where can I find a solution

[HMS]

I’m a 30 years old woman , a mother of almost 5 years old boy and I AM NOT ASKING YOU TO HELP US I AM ASKING YOU TO SAVE US… AND THIS IS OUR STORY

Seven years ago I converted to Christianity from Islam and I’m a Jordanian living in my country … the problem is if you are a Muslim you can’t change your religion in both law and socially wise…
AND I WAS A MUSLIM BUT NOT ANYMORE !!!..

I met a Christian Jordanian man (who I’ll be calling my husband although our marriage is not recognized here) and before going further telling my story I would like to share some facts with you about my country…

Girls here live with their parents tell they get marry and we are not allowed to have affairs and if it happened and the family knew about it she get killed in so many cases… YES KILLED!!! and what helps that the law will treat the killer so easy under the name of honer crimes so he can spend ONLY 6 MONTHS TO 2 YEARS IN JAIL and when the killer who can be the father or mostly the brother gets out he will be treated as a hero the one who washed away the family shame…you can search it on the internet although so many cases are not reported because the family covers it up…

as for living in Islamic country laws come from Islam and in this religion you cant change it if you are a Muslim and a gain you can get killed not only for family honer this time but also as a religious duty it’s in Islam (THE CONVERTER FROM ISLAM SHOULD BE SENTENCED TO DEATH)

AND I DID BOTH!!! CONVERTED AND HAD A SON FROM A CHRISTIAN MAN
under these circumstances we had to hide our relationship from everybody (my family and his family) no one knows but a couple of friends and my sister who converted too…

I had to hide my pregnancy from my family who i’m living with , and it was a miracle that i could

I wont go in details of that time suffering and the daily fear of being exposed and get killed…
Any way we were trying to find a doctor to help us and a gain miracle happened I found a Christian doctor and told him my story and he agreed to help me deliver in the hospital he works in and he did…
Giving birth to my son (Andre) was so risky and i had to go under C-Section but i also had to leave the hospital within less than 24 hours to go back to my home before they miss me … one of my friends and my sister helped me in that but yet i had to walk home and fore more , to pretend like nothing happened…
my baby had to stay in the hospital for a week because he had lungs infection and my husband visited him everyday and a gain God helped me coz i wouldn’t be able to take care of the new born baby having all of these pains from the operation… so we rented an apartment and got the baby there I took care of him during the day time and my husband at night tell we could manage to get a nanny from Bangladesh so i could go back to work and for my husband to go sleep at his parents

I had to tell my parents that I work for long time hours to justify my time out … so I can go see my son and get what they need and the home stuff and every other day my husband used to come for three hours to see us ( for security reasons) we could steal three hours from this world to be a family… UNTIL YEAR AGO … when the disaster happened when my brother sew me going out of a church and they started spying on me they put a GPS on my car and sure they knew that i wasnt at work all of that time i pent out my brother told my parents and the big problem started … I thank God that my sister could worn me that day so i asked my friend to help so when they ask about that place i will say its her house she agreed …
We were SO AFRAID if anything goes wrong we are DEAD…
I went back that day to find a volcano waiting they investigated me for hours and I denied everything about being a Christian telling that i was there to get my friend and i got in out of curiosity and they locked me for a week my brother broke my rooms door and searched it for anything to find against me… they took my mobiles for a while as well but i had an extra one for emergency… i couldnt go to see my son for two weeks i lived hell that time they were treating me so bad I got so sick and once when i was so sick my MOM looked at me and said I cant put my hands on you )) …
My husband couldnt go there too because they knew the place so my friend took care of everything she took my son to see his dad whenever she could…
And after that everything changed… we can’t be a family anymore…
now I can spend few hours only with Andre (my son) some days only two hours …and some days like today i can not at all…
and if we are to be in one place we have to do Gems Pond movie procedures first ( change cars and leave mobiles with our friends and a lot of things for security …

my son is getting older everyday and he keeps asking me why don’t you and dad sleep here with me ?
why do you have to leave every day?
and IT CUTS DEEP WHEN HE BEGS FOR ANOTHER FIVE MINUTES TO STAY WITH HIM but i can’t because if I’m late may be i cant go to him the next day…

 

[HMS]

we need to run out of the country but my son doesnt have papers no birth certificate or ID number because we cant have them until we have marriage papers which we cant have (under the law in Jordan a Christian man cant marry Muslim woman ) and even if we did it out of the country , it won’t be recognized here we tried everything here nothing worked ALL WHAT I HAVE IS THE HOSPITAL PAPERS!!..

my son can’t go to school… i can’t keep watching him and do nothing so we went to a lawyer and he said the only way is to do it with a different mothers name although it hurts but I had no choice so we agreed to do so … he said it will take from 60-90 days and we are waiting now we dont have the papers yet but when we do we have to leave the country…

we are in a life threatening situation
we cant live in this fear any more all what we are asking for is our right to live …
we want to be a family we want to have a life … its our right we suffered a lot and we still do
me and my husband are well educated with BA degree and we have a very good jobs here but we are living on the edge my brothers are trying to know more about me and they can get it at any time and it will be my last sun rise that day … they will kill me and my husband and who knows what will happen to my son then…

I love my country but it can’t give us our first human right , the right to be a live and to have the freedom of choice … to choose our religion or the person we would like to spend the rest of our lives with…SO I AM ASKING YOU TO SAVE US THE THREE OF US TO SEEK A HUMAN ASYLUM TO WHERE WE CAN LIVE NORMAL LIFE AS A FAMILY WITH NO FEAR … TO WHERE MY SON CAN GO TO SCHOOL … I WANT TO STOP LIVING IN THREE CHARACTERS (the mom and the one with my parents and another at work)…
I CANT STAY IN THIS SITUATION WHERE OUR LIVES ARE IN DANGER AT ANY TIME …

THE THREE OF US ARE IN DANGER AND WE NEED IMMEDIATE HELP

THANK YOU
BEST REGARDS

 

[Tyuiop411]

That’s a lot to take in all at once and I’m not sure I could give you any great advice, assuming this is legit your best bet would probably be to go to Israel and apply for political asylum. The next best option is to apply for political asylum in the US.

 

[HMS]

Thanks Tyuiop411 for your advice,
That story was written by a friend of mine, I met her in my country through her best friend, her story really saddened me and I promised here to help as much as I could, so please, please give me any advice, I am really sad for the child.

I don’t think she can go to Israel with the child, he has no papers at all as she mentioned in her letter…
How can she apply for political asylum in the states, is that possible while she is in Jordan?

 

[ComeHome2Rome]

I have many Muslim friends and they have all told me that it’s a myth that someone who converts to another faith other than Islam is subject to death. One of my Muslim friends, who will be an adult in a year, plans to leave Islam and become another faith, she’s just not sure which one yet and I asked her that very question…will your parents or brothers kill you? and she said, “No way! That idea comes from non-Muslims who misrepresent Islam.”

If you really want to leave, then find an Embassy - United States, Canada, Austrailia or Swedish & go there and get help.

You can also ask your Christian priest and friends if they will help to smuggle you guys out of your country and into a place of safety. Certainly you are not the only Muslim to have converted in an Islamic country.

I will pray for you, your husband and your son.

Christians must be honest. If anyone asks you again about being a Christian, you must tell the truth and not sin by breaking one of the 10 Commandments.

 

[Tyuiop411]

Thanks Tyuiop411 for your advice,
That story was written by a friend of mine, I met her in my country through her best friend, her story really saddened me and I promised here to help as much as I could, so please, please give me any advice, I am really sad for the child.

I don’t think she can go to Israel with the child, he has no papers at all as she mentioned in her letter…
How can she apply for political asylum in the states, is that possible while she is in Jordan?

If the child is an infant I don’t think she would need any papers to enter Israel with the baby. But she can always go to the the US embassy in Amman, Jordan or contact the US embassy ( you should be able to find contact information for the US embassy at jordan.usembassy.gov/). Unfortunately I think the Israeli embassy in Jordan is still closed after it was evacuated in September.

And as the poster above me stated if all else fails she can contact a priest or other religious group to try and be smuggled out of Jordan.

 

[HMS]

Christians must be honest. If anyone asks you again about being a Christian, you must tell the truth and not sin by breaking one of the 10 Commandments.

It is easy to ask her to tell the truth, you wouldn’t like to be in her shoes when they find out about it

Actually , I was a Muslim and know exactly what are the sequences for converting from Islam specially for a woman in my country, if she wasn’t killed she would be tortured by law, believe me:
(Apostasy in Islam)

As I said above, That letter is written by my friend who asked me for help because I live in Japan, I translated her letter into Japanese and trying here to do my best, but I thought it would be better to ask for advice here…

Priests in Jordan cant help for sure (another big story I don’t want to spend time on it here)… so I think the only option is ask for asylum in one of the countries you mentioned…

Thanks everybody for your concern, I have a final question, is there any organization in the west which can lend a hand in such cases.

 

[starsmurf]

I have many Muslim friends and they have all told me that it’s a myth that someone who converts to another faith other than Islam is subject to death. One of my Muslim friends, who will be an adult in a year, plans to leave Islam and become another faith, she’s just not sure which one yet and I asked her that very question…will your parents or brothers kill you? and she said, “No way! That idea comes from non-Muslims who misrepresent Islam.”

If you really want to leave, then find an Embassy - United States, Canada, Austrailia or Swedish & go there and get help.

You can also ask your Christian priest and friends if they will help to smuggle you guys out of your country and into a place of safety. Certainly you are not the only Muslim to have converted in an Islamic country.

I will pray for you, your husband and your son.

Christians must be honest. If anyone asks you again about being a Christian, you must tell the truth and not sin by breaking one of the 10 Commandments.

This is not a situation in which to judge someone for not admitting to being a Christian. Do you really think that you could admit to being one if you knew the result was that your family would kill you? Its very easy to say “yes”, but if it came right down to it, I doubt many of us would have the courage. None of the Ten Commandments reads “Tell the truth even if it results in you being murdered.” Please show some charity to this person, for a woman in such a culture to make such an admission would require immense courage. It is hard to stand up for yourself when you have not been taught to do so, rather to obey and be submissive.

It may be a myth that Islam teaches that those who leave the religion should be put to death, but this isn’t about the teachings of Islam, this is about the laws of the country the OP is in and the culture. There is a convert from Islam facing the death penalty in Iran right now. “Honour-killing” is a cultural, not an Islamic problem. It is carried out by families of other religions too.

I pray to God that, if this is a true story, that the OP, her son and her husband can make it to an Embassy and safety.