me, baking powder?”
Just start randomly saying " yeah thats when I asked them for a double colon pounder with cheese" and laugh very loudly, when she looks, shake your head and motion at the guy in disgust.
“so how many kids do you have in this state?”
Put your fingers in your ears and sing “not listening to you”
“shut up”
say “yeah” go for the high five and leave them hangin by turning around.

 

[JFonseka]

Well a lot people use the term “hot” synonymously with the word beautiful, so it depends what they really mean, usually you can say what they mean by the tone of their voice and the look they give towards the person.

Just tell them ‘…and she/he is someone’s future spouse, i’m sure others are checking out your future spouse in the same way’ - bound to get them thinking.