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Arwen037
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I have a question. If you fail to be chaste, but later on you truly repent and cease to sin, do you think you can wear a white wedding dress?
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strngrnrth
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Miss Manners said in her Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior that it is not OK to color-code the bride for virginity. A bride wears a white or light-colored dress with white, light-colored or festive-colored accessories, I believe. A groom wears black tie.
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EasterJoy
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Do I need to point out that it is taken for granted that all those who present themselves for Holy Communion at any Mass, regardless of what color they wear, will have surely confessed and been absolved of any and every serious sin they have committed? Should a bride be more solicitous of public opinon than she is solicitous to avoid profaning the Blessed Sacrament?
Priests are sinners, and they wear albs and white chasubles.
I’d follow their lead…white as a liturgical color has nothing to do with the purity of the bride, and everything to do with the joy of the occasion…proper preparation for the Sacrament to be entered into having been taken for granted.
Priests are sinners, and they wear albs and white chasubles.
I’d follow their lead…white as a liturgical color has nothing to do with the purity of the bride, and everything to do with the joy of the occasion…proper preparation for the Sacrament to be entered into having been taken for granted.
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ArdenB
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It’s actually a myth that a white dress represents virginity. It’s a veil.
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strngrnrth
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Red, green and blue were favorite bridal colors in Asian and European cultures for many centuries, but most brides just wore their good dress/tunic/sari/suit. They didn’t expect to wear any particular color. The three favorites were just ocnsidered lucky if a bride happened to have an outfit that color. In the 19th Century, Queen Victoria of England wore white and her wedding was huge – lots of young ladies admired it for many years. White wedding dresses became more and more popular until now they are common in most of the world. But they are neither required nor a sign of virginity. Wear what you find beautiful on you.
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Arwen037
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If it’s the veil that represents virginity, then is it okay to wear that?
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1ke
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Neither the veil NOR the dress symbolize virginity in the Catholic Marriage Rite. These are MYTHS.
Wear whatever color you want to.
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mercygate
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YES!
FWIW, white wedding gowns came in as fashion only in the 19th Century. It’s a relatively new custom – but a nice one.
It came in during a period where white was widely worn, especially in the summer, and since many weddings are in June . . . dot connects to dot.
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Arwen037
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Then where did the idea of not wearing white for a second wedding come from?
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mercygate
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Must have come in history following the symbolic connection between white and purity got itself attached to wedding gowns (y’know: Revelation?).
These things are lower case “t” traditions. I have known second-wedding brides (one a widow and one whose marriage was annulled) who wore white gowns. Another young woman I know, who had a child out of wedlock, married her husband (not the father of the child) in a white wedding gown. Another girl, who DID marry the father of her child, wore white gown & veil. No biggie!
All are living happily ever after.
and SAME TO YOU!
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GraceDK
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I like this thread 
This is sound, charitable, Catholic talk, sisters 
… no nagging… no petty thoughts, no judgemental underlying messages … just simply: “Forget it ! Believe in the cleansing Blood of Jesus! Go and be unhappy nomore!”
:clapping: :heaven:
This is sound, charitable, Catholic talk, sisters … no nagging… no petty thoughts, no judgemental underlying messages … just simply: “Forget it ! Believe in the cleansing Blood of Jesus! Go and be unhappy nomore!”:clapping: :heaven:
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RCM
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Wear White!
The veil has NOTHING to do with purity either.
The veil has NOTHING to do with purity either.
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mercygate
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So, Arwen – when are we going to see pictures??? :bounce:
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HopeFull_Mom
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The secular world would have us think that once a person has lost their virginity or chastity they have lost something that they can not regain. How (or why) is a person supposed to be motivated to be chaste if their chastity is already “lost”? I’m sure this is a large part of why many young people today become permiscuous. The feeling that they have already lost their chastity, in escence their dignity, does little to help them to stay pure.
I got a forward the other day that comes to mind. It was about a man crunching up, stomping on, nearly destroying a twenty dollar bill and then asking people if they still wanted it. The answer was, of course, “YES”. His point was that the VALUE of the twenty hadn’t changed.
As human beings made in God’s image we have VALUE that does not change no matter what sins we commit. As Catholics we know that Jesus has the power to forgive those sins and that through confession He washes our souls until they are SPARKLING, WHITE, and BEAUTIFUL. Then to top it all off, He comes into COMMUNION with us in the Eucharist.
At baptism you were washed clean of original sin and were dressed in the white garment to represent the change within. If you’ve repented and gone to confession your soul has been washed clean in much the same way.
What a white wedding gown represents to others doesn’t really matter. If the gown represents purity to you ask yourself this…
Do you believe more in the mistakes that you have made or in God’s ability to forgive them?
If you are worthy to receive Jesus in the Eucharist, are you not worthy to wear a beautiful white dress at your wedding?
Getting married isn’t about who you were, it is about who you will become. Wear the white dress as a symbol of what you intend to give to God and your husband on that day. Your chastity, your purity, your love!! Because of God, you DO have all that to give and what a beautiful gift it will be!!!
I got a forward the other day that comes to mind. It was about a man crunching up, stomping on, nearly destroying a twenty dollar bill and then asking people if they still wanted it. The answer was, of course, “YES”. His point was that the VALUE of the twenty hadn’t changed.
As human beings made in God’s image we have VALUE that does not change no matter what sins we commit. As Catholics we know that Jesus has the power to forgive those sins and that through confession He washes our souls until they are SPARKLING, WHITE, and BEAUTIFUL. Then to top it all off, He comes into COMMUNION with us in the Eucharist.
At baptism you were washed clean of original sin and were dressed in the white garment to represent the change within. If you’ve repented and gone to confession your soul has been washed clean in much the same way.
What a white wedding gown represents to others doesn’t really matter. If the gown represents purity to you ask yourself this…
Do you believe more in the mistakes that you have made or in God’s ability to forgive them?
If you are worthy to receive Jesus in the Eucharist, are you not worthy to wear a beautiful white dress at your wedding?
Getting married isn’t about who you were, it is about who you will become. Wear the white dress as a symbol of what you intend to give to God and your husband on that day. Your chastity, your purity, your love!! Because of God, you DO have all that to give and what a beautiful gift it will be!!!
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GraceDK
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Amen, Amen sister in Jesus…
Beautiful post
A song for my sisters here:
youtube.com/watch?v=XChCVvSOGDo
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mercygate
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blubber, blubber, snivel. That is SO beautiful!
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EasterJoy
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Absolutely. Beautifully said.Amen, Amen sister in Jesus…
Beautiful post
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