When your boss is unethical

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…what should one do? I work for someone who although I get along with him and like working with him most of the time, is devisive, and an aethiest. (self-proclaimed) We’ve gotten into some brief discussions about Christianity, and he has made it known that there’s a ‘higher power,’ but he doesn’t call him God. (and I don’t think he believes that Jesus is our Redeemer)

But, I honestly don’t judge him one way or the other on his religious views (although I feel sorry for him that he doesn’t accept Jesus as his Savior and I feel that this can be a root cause of his deceptive ways), and I truly pray for his soul, as often as I can. What DOES trouble me is that he is very devisive, says derogatory things about women to my coworker and me (we have a small dept.) and is now trying to undermine a very good career path opportunity for me. His boss called me a few days ago to share this path with me, and when my boss found out that he didn’t discuss it with him first, he flipped. (not on me, just was mad at his boss) Now, it appears as though he’s trying to thwart the opportunity.

I prayed about this, and have decided to give it to the Lord, as He makes all good things come from all situations. And, I feel God is telling me to pray for him, but to realize that this man is no friend of mine. (like he pretends to be–tells me he is looking out for my career bla bla bla–ha!) :rolleyes:

And, I think God has revealed to me to continue to perform well, and to discussing a relocation move with the manager of the new area (where the career path lies which is Florida, I now live in PA) (My husband and I have talked about moving back to Florida, prior to this situation coming up-so I feel that this could be Divine intervention) So, that is what I will do. This story is missing a lot of details, but the crux of it is…what do you do when you have an unethical boss? He also reports sales numbers that are false to management…I handle a lot of the reporting, so I know the truth.

Finally, as part of this new career path, I was supposed to travel to Florida to introduce this new program to the Florida office, alone. On Friday, he asks me if I’d mind if he came and did the presentation with me. OOOOKKK. I actually don’t mind, since this is my first one, but still. I was told one thing, and now another happens. Basically, he’s all about him–what’s in it for him, and my coworker and I feel that he is frightened of losing his stance as my boss. (and ultimately hers, as the career path was presented to her, too)

Like I said, I think God has an amazing plan in all of this…but how would you handle an unethical boss?? Thanks for listening…and sorry if the details smudged together. LOL 🙂
 
Whatevergirl,

I’ve never had any experience in this department and so I hesitate strongly before trying to give you any guidance. But i would say that I think you are doing the first thing absolutely right in that you are praying over it a lot. I also think, based strictly on what you said, that you have this person pegged correctly as being no friend of yours.
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Thanks for the encouraging words, Liberian. I actually, contrary to how my post may appear, have grown to be indifferent towards him. I’m nice to him, polite…he is not a horrrible person, really… but I truly have lost respect and trust for the guy over these past few years. After what happened this past week, I doubt he’ll ever gain that trust back from me again. :nope:
 
In regards to his falsifiction of data, when this is discovered will you be implicated in the fraud/deception alongside him? Are you an accessory to the fraud?

If so, that would pretty much put the kybosh on your career plans.

I makes sense that anyone who has been telling tales and lying is going to be anxious about when the hammer is going to fall. They will also be anxious about being betrayed by others who know. He might have more than one reason for keeping tabs on you.
 
Coyote–I hadn’t thought of that, actually! There’s not fraudulent reporting per se, just inflating his own numbers to look like he is doing something, I hate to say it that way. But, that’s how my coworker and I see it. I just don’t say anything, I feel that he must be living in his own type of ‘hell’ if he can actually function at work like this. On the one hand, he can be very nice, flexible, understanding…bla bla bla…On the other, is this unethical behavior. I won’t be implicated therefore, because my numbers are on the up and up…and if he wants to report false numbers, then oh well. But, it just makes me not respect him. Thanks for giving me some food for thought.
 
My first thought is that if he beleives in a higher power but does not have a specific system of worship, he is an agnostic, not an atheist.
 
I shouldn’t have even posted that, because it’s irrelevant to me what he practices. He’s unethical, and that’s what I meant to focus on. 🙂
 
Is this person your boss or just a co-worker?
One thing I learned in a corporate environment is that if the boss comes under fire for reporting falshoods, it almost always is blamed on those under the boss wether or not they had anything to do with it. And worse, management will believe the boss before the underlings.
You may want to verify that you are in the clear and cannot possibly take blame when he finally gets caught.
 
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Agreed.👍

Make sure your not under it when it happens.
 
don’t let him go to florida with you

either go by yourself or find someone else instead who he doesn’t like or who doesn’t like him…

this would have to be someone who you have knowledge of disliking him without you having to ask them that. it should be evident from observing past behavior

ps: definitely go with another woman, not a man…especially this man…for his intentions for asking are not good…

pss: since he is your boss…tell him you are not comfortable with that and would prefer to go with a woman of your choosing…tell him her name when you tell him…as if you’ve already decided.

he cannot really argue with this because it doesn’t look right to go on a business trip in mixed company when it is just one man and one woman…especially when there is also the power imbalance of him being your boss.

if he does not like this then suggest a third party of your choosing attend with you. again make sure it is someone you trust and that he won’t turn against you.
 
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Agreed.👍

Make sure your not under it when it happens.
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One way to do that is to have a talk with HIS supervisor about what he is doing. That way, even if he tires to lie and say that you said to fake the figures, HIS supervisor will know the TRUTH of the matter. If possible, I’d get that in writing.

The Commapny has a right to know that one of their employees is lying to them and adversely effecting employee morale.

In Christ, Michael
 
But be very careful. It may very well be that his supervisor has a similar problem reporting the truth.

Analyze carefully before doing anything.

Yes, I am a little paranoid. I knew my boss to be deceptive. It was not until two months after my dismissal (fired) that I discovered corruption went 2 more levels up the food chain.
 
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