Which is more important? The sacrament of marriage or a child, a gift from God?

[1Lord1Faith]

The marriage serves the child. The marriage is there for the express purpose of benefiting the child. So, within normal circumstances, the marriage is more important than the child, so to speak - although I think that’s not a very good way of putting it.

 

[Lea101]

Yes, children are negatively affected when they see their parents arguing, but parents should not be arguing in front of the kids in the first place. If they’re mature enough to make it work, they should be mature enough to not have screaming matches near the kids.

Also, if we divorce just because we fall out of love, it makes marriage meaningless. A marriage is a higher level of commitment, rather than an official/legal title to a ‘girlfriend-boyfriend’ relationship if that makes sense.

And while you are trying to fix your marriage, what happens with the kids? Do they just grin and bear it, regardless of age? Do parents arguing provide a good environment for six year-olds?

 

[ServusDei1]

It’s simply a matter of seperating infatuation with love. Infatuation is a chemical reaction. Love is a choice.

 

[Jezra]

I am 49 in November.

 

[TheLittleLady]

they should be mature enough to not have screaming matches near the kids.

People can argue with out screaming matches. It is important for kids to see that their parents can disagree, argue and then reconcile. They need to know that an argument is not an end.

 

[Lea101]

She was referring to arguments that are salient. Normal disagreements don’t really fall under that category. Also, kids may not always catch on to the ‘moral of the story’ unless parents sit them down to explain what had happened and how they’re okay with each other. Other than that I’m honestly not a fan of letting kids witness fights and then letting them process it on their own, as not all fights are equal. Couples can argue over failed dinner plans, or whether someone cheated/messed up in a huge way.