Where Did you Learn about Sexuality Morality in Marriage?

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Didn’t learn it from my parents, though I was raised Catholic.
Didn’t learn it in Catholic school.
Didn’t learn it at Church.
Didn’t learn it in Pre-Cana.

The first time I found any discussion of it in detail and depth was here on CAF. And even here on CAF the discussion is not so frank. But it’s better than nothing.
 
I learned what the Church taught from reading the Catechism of the Catholic Church and other books on traditional Catholic morality. I have never learned anything about the Church’s teachings at Mass except for the areas related to taking care of the poor, not gossiping and forgiving others.

My parents were non-Christians and I was taught that sex was something that you did with some special “someone” as long as you used contraception and to avoid getting married for most of my 20’s so I could “date” around and have “fun.”

Somehow, I ended up with a strong sense of right and wrong and married my first love at 23 and never did “date around.” 😉 There but for the Grace of God…!
 
Other. I’m a cradle Catholic and attended CCD/RE on schedule my whole life. I didn’t learn any of this until I had been married for 12 years, at nearly 35yo. I stumbled across some info on a message board and thought, huh…that’s new. So I bought some Catholic books on the subject and then shared what I learned with my husband. The teachings have had a profound effect on both of us. We didn’t learn ANY of this in preCana or marriage prep.
 
Oh and my husband wasn’t taught a word of this stuff when he went through RCIA as a married adult :(.
 
Hmm…am I the only one who got this information in school?

I went to an inner city Catholic HS in the 1980’s.

We covered it in 9th grade health and religion classes. We covered more in 10th grade religion, and finally in senior year. One class touched on Catholic marriage, we even had a mini (20 minute) NFP introductory, that compared it to the so called rhythm method.

Then it was covered briefly in a college theology class. Another theology class covered various encyclicals of the Church, Humane Vitae was among the encyclicals we learned.

Our Pre-Cana touched on it as well. We did a one day pre cana class at a seminary.
 
Mary_Gail_36 said:
Hmm…am I the only one who got this information in school?

I went to an inner city Catholic HS in the 1980’s.

We covered it in 9th grade health and religion classes. We covered more in 10th grade religion, and finally in senior year. One class touched on Catholic marriage, we even had a mini (20 minute) NFP introductory, that compared it to the so called rhythm method.

Then it was covered briefly in a college theology class. Another theology class covered various encyclicals of the Church, Humane Vitae was among the encyclicals we learned.

Our Pre-Cana touched on it as well. We did a one day pre cana class at a seminary.
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My area didn’t have any Catholic high schools where I grew up. I wish I could have gone to your school!
 
KellyPalmer said:
My area didn’t have any Catholic high schools where I grew up. I wish I could have gone to your school!
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The curriculum was good.

As I said it was an inner city school, and there were still problems with alcohol, drugs, premarital promiscuity, broken families etc. I think many parents chose the Catholic school because it was perceived to be safer than the public schools.

I was zoned for a decent public HS. Other students unfortunately were zoned for a subpar public school.

It’s been a long while since I was in HS though.
 
Mary_Gail_36 said:
The curriculum was good.

As I said it was an inner city school, and there were still problems with alcohol, drugs, premarital promiscuity, broken families etc. I think many parents chose the Catholic school because it was perceived to be safer than the public schools.

I was zoned for a decent public HS. Other students unfortunately were zoned for a subpar public school.

It’s been a long while since I was in HS though.
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That makes sense. I know what you mean…been a long while for me too 👍.
 
KellyPalmer said:
Other. I’m a cradle Catholic and attended CCD/RE on schedule my whole life. I didn’t learn any of this until I had been married for 12 years, at nearly 35yo. I stumbled across some info on a message board and thought, huh…that’s new. So I bought some Catholic books on the subject and then shared what I learned with my husband. The teachings have had a profound effect on both of us. We didn’t learn ANY of this in preCana or marriage prep.
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I bet the effect was profound!

I more or less thought anything but kissing and touching, missionary position, and proper ejaculation placement was banned. As someone comverting, I was afraid things my husband and I enjoy would have to cease. Then I worried how I would tell my husband we must stop doing XYZ as the Church didn’t approve. Of course, he would feel hurt and rejected and that would be a whole other mess to deal with.

I was very relieved to find that not to be the case. Very relieved.
 
Mary_Gail_36 said:
Hmm…am I the only one who got this information in school?

I went to an inner city Catholic HS in the 1980’s.

We covered it in 9th grade health and religion classes. We covered more in 10th grade religion, and finally in senior year. One class touched on Catholic marriage, we even had a mini (20 minute) NFP introductory, that compared it to the so called rhythm method.

Then it was covered briefly in a college theology class. Another theology class covered various encyclicals of the Church, Humane Vitae was among the encyclicals we learned.

Our Pre-Cana touched on it as well. We did a one day pre cana class at a seminary.
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So, in year 9 you’d be about 14 or 15? I think my sex ed occurred at a similar age, and while the general nature of the act was outlined, what they didn’t do was state or explain that it must be this way (finishing in the woman).
 
Secular sex-ed came from a booklet my pediatrician gave my mom who embarrassingly handed it to me and followed up with by public school. Sexual morality was from a combination of things. EWTN was probably the first source, that sent me to library for Catholic books, NFP class probably filled in the last bits I didn’t know. I originally married outside the Church at 18 so I didn’t have marriage prep. I used to secretly watch Mother Angelica as a teen on Sunday mornings until I heard someone coming then I would change the channel. (I my rebellious teen image to protect 😉 ). I didn’t really learn about that part though until my 20’s. I didn’t even know marrying outside the Church was a wrong. Catechism was fabulous in the 80’s. :rolleyes:
 
None of the choices quite fit. It was a long process from childhood all the way through college and beyond.
 
Ridgerunner said:
None of the choices quite fit. It was a long process from childhood all the way through college and beyond.
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I can understand that answer in the context of learning a broad subject in depth, but not the specific question as per the first post in this thread???
 
Rau said:
So, in year 9 you’d be about 14 or 15? I think my sex ed occurred at a similar age, and while the general nature of the act was outlined, what they didn’t do was state or explain that it must be this way (finishing in the woman).
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:confused: Ok good question. I did have the same religion teacher twice.

So it might have been a bit older, but it was in HS.

I remember discussing coitus interruptus as wrong and why.

It also came up in discussing IVF. It was the same teacher so one discussion might have been grade 9 the other one might have been grade 11.

It’s been over 20 years…
 
I learned it from my husband and his mother in law. in the past, before I
converted I took the pill and the coitus interruptus. I am now with the 5th Child pregnant and we want to use the natural family planning for some time after birth.
 
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