When your heart cant let go

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I meet a wonderful Greek Orthodox Priest through a religious page. We spoke numerous times on the phone and he made me feel like i was the most important person in the world. Then one day he stopped talking to me no response to texts or IM’s or phone calls to this day i have no knowledge of why. so i stopped calling, texting or trying to get ahold of him. then suddenly the urge to call him came upon me and i got the nerve to text him. He forgot who i was and when he i told him he gave me short answers it felt like my world fell in. Everyday i think about him and pray St. Jude will find a way to fix whatever went wrong. I miss him as a friend, he has a facebook but he has his messages and adds blocked. If god didnt want him in my life then why do i feel like I need to try to get ahold of him? Why does it hurt so much? and how do I let go?:confused:
Please pray for me to find the answer I need intercession so i can find the answer i seeking:confused: :confused: :confused:
 
Because he cannot become involved romantically if he is already a Greek Orthodox Priest-perhaps you did not know this, but he thinks you do know it-which would be very awkward for him.(and you, now)
 
annebentley said:
I meet a wonderful Greek Orthodox Priest through a religious page. We spoke numerous times on the phone and he made me feel like i was the most important person in the world. Then one day he stopped talking to me no response to texts or IM’s or phone calls to this day i have no knowledge of why. so i stopped calling, texting or trying to get ahold of him. then suddenly the urge to call him came upon me and i got the nerve to text him. He forgot who i was and when he i told him he gave me short answers it felt like my world fell in. Everyday i think about him and pray St. Jude will find a way to fix whatever went wrong. I miss him as a friend, he has a facebook but he has his messages and adds blocked. If god didnt want him in my life then why do i feel like I need to try to get ahold of him? Why does it hurt so much? and how do I let go?:confused:
Please pray for me to find the answer I need intercession so i can find the answer i seeking:confused: :confused: :confused:
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Im sorry to hear this 😦 But as someone pointed out he may have been getting to close. He is already a preist so he cant marry. Im sorry you lost someone close to you ive been there i know your pain. it will get better, it takes time. It may not seem like it now and it seems your in a dark forest not knowing where to go but youll find the path out of this forest. I know you might not want to hear all of this but ill be praying for you

Most Holy Theotokos, Save Us:byzsoc:
 
Holy Spirit, powerful Consoler, sacred Bond of the Father and the Son, Hope of the afflicted, descend into my heart and establish in it your loving dominion. Enkindle in my tepid soul the fire of your Love so that I may be wholly subject to you. We believe that when you dwell in us, you also prepare a dwelling for the Father and the Son. Deign, therefore, to come to me, Consoler of abandoned souls, and Protector of the needy. Help the afflicted, strengthen the weak, and support the wavering. Come and purify me. Let no evil desire take possession of me. You love the humble and resist the proud. Come to me, glory of the living, and hope of the dying. Lead me by your grace that I may always be pleasing to you. Amen.*
 
I never thought of it that way. I guess my feelings for him made me forget he has obligations and maybe he did have feelings for me he knew would not lead to anything more. I just cant seem to get him out of my heart and it hurts sometimes
 
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I never thought of it that way. I guess my feelings for him made me forget he has obligations and maybe he did have feelings for me he knew would not lead to anything more. I just cant seem to get him out of my heart and it hurts sometimes
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Its hard now, I know ive been there but dont lose hope 😦
 
annebentley said:
I never thought of it that way. I guess my feelings for him made me forget he has obligations and maybe he did have feelings for me he knew would not lead to anything more. I just cant seem to get him out of my heart and it hurts sometimes
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i’ve been there too. only time helps.🙂
 
Lord, please take our sister annebentley to your heart and help to heal her pain :signofcross:

I’ve also been in this situation too (not with a priest, but with a figure of authority and pastoral care). It is very very difficult to let go but I would urge you not to contact him again. I imagine he could have been warned off by one of his superiors, or maybe he just realised himself that the situation could get out of hand.

That doesn’t stop it from hurting though 😦 Keep strong and hold on to your faith. I will pray for you. Things to get better with time 🙂
 
That you ‘can’t let go’ may have been obvious to him as it is to us in what you say, dear soul, and if he did see how attached and dependent you were becoming, it was his duty to withdraw. I thank God that he is a good priest who is a genuine shepherd of souls.
Had he done less than he did he would have been betraying his spiritual duty to you.
If only all priests were as conscientious in their responses to others’ attachments, many are, but sadly, not all. You may not feel it but you are blessed that he has withdrawn.

If he tried the short answers, hoping to dampen your attachment by being brief, and if you continued to show your heart he would not be able to continue. He belongs to God and his primary duty is to your eternal soul’s protection, not to be your dear friend. Spiritual directors have to be very careful, as like doctors and psychiatrists, people can develop special attachments to them as they help them in their personal needs and in particular where those whom they counsel are vulnerable, lonely, or hurt. Whether or not your attachment is very deep, if the priest perceived it as such, as a good priest he needed to break that attachment. His aim it to direct persons to God not to himself. One may not consciously become emotionally attached, may believe it’s all spiritual, but this is an area where the mind can be deceptive.

May God help you to grow stronger in the graces that He directly offers you, and may God in time lead you to the intimate friendship of a good spouse if that is His will.

May God grant you healing and peace, and may God lead you according to His holy will for your life.
 
I pray that God grant you wisdom, knowledge and understanding so that you may discern the reason why this has happened. May you be able to accept the reason and move on. I pray that God eases the pain, hurt, and sorrow you are experiencing. I oray that you will grow every day in your faith. God bless you always and embrace you during this difficult time for you…
 
Thank you to everyone who responded. Your replies gave me something to think about and focus on :juggle:
 
Honestly, keep on living your life. You’ll be fine with time, but for now, you should focus on your life and how you can get closer to God.
 
annebentley said:
It just feels like right now i’ve lost faith
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Remember the night is always darker just before dawn. Meaning dont lose hope now. God is bigger than all of our hurts and the preist did what he had to do.
 
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Remember the night is always darker just before dawn. Meaning dont lose hope now. God is bigger than all of our hurts and the preist did what he had to do.
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I dont have any hatred toward the priest. He is still an amazing human being in my heart it just hurts and time will heal it but I need to focus on what God is trying to tell me
 
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