When some one does us wrong?

[Greenfields]

Why is it that when someone says something hurtful or cutting,after praying and trying to offer it up,I still have the need to complain to family members (and there’s quite a few)?
It’s like I’m searching for consolation,but no what family say I still have unrest.
My mum says"don’t let the bad spread"(ripple effect of the cutting remarks,).Feeling I have let it spread by complaining I go to confession.
How can I find release from anguish,even though I’ve given it to God?Doing something physical as well as spiritual seems to be needed somehow.Suggestions?

 

[CatholicGuy31]

I think this depends a lot on what age group you fall under.

One thing that might help is to ask yourself whether you still feel that GOD loves you in some way and that you are special to Him. We will never come to know exactly how much GOD loves us (at least not in this lifetime) but it is important not to loose sight of just a glimpse of that love.

 

[EasterJoy]

It isn’t a need so much as it is a compulsive temptation. None of us like to suffer with no one to see how bravely we are suffering. We also like reassurance that we are not making nothing into something, that we have a “right” to feel so hurt. This is all very typical.

I think I’d suggest reading “Story of a Soul.” St. Terese is a Doctor of the Church for a reason, and one of her themes was the profit to be had in enduring wrongs quietly.

 

[Greenfields]

It isn’t a need so much as it is a compulsive temptation. None of us like to suffer with no one to see how bravely we are suffering. We also like reassurance that we are not making nothing into something, that we have a “right” to feel so hurt. This is all very typical.

I think I’d suggest reading “Story of a Soul.” St. Terese is a Doctor of the Church for a reason, and one of her themes was the profit to be had in enduring wrongs quietly.

Thanks:)

Are are offerings up still of as much value to God if we complain?

 

[ynotzap]

Human nature has many faults. When we are put down, or some unkind thing is done to us and we feel, or think we don’t deserve it we tend to justify ourselves. I want to share some spiritual wisdom with you. It come from St. John of the Cross.

The practice of humility: It can be practiced in two ways. You practice it in your intellect by simply recognizing your defects, admitting them. but true humility doesn’t stop there, nor does such awareness make you humble. Even thieves and other transgressors could be considered humble if they acknowledge and confess their unlawful deeds.

Over and above humility of the intellect and combined with it is humility of the will. This willingness to be recognized for what you are and to be treated accordingly; even if falsely accused of some fault and bear it with patience and love.

As a help to make this humility of the will a reality…seek with all your heart to humble yourself in word and deed, rejoicing in the good of others as if it were your own, desiring that they be given precedence over you in all things. You will overcome evil with good, banish the devil, and possess a happy heart, if you do not train yourself in this way, you will not attain real charity, nor make progress in it.

Constant prayer, and grace are needed to humble ourselves, and humility is the foundation of all virtue. This is guaranteed to remove all the pain you suffer from insults, detraction, and negative opinions, and prevent us from justifying ourselves. Not easy, but necessary and rewarding, Deo Gratias!

 

[EasterJoy]

Thanks
Are are offerings up still of as much value to God if we complain?

God reads your intentions. Examine yourself as honestly as you can, keep doing your real best, and grace will bring you along.

Be merciful to gossips, too. Remember the story of the servant who throttled a fellow who owed him less than he himself had been forgiven.

 

[underacloud]

At the risk of sounding trite, look to the example of Christ. Read His Passion over and keep it in your mind that He could have stopped it at any time. The beating, the scourging, the crown of thorns, carrying his heavy cross, being nailed to it, and dying on it. At any moment He could have said enough! But He didn’t. Instead, He prayed for those who drove the nails into His hands and feet: “forgive them Father”.

It is not so hard to endure others’ faults when we keep our focus on the cross, and like Jesus, pray for those who do us harm.