While we're on weird things to pray about

[Nevarlander]

I feel like my parents are overly clingy. I get whatever I want b/c there’s money for it, but would trade some of that for an end to the “helicopter parenting”, which would kind of have to end if they had another kid now. They don’t want one, and my mom has the potential to have a really dangerous pregnancy. Now, since more people in the world is a good thing, but I want it for a selfish reason, is it still a good idea for me to pray that my parents have more kids?

 

[Lorrie]

Since you mentioned that your mom would have the potential to have a dangerous pregnancy I would say yes, this is selfish. It could hurt her or the baby or both.

Maybe you should just be grateful that you have parents that care for you and your well being and leave it at that. A lot of people don’t have what you have.

P.S. - I looked at your profile and it says that you’re 20 years old. I’m guessing that you still live with your parents? I would think that until you move out you have to do what they say since it’s their house. If you want more independence I would suggest looking into living somewhere else.

 

[Nevarlander]

I don’t actually live with them most of the time, but they’re still supporting me, and judging from some things they’ve said to me I’d still get helicoptered even when I was “on my own”. And it’s all “Let me have my life”.
My mother tends to bring home abandoned kittens whenever she finds them, and then we end up keeping them because she or I think they’re adorable and we can’t get rid of them after raising them. She needs to find the baby equivalent of an abandoned kitten, lol.

 

[dalesmom]

How about one of those tiny dogs like Paris Hilton has? She could dress it up and carry it everywhere with her?

 

[Nevarlander]

How about one of those tiny dogs like Paris Hilton has? She could dress it up and carry it everywhere with her?

Her friend actually did that with her two chihuahuas until they died. I think it put her off that more than a little.

There was a little boy in one of her kindergarten classes she’d have been willing to take in had there been social services drama (likely, with her crowd of students): he, his five siblings, and their mom went missing over the summer after supposedly “going to Mexico to visit”.

 

[latinmasslover]

I feel like my parents are overly clingy. I get whatever I want b/c there’s money for it, but would trade some of that for an end to the “helicopter parenting”, which would kind of have to end if they had another kid now. They don’t want one, and my mom has the potential to have a really dangerous pregnancy. Now, since more people in the world is a good thing, but I want it for a selfish reason, is it still a good idea for me to pray that my parents have more kids?

You should pray for the will of God in that matter, and only that. I know what it’s like to have clingy parents (actually, it’s just my mother). I live on my own now (well, with my sister who just turned 18 has been with me since she was 16) and Mom is still so very controlling, and then if I still do my own thing (or my sister does for that matter) she brings up the 4th Commandment, and goes off on a name-calling spree. A wonderful guilt trip. I sympathize, but I don’t think another baby will help the situation…she’ll probably hound you till the day you die God love her. Pray for conversion, yours as well as hers, and again, for the will of God regarding the baby. God Bless.

 

[Liberanosamalo]

I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again. She will be your mother as long as you are her child. She grew into the job (literally) and will take just as long to grow out of it. 20 years is a long time to be used to doing something. Just because you were ready for her to stop yesterday doesn’t mean she’s ready to send you out on your own.

The fact that you are still dependent on them indicates you still have a need to be looked after. That is her job. If you have lived this long and have a faith and got this far without great injury or dying of neglect, then she has done her job well.

You are their world. Be nice about it.

Thank them for their helicopter parenting. Because you know what? There is nothing more hopeless than the sound of being out in the jungle and needing rescue, and you don’t hear that wonderful WAP WAP WAP of the chopper blades.

And you know no help is coming.

Someday all you’ll hear is that awful silence. And you will miss that helicopter. And you will weep.

Don’t make it worse by not appreciating it while you have it.