When will this end?

[StephenL]

Why won’t my parents and other parents a like put down there excuses and pride for why they continue drag out the courts. I am 17. I feel very much resentment for my Father I know this is wrong. How can I not feel resentment when he makes so much more money than my Mother and he asks for child support. He told me that he is taking a loss on asking for child support. I ask him if it is out of vindictiveness. He says no, but how can this be the case? My Mother is not perfect either I tell her and tell her about the joys of going to Church even when I am not there, the joy of volunteering, the love of this Church but she is not ready yet or just doesn’t want to. My Mom doesn’t like my Dad. My Dad told me that he doesn’t love my Mother. We’ll in the words of a Priest" I may not like Barack Obama but I still have love him." I say that to him and he just laughs. I am trying to live out the Gospels and The Bible with all my heart and to see my family including me so angry at each other hurts me and angers me so much. I know way to much about my Parents situation. I LOVE MY MOMMA so MUCH. I get so angry at my Dad and I tell him that just to irritate you I will pay the 346 to you. I know this is wrong. Thanks for reading
God Bless

 

[holyrood]

My prayers are with you. Keep praying for them. Do your best to be peaceful yourself.

 

[Ophelia23]

My heart breaks for you. Try to keep a peaceful heart and to love both of your parents. Loving your father does not mean you need to like him. Please know that my prayers are with you, dear one.

Us parents, we want to do everything right. But… we’re just people. Incredibly flawed, sometimes deeply wounded, and occasionally downright wrong.

 

[Linusthe2nd]

Why won’t my parents and other parents a like put down there excuses and pride for why they continue drag out the courts. I am 17. I feel very much resentment for my Father I know this is wrong. How can I not feel resentment when he makes so much more money than my Mother and he asks for child support. He told me that he is taking a loss on asking for child support. I ask him if it is out of vindictiveness. He says no, but how can this be the case? My Mother is not perfect either I tell her and tell her about the joys of going to Church even when I am not there, the joy of volunteering, the love of this Church but she is not ready yet or just doesn’t want to. My Mom doesn’t like my Dad. My Dad told me that he doesn’t love my Mother. We’ll in the words of a Priest" I may not like Barack Obama but I still have love him." I say that to him and he just laughs. I am trying to live out the Gospels and The Bible with all my heart and to see my family including me so angry at each other hurts me and angers me so much. I know way to much about my Parents situation. I LOVE MY MOMMA so MUCH. I get so angry at my Dad and I tell him that just to irritate you I will pay the 346 to you. I know this is wrong. Thanks for reading
God Bless

To be honest both your parents are acting like children. They shouldn’t involve you in their personal problems - but they always do don’t they. You will just have to accept them the way they are and try not to make the same mess out of your life as they have made out of theirs. Make your own life with Christ and pray for them both.

Linus2nd

 

[robwar]

Why won’t my parents and other parents a like put down there excuses and pride for why they continue drag out the courts. I am 17. I feel very much resentment for my Father I know this is wrong. How can I not feel resentment when he makes so much more money than my Mother and he asks for child support. He told me that he is taking a loss on asking for child support. I ask him if it is out of vindictiveness. He says no, but how can this be the case? My Mother is not perfect either I tell her and tell her about the joys of going to Church even when I am not there, the joy of volunteering, the love of this Church but she is not ready yet or just doesn’t want to. My Mom doesn’t like my Dad. My Dad told me that he doesn’t love my Mother. We’ll in the words of a Priest" I may not like Barack Obama but I still have love him." I say that to him and he just laughs. I am trying to live out the Gospels and The Bible with all my heart and to see my family including me so angry at each other hurts me and angers me so much. I know way to much about my Parents situation. I LOVE MY MOMMA so MUCH. I get so angry at my Dad and I tell him that just to irritate you I will pay the 346 to you. I know this is wrong. Thanks for reading
God Bless

Stephen, I am sorry about your parents divorce and it’s aftermath in your life. I think you would be better served if you could find a counselor in the Church to help you deal with the breakup of your parents, all the anger and hurt and its aftermath. There is no way that any of us can know which side is correct but to take sides with one parent over the other only hurts you and the anger only hinders your own desire to want to walk in your faith.
I will pray that you will find the proper help to deal and heal from all of this.

 

[thequietsinger]

Why won’t my parents and other parents a like put down there excuses and pride for why they continue drag out the courts. I am 17. I feel very much resentment for my Father I know this is wrong. How can I not feel resentment when he makes so much more money than my Mother and he asks for child support. He told me that he is taking a loss on asking for child support. I ask him if it is out of vindictiveness. He says no, but how can this be the case? My Mother is not perfect either I tell her and tell her about the joys of going to Church even when I am not there, the joy of volunteering, the love of this Church but she is not ready yet or just doesn’t want to. My Mom doesn’t like my Dad. My Dad told me that he doesn’t love my Mother. We’ll in the words of a Priest" I may not like Barack Obama but I still have love him." I say that to him and he just laughs. I am trying to live out the Gospels and The Bible with all my heart and to see my family including me so angry at each other hurts me and angers me so much. I know way to much about my Parents situation. I LOVE MY MOMMA so MUCH. I get so angry at my Dad and I tell him that just to irritate you I will pay the 346 to you. I know this is wrong. Thanks for reading
God Bless

I am so sorry to hear that, my friend. It sounds like your parents are having a long, drawn-out argument that really isn’t necessary, and I do pray that it is resolved. Remember one thing: you have God, and you have your faith! Don’t let anything, or anyone, come between you and God. I know how badly you want your Mom to enjoy the Church like you do, but you can’t beat yourself up over it. The way I see it, you are living out the Gospels, and the Bible. But, you must remember that there is only so much you can do. You are more than welcome to PM me if you want to talk. I’ll keep you in my prayers. May God bless you.

 

[StephenL]

I honestly don’t what else to do? My Dad irritates me so much that I have all this hate I just want everything in his life to fail because of the pain this has caused me. I am at the point where I don’t want to be giving the same ole same ole to me. I want someone to pick my parents by the ear and drag them both into the court of Common sense and be like Hey bro this is your Child. He is Hurting so much! Do you only care about yourselves and your pride? You Dad do you honestly think your so innocent? Your son curses because of anguish and frustration because The Parent has one duty in life to take of its CHILD! You don’t do something to jeopardize it. My Dad says it is not his problem. We’ll to be blunt this is his Problem I am his Child. He should love my Mother enough to make sure she has enough time to see her Child. I cannot stand to be in the same room as him. His selfishness reeks because I want to donate his bed instead of me taking it. He is like I am not donating that. I paid blank for that. I forgive my Dad but do I want to be like him or even remotely close? No, I am in the middle. Seriously when I am older I will try to do something with this. Hopefully I will be that one dragging the parents and giving them a course in the Human Child affected by divorce and one Parents continual need to degrade the other in front your 17 year old son. This is my life and I am hurt beyond hurt.
I just don’t want to be in the middle.

 

[robwar]

I honestly don’t what else to do? My Dad irritates me so much that I have all this hate I just want everything in his life to fail because of the pain this has caused me. I am at the point where I don’t want to be giving the same ole same ole to me. I want someone to pick my parents by the ear and drag them both into the court of Common sense and be like Hey bro this is your Child. He is Hurting so much! Do you only care about yourselves and your pride? You Dad do you honestly think your so innocent? Your son curses because of anguish and frustration because The Parent has one duty in life to take of its CHILD! You don’t do something to jeopardize it. My Dad says it is not his problem. We’ll to be blunt this is his Problem I am his Child. He should love my Mother enough to make sure she has enough time to see her Child. I cannot stand to be in the same room as him. His selfishness reeks because I want to donate his bed instead of me taking it. He is like I am not donating that. I paid blank for that. I forgive my Dad but do I want to be like him or even remotely close? No, I am in the middle. Seriously when I am older I will try to do something with this. Hopefully I will be that one dragging the parents and giving them a course in the Human Child affected by divorce and one Parents continual need to degrade the other in front your 17 year old son. This is my life and I am hurt beyond hurt.
I just don’t want to be in the middle.

Unfortunately Stephen, you are in the middle of this and quite angry. You need to see someone to deal with all of this. Call you parish and have them recommend a Catholic counselor or therapist to deal with all this anger and hurt.

 

[Ophelia23]

Unfortunately Stephen, you are in the middle of this and quite angry. You need to see someone to deal with all of this. Call you parish and have them recommend a Catholic counselor or therapist to deal with all this anger and hurt.

Yes. Please do.