Where to go from here?

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Hello. After many years of being away from the Catholic church and going to many different non-denominational churches, I have an intense desire to return. Unfortunately, I was married outside of the church. I have spoke with a priest and was told that if I go to confession, because of this marriage, I wouldn’t be able to receive absolution, since I have no plans on living chastely with my husband. Obviously I cannot partake in communion either. Both of these things absolutely break my heart. My husband would not agree to having our marriage recognized by the church, he believes the Catholic church is a cult and is horrified that I am even considering going back to it. We do have children, so I would never do anything that would hurt them, such as a divorce. I just don’t know what to do. The fact that I cannot receive the sacraments just tortures me and I don’t know how to get past that. Sure, I can go to mass, but I feel like an outcast. Not to mention, what about the forgiveness of my sins? Apparently, going to confession and confessing years worth of sins would be pointless because I can’t receive absolution because of my marriage. I’m just so confused and upset and I just don’t know what to do next. Should I just forget about returning to the Church at all and go on like I’ve been doing and look at that as punishment for my choices?
 
If your marriage is a first marriage for both you and your husband there is a canonical process called “radical sanation” which can make your marriage valid and allow you to return to the sacraments. If, on the other hand, you or your husband was married before then the issue of an annulment is raised. There isn’t enough information in your post to address this nor is a public forum the correct place to deal with such issues. If you wish to PM me I can offer some help, but would still refer you to the diocese where you reside.

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i wish i could be of more help, but welcome to CAF and goodluck on your journey back to the Church, I’ll keep you situation in my prayers!
 
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