Where does a young, faithful Catholic guy meet faithful catholic girls?

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poirot said:
pewpew-you should talk to the priests in your residence. I think they can arrange it-for you to meet a nice girl at the women’s center. Don’t be like me. You’re still young and have a chance at meeting someone. True story: OD priest arranged for my supernumerary friend to meet this supernumerary from men’s center (6 years ago) and although they didn’t end up together, they’re still friends. She (my friend) ended up meeting her husband through Catholic online dating. On a separate note, I haven’t tried the online dating thing but if you’re brave enough, maybe it’ll work for you. But you never know, maybe there’s someone in the women’s center wondering how she can meet you! lol.
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Hah, maybe there is, but I’m still very young so I’m not really worrying about finding a wife right now. Why do you think you’re too old? There’s always other people in the same situation. Maybe you can ask your priest 😉
 
Well, I wouldn’t say too old but I am getting to the age that my folks are starting to get worried. I’m turning 33 next month. But you know it’s not looking too good when your own mother starts asking strangers in the Pro-Life picket line to start praying for you. Her words to this 80 year old man there: “Please pray for my daughter that she meets a nice Catholic man who is Pro-Life.” Oh geez. LOL. Seriously, I don’t even look old or my age for that matter. I think the problem is I’m aging in reverse. I’m often mistaken for 18. Sigh. Umm, about my priest-that’s another story. I don’t want to bore you but let’s just say it didn’t go over so well.
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Hah, maybe there is, but I’m still very young so I’m not really worrying about finding a wife right now. Why do you think you’re too old? There’s always other people in the same situation. Maybe you can ask your priest 😉
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poirot said:
Well, I wouldn’t say too old but I am getting to the age that my folks are starting to get worried. I’m turning 33 next month. But you know it’s not looking too good when your own mother starts asking strangers in the Pro-Life picket line to start praying for you. Her words to this 80 year old man there: “Please pray for my daughter that she meets a nice Catholic man who is Pro-Life.” Oh geez. LOL. Seriously, I don’t even look old or my age for that matter. I think the problem is I’m aging in reverse. I’m often mistaken for 18. Sigh. Umm, about my priest-that’s another story. I don’t want to bore you but let’s just say it didn’t go over so well.
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That’s why you have to find a priest that “how do you say” has past experience in that area.
 
Maybe we are meant for each other?! Don’t you think? 😉 haha.
I’m 21 and also experiencing the “afraid to be single forever” mode. But as what our older brothers and sisters say, it is wiser to use this time to establish a deeper relationship with God. We still got a lot of time.

Being active in church may also help you know girls who shares the same faith. 🙂 Who knows? Just be careful with your intentions though. Serving God in church must be your ultimate reason for being active in church. Not just for mere meeting the girl you’ve been looking for. 👍 God bless you friend. And may we be able to discern what is God’s Will for us.
 
I’m in the same boat as you, Poirot. My parents are also getting worried. 🙂 I’m a 31 yr old guy in a relatively quiet area. It helps that there is a good Catholic community here though.

To the OP, I echo other statements - do not hesitate to drive to meet people, even an hour or more. That’s the norm here for hanging out with other Catholics. Unfortunately parish life is not as strong as it was so finding and relating to people our own age is more difficult.

It would help to use online dating, however, I can understand the hesitancy about joining one of these sites. :confused: Pray to God that you and your spouse find each other and at the right time in your lives.
 
Honestly, you all are so young!

You will meet a nice catholic girl by just getting out there and meeting people. Check out local meetups and see if there are groups of people that like doing what ou do. Like bird watching, or swing dancing or hiking with their dogs. Seriously. First find a group with a hobby you like, and go make friends. You might meet a nice Catholic girl there, or even a cultural or lapsed Catholic who might be amenable to practicing more (no I am not telling you to go convert someone, but there are lots of lapsed Catholics who just might need a little nudge and support.) At worst, you will make some friends, possibly Catholic, possibly not Catholic but with a shared hobby. Don’t narrow yourself to looking for a Catholic girl in just Catholic “venues.”

Really, you just have to get out there. I say this as a single person in my 30s. I spent years looking hard to no avail. So I eventually decided to just go out and live my life like I want to. To make friends, volunteer and travel on my own. I have stopped torturing myself about meeting someone, because much as I would like to be married, maybe I won’t ever be and Im not going to be miserable about it. Instead I try to be a good colleague, friend, daughter, sister, etc.

So just get out there and live our life. You might meet someone, you might not, but always remember that God still loves you.
 
Go to Catholic festivals! They’re an amazing way to meet other young Catholics cos you have to travel, but you get to stay a while once you’re there rather than driving back and forth once a week or whatever.

Many people go on the ‘festival circuit’ and will travel to the same festivals every year, so it’s not as though you’ll meet a woman at one and then not see her again for a year. And they’re mostly organised to take account of people’s work schedules, so a lot over bank holiday weekends etc. when you’d only have to take one day off work for a four day festival.

Youth 2000, youth pilgrimages to local/national sites etc. Most Catholic organisations consider you to be ‘youth’ until at least 30, mostly 35.
 
Actually, that is a very good point. Any woman who is actively discerning the religious life is likely to be very commited to her faith in whatever vocation fits her:thumbsup:. Good luck Norseman 82.
(Although I bet Our Lord wants her, just not in a convent!👍)
 
Cecilia123 said:
Honestly, you all are so young!

You will meet a nice catholic girl by just getting out there and meeting people. Check out local meetups and see if there are groups of people that like doing what ou do. Like bird watching, or swing dancing or hiking with their dogs. Seriously. First find a group with a hobby you like, and go make friends. You might meet a nice Catholic girl there, or even a cultural or lapsed Catholic who might be amenable to practicing more (no I am not telling you to go convert someone, but there are lots of lapsed Catholics who just might need a little nudge and support.) At worst, you will make some friends, possibly Catholic, possibly not Catholic but with a shared hobby. Don’t narrow yourself to looking for a Catholic girl in just Catholic “venues.”

Really, you just have to get out there. I say this as a single person in my 30s. I spent years looking hard to no avail. So I eventually decided to just go out and live my life like I want to. To make friends, volunteer and travel on my own. I have stopped torturing myself about meeting someone, because much as I would like to be married, maybe I won’t ever be and Im not going to be miserable about it. Instead I try to be a good colleague, friend, daughter, sister, etc.

So just get out there and live our life. You might meet someone, you might not, but always remember that God still loves you.
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I know, but its so hard, I see most of my friends getting married and it makes me wonder what’s wrong with me. I know its uncharitable but most of my unmarried friends are well… they are either really dorky, or they are partiers who don’t see marriage as something good. I’m worried I fall into the former category, I mean I even joined Catholic match, and met a girl recently, but she didn’t like me. Anymore it hurts to get rejected, and it makes me wonder if god wants me to be single or be a priest, even though I desire to be married. Also, I don’t want to be married at a late age like my parents. There are so many issues, also my dad died when I was 15 (he was 61) so I don’t want to get married old and end up dying from cancer like my old man when my kids still need me. It just hurts me so. Maybe though God wants me to suffer to make me more holy. I don’t know anymore
 
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