When you feel forced to lie

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I’m in a tough situation. I’m currently looking for employment after being unemployed now for several years due to a severe debilitating neurological injury. I have a big gap in my work experience due to the injury. So far, I’m noticing on interviews, employers don’t want to hire me because of the big gap in my work experience and I’m getting discouraged and have been told by my family that I should lie and say I’ve been working as a self employed independent contractor. I don’t want to have to lie because I don’t want to sin, but I also feel up against a wall here and don’t know how to tell people the truth. It seems people can’t handle the truth.

Can anyone offer me advice about how to handle this? I don’t even have references that are recent. Don’t know what to do.
 
If you have had an injury tell the truth. People tend to be more understanding than you know for. Praying for you:thumbsup:
 
Don’t lie. If you do & it’s found out after you’re hired, it can be cause for firing you.

If the injury isn’t causing any long-term medical problems, let potential employers know. It might make them feel better about hiring you.
 
Mary_Estelle said:
If you have had an injury tell the truth. People tend to be more understanding than you know for. Praying for you:thumbsup:
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Not necessarily. I broke my ankle in 3 places in 2011. I went back to work 8 months after the injury and I for 3 years I had 2 jobs that required me to stand on my feet for
most of my shift. After those 3 years I had already developed arthritis in my ankle and was having to use a cane because of the pain I was in.

6 months later I wanted to get back in the work force and when I told the employers during the interview why I had quit or why I had physical limitations, they just looked at me like I was wasting their time.

Just sharing my experience.
 
You’ve already been answered about the lie. I just want to point out that working for yourself doesn’t look any better on a resume than an employment gap, in my experience. I’m a self-employed musician who goes long stretches without any work to speak of - it’s a function of my region - and a few years ago I even went so far as to interview for a job that would use my (finance) degree. They were extremely rude; I got the impression that in their eyes, running a business isn’t any different than lying in bed all day.

When I applied for another job just a few weeks ago, the auto-upload of my resume didn’t recognize self-employment as work. I suspect I was declined for an interview because of what looked like an employment gap.

I know it’s frustrating, but you don’t want to damage your relationship with God - and for something that won’t even help you!

Follow up your application with an in-person visit to the office, and ask to speak to the hiring manager or HR manager. My husband has been in management and says he found this impressive; he’s also heard the HR manager at his current company say the same thing. If I hadn’t been so ambivalent about my most recent application, that’s what I would have done.

I hope you find a job soon. I’ve prayed for you.
 
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You’ve already been answered about the lie. I just want to point out that working for yourself doesn’t look any better on a resume than an employment gap, in my experience. I’m a self-employed musician who goes long stretches without any work to speak of - it’s a function of my region - and a few years ago I even went so far as to interview for a job that would use my (finance) degree. They were extremely rude; I got the impression that in their eyes, running a business isn’t any different than lying in bed all day.

When I applied for another job just a few weeks ago, the auto-upload of my resume didn’t recognize self-employment as work. I suspect I was declined for an interview because of what looked like an employment gap.

I know it’s frustrating, but you don’t want to damage your relationship with God - and for something that won’t even help you!

Follow up your application with an in-person visit to the office, and ask to speak to the hiring manager or HR manager. My husband has been in management and says he found this impressive; he’s also heard the HR manager at his current company say the same thing. If I hadn’t been so ambivalent about my most recent application, that’s what I would have done.

I hope you find a job soon. I’ve prayed for you.
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Definitely do go to the office and bring your resume and cover letter along. Then they have a face to put to the resume. I got a job doing that after the software kicked me off.
 
I had experience in education as a pareducator and had a gap in my resume for 3 years. due to medical issues. I also could not get a reference from the previous school’s principal for I had missed too much work.

FF to 3 years later. I sent in a resume to a different school with a cover letter explaining honestly my situation with a follow up phone call. Landed me an interview with the principal and she asked “How are you doing now?” I told her “I was good to go” and she hired me on the spot. She said she appreciated my honesty and that is why she interviewed me.

Honesty is the best policy. She required two references and I was able to get one from an employee that was a friend at the former school and another friend.

I feel blessed and credit that to my friend who said always tell the truth.

People understand things can happen.

Hoping you will find a suitable job in the future. I’m starting my 3rd year this year.

Mary.
 
Rosarydevotion said:
I’m in a tough situation. I’m currently looking for employment after being unemployed now for several years due to a severe debilitating neurological injury. I have a big gap in my work experience due to the injury. So far, I’m noticing on interviews, employers don’t want to hire me because of the big gap in my work experience and I’m getting discouraged and have been told by my family that I should lie and say I’ve been working as a self employed independent contractor. I don’t want to have to lie because I don’t want to sin, but I also feel up against a wall here and don’t know how to tell people the truth. It seems people can’t handle the truth.

Can anyone offer me advice about how to handle this? I don’t even have references that are recent. Don’t know what to do.
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I can understand that is a tough situation. In principle, it is wrong to lie and therefore you should not.

Pray and ask for God’s providence and to bless your would be employers and believe that God can turn obstacles to breakthroughs.

Sometimes honesty pays and there are people who are impressed by this special trait.
 
They will want details of any self-employed contracting.

In your country there may or may not be rules or laws regarding the recruitment and ongoing employment of persons having suffered injury and either still impacted by or no longer impacted by same.

In some countries disclosure is mandatory/permissible/inadmissible before/during/after employment and before/during/after illness or injury.

Authorities may or may not be informative.

There may or may not be NGOs (membership or otherwise) which can inform, advise and/or advocate.

Any rules or laws may or may not be enforced.

There are also going to be variations from one employer to another.

I have been far luckier than most, even in the UK.

Our Father said.
 
Thank you all for your replies. I appreciate all your (name removed by moderator)ut.

I went to confession this morning and asked the priest what I should do. He gave me good clarity. Basically, not to lie, but don’t give them more information than they need. He said that if they ask about the gap, than tell them I had a health crisis, but nothing more. As long as I’m fit to work now, they really don’t need to know what happened to me. I’m a massage therapist, so its really about the quality of my work anyway. I have an interview on Monday, so we’ll see how it goes. Say some prayers for me.
 
Rosarydevotion said:
Thank you all for your replies. I appreciate all your (name removed by moderator)ut.

I went to confession this morning and asked the priest what I should do. He gave me good clarity. Basically, not to lie, but don’t give them more information than they need. He said that if they ask about the gap, than tell them I had a health crisis, but nothing more. As long as I’m fit to work now, they really don’t need to know what happened to me. I’m a massage therapist, so its really about the quality of my work anyway. I have an interview on Monday, so we’ll see how it goes. Say some prayers for me.
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👍 that sounds like good advice from the priest. prayers offered…
 
The priest also made clear to me that I need to trust God to lead me in His will. He said that its not about the job so much as its about doing His will. I guess I lack trust to a certain degree and I need to work on that.
 
Rosarydevotion said:
The priest also made clear to me that I need to trust God to lead me in His will. He said that its not about the job so much as its about doing His will. I guess I lack trust to a certain degree and I need to work on that.
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He sounds like a very good priest!
 
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