Where to find a good wife?

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Why? I am Catholic and believe in God.
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Nonsense. Anyone can call themselves anything they want.

You wanna BE Catholic? Follow the teachings of the Catholic Church!

If you want a woman with integrity, you need to have some yourself. And calling yourself Catholic while rejecting one of the most basic requirements of Catholic teaching – to attend mass on Sundays and holy days of obligation – has absolutely NO integrity.

A woman of integrity isn’t going to find a man like that worth her time, sorry.
 
It is considered a grave sin to not go to mass unless you really aren’t able to. Why not go visit Jesus more often? Many forget about Him, especially in this day in age. In Gabrielle Bossis’s book He and I, Jesus says:
“As you look back over your life, don’t you see that My will was always for your good? This is because I love you, and it’s the same for everyone, since I love each of you individually. I see you all differently; I see every detail about you, do you understand? My love is not of global love.
I need each one of you as though you were the only person in the world, as though the cosmos had been created for you alone, and My love is greater than the cosmos. So let this thought be a strength to you and your smiling calm.”
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and as St. Gemma said,
“Let us go to Jesus” she once said “He is all alone and hardly anyone thinks of Him. Poor Jesus!”
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I know that at my parish there are a lot of older people and only a few younger people attend. However, whenever I go to an FSSP parish with the Traditional Latin mass, there seems to be a lot more younger people there. Also a lot of families.

A lot of young Catholics (myself included, at 18) who take their faith seriously are usually to be found at a parish that offers the Latin mass. Just what I’ve observed.
 
Did you choose your username based on the Travis Bickle from the movie “Taxi Driver”? You are going to scare women off if you identify with that fictional character. He was a socially awkward guy who thought everyone around him was so messed up and blamed others for his loneliness when he was just as messed up, if not more messed up. Women do not want to date men like that. “There are no good women” is a bad attitude to have. Plus you are only 22. The women your age have not even grown up yet. Neither have you, despite your feeling more mature.

Nevertheless, if you have the money you can try Catholic dating sites. However, they are not magic bullets. It can take a long time before you even get one date and even then it won’t necessarily develope into a relationship. But at the same time, lots of the women will write you off based on the fact that you
Rarely go to Mass. If you want a good Catholic girl, that is a turn off to them.
 
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For what it’s worth, there are plenty of Catholic singles (of both genders) who do live out the faith (go to Mass on Sunday and HDOs, save themselves for marriage, etc.), but they too have difficulties finding spouses. As Mary Beth Bonacci pointed out, the dating/marriage pool is “poisoned”. So in that respect, I understand what the OP is saying and why he feels frustrated.
 
Sheesh, no. You should be looking for a good Catholic wife who is attracted to a good Catholic man. As other folks have said, if you want to be Catholic, act like one. I’m a Catholic, but if I say I’m a Gambler but have never gambled in my life can I legitimately call myself a gambler?

Bottom line, start acting like a Catholic and it will get much easier to get a good Catholic wife. Sorry, but you came to a Catholic forum. What did you expect?
 
To add on, those grey heads have sons and daughters and grandkids and nephews and godchildren who may go to a different parish or even to your own parish at a different Mass.

I’m a parish secretary, no one - not even me - knows every other person in the parish. Unless you live in a tiny town with a parish of 20 families, it is silly to assume there is no other (insert age of single people) at your parish. Get involved, as XV suggests, join some activities or online groups.

But, remember, good Catholic women have high standards in whom they date!
 
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Sirach 26:23 A godless wife is given as a portion to a lawless man,
but a pious wife is given to the man who fears the Lord.
 
Those old people you see at Mass? Some of them have nieces and granddaughters to whom they might be willing to introduce a nice Catholic gentleman.
 
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Those old people you see at Mass? Some of them have nieces and granddaughters to whom they might be willing to introduce a nice Catholic gentleman.
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You’re not the only one who suggested this, so don’t take this personally.

Older people should be valued for who they are. I was the youngest at the Bible study I attended…by a minimum of 30 years…with a few including the priest, I was younger by 60+ years. Many had grandkids my age. One even offered to set me up. But really, they also wanted to be loved for who they were.
 
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