Where do you find Good Catholic woman/man now a days?

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Finding good Catholic woman or man is quite a challenge today. Even going to the Church and finding someone ones age is hard to find. If I had the means I would open up a Catholic Coffee shop so we can all meet and share coffee, books, and Catholic music together. This would be a great place for companionship and spiritual support. :coffee::juggle::bible1::grouphug:
 
WilT said:
Finding good Catholic woman or man is quite a challenge today. Even going to the Church and finding someone ones age is hard to find. If I had the means I would open up a Catholic Coffee shop so we can all meet and share coffee, books, and Catholic music together. This would be a great place for companionship and spiritual support. :coffee::juggle::bible1::grouphug:
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don’t open it in Portland Oregon. You will be over run by athiests and pagans offended by your Catholicism and sue you for descrimination and demand you stop any religious discussion in your Catholic shop that offends them.
 
henpecked said:
don’t open it in Portland Oregon. You will be over run by athiests and pagans offended by your Catholicism and sue you for descrimination and demand you stop any religious discussion in your Catholic shop that offends them.
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…It can’t be that bad…could it?:eek:
 
Almost anywhere. The mistake is in thinking that someone is going to drop in your lap. Maximize your exposure by frequenting Catholic events, Mass at neighboring parishes, and possibly Catholic dating sites. If you go that route, hang out in the Catholic chat rooms for a LONG time…observe who are the fakes, who just say what they perceive people want to hear, and who are really serious about faith and meeting someone.
Good luck. She won’t fall out of the sky…just remember that. 👍
 
I’m a good Catholic woman. I have found it difficult to find a good Catholic man. I love the idea of your coffee shop. 😃
 
Post an ad for “mass followed by dinner at x restaurant, for catholic singles between 21 and 45” in the church bulletin of 5 parishes. Ask people to call and make a reservation. Repeat every couple of weeks. Some weeks there will be 5 women and 15 men. Other weeks it’ll be the opposite…but people will attend.

I met my wife doing exactly this.

You gotta take the bull by the horns and do it yourself.

Ps hi pianistclare! Still giving your usual good advice I see.
 
PolarGuy said:
Post an ad for “mass followed by dinner at x restaurant, for catholic singles between 21 and 45” in the church bulletin of 5 parishes. Ask people to call and make a reservation. Repeat every couple of weeks. Some weeks there will be 5 women and 15 men. Other weeks it’ll be the opposite…but people will attend.

I met my wife doing exactly this.

You gotta take the bull by the horns and do it yourself.

Ps hi pianistclare! Still giving your usual good advice I see.
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hi Polarguy! Nice to see you! LOL
 
Murphy’s Law of Matchmaking: there is someone out there for everyone. However the chances of finding that special soul mate is directly proportional to your ability and available time to travel the world to find them.

and a Corollary: the easier it is to find that special someone; the higher the likelihood they aren’t the right one.

🙂
 
henpecked said:
don’t open it in Portland Oregon. You will be over run by athiests and pagans offended by your Catholicism and sue you for descrimination and demand you stop any religious discussion in your Catholic shop that offends them.
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Ain’t that the truth? There are people in Oregon, and probably elsewhere, who raise their children “gender neutral” so the kiddies can decide for themselves what gender they would like to be when they grow up. Oregon attracts an unusual bunch. I should know, I ended up there. 😃 But seriously, I think a Catholic coffee shop might do well, even in Portland! I’ll bet there are many closet Catholics just dying to meet and greet in a public setting. 😛 Hey! The OP should start a Meetup! Yeah!:)👍
 
WilT said:
Finding good Catholic woman or man is quite a challenge today. Even going to the Church and finding someone ones age is hard to find. If I had the means I would open up a Catholic Coffee shop so we can all meet and share coffee, books, and Catholic music together. This would be a great place for companionship and spiritual support. :coffee::juggle::bible1::grouphug:
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Start a Meetup! “Young Catholic Singles” or “Middle-aged Catholic Singles” The possibilities are endless! 😃
 
WilT said:
Finding good Catholic woman or man is quite a challenge today. Even going to the Church and finding someone ones age is hard to find. If I had the means I would open up a Catholic Coffee shop so we can all meet and share coffee, books, and Catholic music together. This would be a great place for companionship and spiritual support. :coffee::juggle::bible1::grouphug:
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In my area, you probably wouldn’t have too much luck finding one at Mass except for the earliest one on Sunday morning. Whenever I attend Mass at any other time, I am the only single person there, and I’m looked upon like a leper by the congregation, all of whom are married couples with 2-5 kids in tow. At 8:00, there are a fair number of singles scattered throughout the less than half filled church.

The Church has pushed singles to the sidelines in almost everything. The only single adults who are allowed to have any positions of true involvement in the Church are the priests and nuns, and the deacons if they are just on the path to ordination (but the 2 deacons at my parish are permanent deacons as they are both married). Want to sing in the choir? Gotta be married. Want to be an usher? Gotta be married. Eucharistic Minister or Lector? Singles need not inquire. Other ministries of the Church? Marrieds only. A single person might be allowed to work at the weekly Bingo game, but that is about it.

I really wonder how many single people who were Baptized and raised Catholic through the age of 18 have just decided to give up practicing the Catholic faith because they feel that the Church doesn’t need or recognize them anyway. I don’t think it’s just a handful.
 
WilT said:
Finding good Catholic woman or man is quite a challenge today. Even going to the Church and finding someone ones age is hard to find. If I had the means I would open up a Catholic Coffee shop so we can all meet and share coffee, books, and Catholic music together. This would be a great place for companionship and spiritual support. :coffee::juggle::bible1::grouphug:
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I agree. My mother also has said it’s difficult for a good man to find a good woman and vice versa and moreso when trying to find a Catholic.

There are a lot of Catholics here in Mexico, since it’s a Catholic country. Though admittedly, many are nominally Catholic.

Even so, I know of some really nice Catholic women who continue to be single.

Men have the advantage right at this moment in time, since there are more available women in proportion to available men.

You can meet them anywhere, basically, through volunteer work, work, friends, places you go where you share a common interest, clubs, groups, especially.

If one’s a woman, I’d say to go where there are more men than women, like chess, bowling, etc.

If one’s a man, then to go to women-dominated activities, dancing, say.

Classes of different kinds would be another good place.

You can meet someone nextdoor, a neighbor, as well.

Many times, the irony is that love generally finds us when we’re not even looking.
 
JWH123 said:
The Church has pushed singles to the sidelines in almost everything. The only single adults who are allowed to have any positions of true involvement in the Church are the priests and nuns, and the deacons if they are just on the path to ordination (but the 2 deacons at my parish are permanent deacons as they are both married). Want to sing in the choir? Gotta be married. Want to be an usher? Gotta be married. Eucharistic Minister or Lector? Singles need not inquire. Other ministries of the Church? Marrieds only. A single person might be allowed to work at the weekly Bingo game, but that is about it.

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That’s awful. And I thought my parish was lacking.😦
 
boomerang said:
Start a Meetup! “Young Catholic Singles” or “Middle-aged Catholic Singles” The possibilities are endless! 😃
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I’ve been to a few Catholic Meetups and few Catholics join or are not interested in getting together for some odd reason. Many of the Catholics and Christians can be found at parties and dances though
 
I met my wife on match.com. Both Catholic and Italian 👍. All glory be to God it’s been an amazing ride and our second child’s due date is tomorrow 👍👍

I guess I just threw myself out there and figured I’d see what would happen.

On a side note, any prayers for us and baby Anthony would be appreciated. Grazie
 
Jennifoo said:
I’m a good Catholic woman. I have found it difficult to find a good Catholic man. I love the idea of your coffee shop. 😃
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Exactly, why is it that both can’t meet and live happily ever after…or at least be together with the Lord? Dance places and drinking don’t really impress me to meet a partner but as one person has stated perhaps that’s where we need to be. :o
 
I met my husband online…not in a Catholic website, just on a regular dating site. I just concentrated on meeting as many people as I could, and waited for the right person to come along. He wasn’t the strongest Catholic, but then again, neither was I. We brought each other back to the Church. Just get out there and meet people!
 
JWH123 said:
In my area, you probably wouldn’t have too much luck finding one at Mass except for the earliest one on Sunday morning. Whenever I attend Mass at any other time, I am the only single person there, and I’m looked upon like a leper by the congregation, all of whom are married couples with 2-5 kids in tow. At 8:00, there are a fair number of singles scattered throughout the less than half filled church.

The Church has pushed singles to the sidelines in almost everything. The only single adults who are allowed to have any positions of true involvement in the Church are the priests and nuns, and the deacons if they are just on the path to ordination (but the 2 deacons at my parish are permanent deacons as they are both married). Want to sing in the choir? Gotta be married. Want to be an usher? Gotta be married. Eucharistic Minister or Lector? Singles need not inquire. Other ministries of the Church? Marrieds only. A single person might be allowed to work at the weekly Bingo game, but that is about it.

I really wonder how many single people who were Baptized and raised Catholic through the age of 18 have just decided to give up practicing the Catholic faith because they feel that the Church doesn’t need or recognize them anyway. I don’t think it’s just a handful.
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These are published policies? Or your perception? Just curious.
 
WilT said:
That’s awful. And I thought my parish was lacking.😦
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The reason I fear that the Church has pushed singles to the sidelines, and probably right out the door is this. There was an article published this week indicating that more than half of Americans over 16 are single, for the first time in our country’s history that is the case. The Catholic Church is the largest church in America (even though people say Protestants outnumber Catholics, there is no such church as “Protestant”–there are a few Baptist churches, some Methodist churches, Presbyterian, Church of Christ–you get the point, and none of these churches is larger than the Catholic Church, not even close.)

So 50 percent of American adults are single. Therefore, the percentage of Catholic adults who are single should be somewhere around 50 percent, maybe a little lower or higher. When I go to Mass, the rate is closer to 2 percent, and I am not exaggerating, and I am counting the priest since he is a single American.

Are all the single people in the “Protestant” churches or the Mormon church? Don’t be ridiculous, many of those churches preach that ONLY the married will go to Heaven (read Albert Mohler’s rubbish sometime; you’ll see what sort of indoctrination goes on in the Southern Baptist sect, “be fruitful and multiply” is more important than the 10 Commandments to them). The Catholic Church is the only one whose official teaching doesn’t include such tripe, though what is being “taught” from the altar takes some liberties with this, such as having married couples stand up for a “special blessing” between Communion and the Concluding Rite. (That’s how I factually know of the paucity of single attendees, almost nobody aside from me remains seated; actually I sometime remain kneeling with my head bowed only looking up for a half second, worried that maybe I am living in mortal sin; oh well, at least I am IN church so maybe God will have mercy on me for this mortal sin that I’m supposedly a party to.)

So where are all the single people who are (officially) Roman Catholics? By and large, they aren’t in church! I’m not going to speculate on their excuses, just point out that they aren’t attending Mass beyond maybe Easter Sunday when a lot of Catholics come out of the woodwork. Further, can one truly blame them?
 
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