When someone seeks vengeance on you

[CRATUS]

How to respond? Clearly apologize/ make amends and do not seek revenge. This will work in most cases. There are a few people who I encountered that are grudgeful and unapologetically cruel and vengeful.

 

[Strydersroom]

Protect yourself and defend yourself. If they are threatening physical harm call the police immediately.

 

[zamyrabyrd]

Making amends doesn’t always work. I tried being nice to certain people but they regard it as weakness, hence, more excuses to try to step on me. Better to keep a distance and pray for their souls, if you want to.

 

[Petaro]

Consider carefully if they have a real grudge against you that was your fault. If they do, make what conciliatory efforts you need to give justice to their rightful claims. If there is no truth to their anger, forgive them, protect you and yours against any actions against you and move on.

 

[Lou2U]

How to respond? Clearly apologize/ make amends and do not seek revenge. This will work in most cases. There are a few people who I encountered that are grudgeful and unapologetically cruel and vengeful.

For these few people, I suggest you avoid them as much as possible. Cruel and vengeful people won’t do anything to enrich your life.

Lou

 

[Monte_RCMS]

Unplug.

Avoid.

Smile and be silent.

Quiet prayer.

 

[Irishmom2]

Unplug.

Avoid.

Smile and be silent.

Quiet prayer.

Excellent advice. It works even with family members.

 

[pianistclare]

Yes. Don’t hang out with them.
What’s so hard?

 

[LethalMouse]

Vengeance?

Like actualy Vengeance?

Or imagined?

Because tbh if it is warranted vs not is a huge factor in what you do.

And the scope of said Vengeance is a factor. I mean coming to murder you vs slashing your tires because you scammed them out of $500?

I mean if I were scamming people and then developed my current morals I’d let the tire slashing go and call us square. If I did nothing wrong ans they are insane and come to slash my tires because they don’t know how to mentally process life… I would be all cop calling and stuff.

 

[CRATUS]

Vengeance?

Like actualy Vengeance?

Or imagined?

Because tbh if it is warranted vs not is a huge factor in what you do.

And the scope of said Vengeance is a factor. I mean coming to murder you vs slashing your tires because you scammed them out of $500?

I mean if I were scamming people and then developed my current morals I’d let the tire slashing go and call us square. If I did nothing wrong ans they are insane and come to slash my tires because they don’t know how to mentally process life… I would be all cop calling and stuff.

Clearly not imagined. I see where this person is coming from. I find it to be a complete overreaction. I apologized what more do you want for me to grovel at your feet. Besides, so and so can be quite cruel herself

 

[FghtinIrshNvrDi]

Making amends only works with people who have the same understanding of forgiveness and charitable interpretation. When you have someone full of malice, always remember that the aggressor sets the rules of the dispute and no amount of loving them will make them react well. In the case of that kind of person, just avoid them. They’ll bring you nothing but drama and sufferings.

 

[CRATUS]

Making amends only works with people who have the same understanding of forgiveness and charitable interpretation. When you have someone full of malice, always remember that the aggressor sets the rules of the dispute and no amount of loving them will make them react well. In the case of that kind of person, just avoid them. They’ll bring you nothing but drama and sufferings.

This person threatened me with information that will prevent me from ever working in the state I live in WHICH HAS NOTHING to do with our personal conflict. Why does it have to go this far? She did not succeed that is what is important. GOD BLESS. I will let it go.

 

[LethalMouse]

Clearly not imagined. I see where this person is coming from. I find it to be a complete overreaction. I apologized what more do you want for me to grovel at your feet. Besides, so and so can be quite cruel herself

Advice is subjective. Idk if you are willing to share, but without knowing what was done no one can say give an honest idea of what needs done…

 

[pianistclare]

CRATUS, dear one.
You care WAY TOO MUCH about this stuff.
You want to always be right, always be respected, always be listened to, always be the closest.

Life doesn’t work that way.
Not with the friends you currently hang out with… You talk constantly about this girl.
Is she your room mate? Partner? Colleague? Sibling? Boss?

Whatever she is…walk away and solve your problem.

 

[CRATUS]

CRATUS, dear one.
You care WAY TOO MUCH about this stuff.
You want to always be right, always be respected, always be listened to, always be the closest.

Life doesn’t work that way.
Not with the friends you currently hang out with… You talk constantly about this girl.
Is she your room mate? Partner? Colleague? Sibling? Boss?

Whatever she is…walk away and solve your problem.

OK.

 

[CRATUS]

CRATUS, dear one.
You care WAY TOO MUCH about this stuff.
You want to always be right, always be respected, always be listened to, always be the closest.

Life doesn’t work that way.
Not with the friends you currently hang out with… You talk constantly about this girl.
Is she your room mate? Partner? Colleague? Sibling? Boss?

Whatever she is…walk away and solve your problem.

Thanks for your advice. Stop following my posts if you are fed up. Do not respond anymore.

 

[pianistclare]

Thanks for your advice. Stop following my posts if you are fed up. Do not respond anymore.

LOL
ok.
Just like your friend.
OK
You’re officially on ignore
God bless you I hope you find answers that you can live with. .

 

[Irishmom2]

Vengeance?

Like actualy Vengeance?

Or imagined?

Because tbh if it is warranted vs not is a huge factor in what you do.

And the scope of said Vengeance is a factor. I mean coming to murder you vs slashing your tires because you scammed them out of $500?

I mean if I were scamming people and then developed my current morals I’d let the tire slashing go and call us square. If I did nothing wrong ans they are insane and come to slash my tires because they don’t know how to mentally process life… I would be all cop calling and stuff.

Do you actually think this is helpful?

Or imagined?

The scope of the help you want to give is a factor. I mean actually trying to help vs. just wanting to ramble on about nothing that actually has to do with the thread.

 

[Irishmom2]

Advice is subjective. Idk if you are willing to share, but without knowing what was done no one can say give an honest idea of what needs done…

You do not need to know what was done. Either you have something helpful to say without actually “knowing” or you say nothing.

 

[Irishmom2]

This person threatened me with information that will prevent me from ever working in the state I live in WHICH HAS NOTHING to do with our personal conflict. Why does it have to go this far? She did not succeed that is what is important. GOD BLESS. I will let it go.

Cratus, if someone has threatened you with something they know that could “ruin” you, that is blackmail. She did this because it gives her power over you. She did this because she knows it will upset you, and it has. Big time.

But for whatever she was to you, or whatever you hoped she would be and perhaps is not, she is not a friend. You should use this whole experience as a warning and re-examine how you define friendship, how you value yourself and what you will do differently in the future. You cannot repeat a friendship like this again and expect different results.

You need to cut this person out of your life and then move on. Make new friends that are nothing like this person. She is toxic.