When to stop praying?!

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thank you so much for all your responses… unfortunately i dont think i am spiritually there yet to accept god’s will to be done…

this is the same thing that others have told me… after all, how do you accept that your marriage which was your lifelong dream is gone? they say that you should storm the gates of heaven and be like the woman who kept asking the judge for justice. he eventually had to give it to her.
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Think of it this way: It’s going to be HIS way, however you cut it. You can pray for the grace to embrace whatever cross he sends you. Who knows? Like another poster, you might just get the guy back. But you will know that it will be on God’s terms and not your own. Have you any idea how much peace there is in that?

Read that passage from Ezekiel. The words were “lamentation, and mourning, and woe” – but the taste was sweet as honey.

Do you meditate on the agony in the Garden?
 
In any case, I would first pray for my own intention if this praying pleases God - then always and always at the end of the prayer I leave it up to God’s will - because He knows what is best for yout.

Restoration in marriage is a great thing for God considering a couple as one.
 
“And going a little further, he fell upon his face, praying, and saying: My Father, if it be possible, let this chalice pass from me. Nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt.” (Matthew 25:39, Douay-Rheims)

It is difficult to know when to stop. But I would say accpetance of this situation would preceed ceasing to pray for restoration.

But never forget, follow God’s will. As much as you love your husband, he may not be the man that God wants you to be with. What was your state when you were married? Were you both in full communion and in a state of grace, constantly praying for God’s guidence in determining if you should be married?

I know this is a painful time, I myself was divorced this past summer. My wife left me precisley because I converted to the Catholic Church (from atheism). That was, and still is, painful, but I could see the hand of God.
 
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“And going a little further, he fell upon his face, praying, and saying: My Father, if it be possible, let this chalice pass from me. Nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt.” (Matthew 25:39, Douay-Rheims)

It is difficult to know when to stop. But I would say accpetance of this situation would preceed ceasing to pray for restoration.

But never forget, follow God’s will. As much as you love your husband, he may not be the man that God wants you to be with. What was your state when you were married? Were you both in full communion and in a state of grace, constantly praying for God’s guidence in determining if you should be married?

I know this is a painful time, I myself was divorced this past summer. My wife left me precisley because I converted to the Catholic Church (from atheism). That was, and still is, painful, but I could see the hand of God.
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i dont think we were in a state of grace though i did pray at the time that as i was going into the marriage, i submit my future into YOUR hands… but somewhere along the way we both went wrong… and now we are making matters worse by going for the divorce… what do i do?
and anger and pride were my downfall… i thought i could do it all on my own… i am trying to change and i know that it will take a while but i wish god would show me his heart changing tooo…
i am sorry for your loss… as i cant see how converting to catholicism can be cause for divorce!!!
 
mariam1976 said:
i am sorry for your loss… as i cant see how converting to catholicism can be cause for divorce!!!
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Thank you. I do appreciate it. Both my wife and I were atheists when we got married. When I had a sudden (supernatural) conversion three years ago to Catholicism, it upset her terribly. You see, atheists have extreme contempt for anyone who professes a belief in God. From her perspective, I had been lobotomized. She literally ask me, in all seriousness, if I had a head injury. She was very upset when I bought a Bible. When I startedf to actually read the Bible, she kicked me out of the bedroom permanently. After two years of separate bedrooms, (where I prayed an awful lot; much like you, I suspect) she left and sued for divorce. It was final this past July.

Like most atheists, she hated the very thought of Christianity. To be married to one is unthinkable. Having once been an atheist, I would say her reaction was typical. As such, I cannot really blame her and do not hold ill will toward her. But there is more than a little bit of hurt.
 
i pray that god heals you and shows her the error of her ways… i knew an atheist once before and although he did not realise it, god did seem to be holding him back and sending a lot of physical pain his way… but i never spoke to him about it as i did not think that i should be imposing my religious beliefs on him… also he was basically a very nice person with ethics… far more than some of the christians i have seen…
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commitment seems to be sadly lacking in our generation… 😦
 
Pray for God’s will to be done in your life and in your husband’s. Pray for God’s will by offering Jesus everything in your life for your marriage, every beat of your heart, every tear, every happiness, every dish you wash, every piece of clothing you iron, every word you say, every action you make, this is praying unceasingly and offer it all in the Chalice to Jesus at Holy Mass.

I am sure you have been told that and it may seem that that is too vague as you know what your heart desires, but God knows what your heart desires better than you do and still whatever your heart desires whether it be in accordance with His will or not, His will is what we must seek.

Things don’t always make much sense in the midst of it, but years down the line with hindsight you will look back and see God’s Grace at work. I know it is just the holding on meantime, so I’ll keep you and your husband in my prayers that during the meantime you will persevere in the faith that by your prayers you have placed yourself and your husband in God’s hands.

I will put you both in the Chalice. In my prayers
 
blessedstar said:
Pray for God’s will to be done in your life and in your husband’s. Pray for God’s will by offering Jesus everything in your life for your marriage, every beat of your heart, every tear, every happiness, every dish you wash, every piece of clothing you iron, every word you say, every action you make, this is praying unceasingly and offer it all in the Chalice to Jesus at Holy Mass.

I am sure you have been told that and it may seem that that is too vague as you know what your heart desires, but God knows what your heart desires better than you do and still whatever your heart desires whether it be in accordance with His will or not, His will is what we must seek.

Things don’t always make much sense in the midst of it, but years down the line with hindsight you will look back and see God’s Grace at work. I know it is just the holding on meantime, so I’ll keep you and your husband in my prayers that during the meantime you will persevere in the faith that by your prayers you have placed yourself and your husband in God’s hands.

I will put you both in the Chalice. In my prayers
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thank you so much for these words and prayers… after a very long time today finally i have just now put everything in his hands… i just let it go… and then i saw your email… so i think that it is God who spoke to you to send me this message.
i indeed put my husband and my marriage in his hands and prayed that His will be done.
Please pray for me so that I do not fall back now and lose faith in Him again.
 
You and your husband are in my prayers and I offered my Eucharist for you both today.
 
mariam1976 said:
thank you so much for your prayers… can you tell me what is meant by offering the eucharist?
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When I receive Holy Communion I always offer my Eucharist for someone (and did that for you) as if they had received it themselves for them and for their intentions.
 
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