Who goes to bed first?

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Our 2 babies are up until nearly 10 most nights. Our teenagers even later. She usually collapses before I do but I often fall asleep on the couch. I would prefer we go together but, it just isn’t possible or realistic. I guess our marriage is on hold for now.
 
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TarAshly:
its actually my favorite part of married life, just going to sleep next to the one you love.
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It’s one of my favorite parts too. 🙂

My husband and I usually go to bed at the same time unless one of us is exhausted or sick and needs to go to bed really early. I’m more likely to just hit the pillow and fall asleep while he reads, because I’m up earlier than him in the mornings. I usually just wake him up for work when I’m about to leave for my commute.
 
I wish we had the pillow talk time. It’s the only quite time we have after the kiddies go to bed. I am usually in the back reading and dh is on the computer at all times of the night. I don’t get how he can go on just a few hours sleep. If the kids cry out at night, he is usually the first one there because he is already awake. Even if he is in the back, Sports Center is on the tv. I’ll live, I know, at least he comes and sits with me sometimes. I’ll usually fall asleep reading.
 
My husband and I go to bed at the same time…but if I want to sleep earlier, he’ll come in and play on the computer or play my gameboy in bed. We get up together, except for the mornings that I have to get up at 6 for labs. If he has to get up earlier, I will get up with him and have a coffee. If I feel like sleeping after he leaves then I will. We do everything together though so it isn’t suprising. If he needs something at the store, he begs me to go with him…lol!!!
 
If you ask my husband, he would say that I go to bed first… I would have you know that he does. I say I am going to bed, but on the way I stop and check the sink for dishes that may have made an apprearance, I check to make sure that the bills are ready to go out, I pick up the toys the baby has been playing with all night, ect… I travel through the house from one floor to another, one room at a time doing last minute things that need done. I finally make it to our luandry room/walk-in closet (might I suggest this in your next home… I wash it, dry it, iron it, and hang it all in the same room! It’s great!) While I am changing, I am loading the washer or unloading the dryer. It takes me a good thirty minutes to get into bed in which my husband is usually already snuggled up like a bug in a rug. :yawn: Funny thing is that I never see him get to the bedroom… He’s sneaky… But if you ask my husband… I go to bed first, but you now know the truth!:rotfl:
 
me - my indian name would be “snores like trapped bear” and I can have the alarm a foot from my ear BLARING on high for an hour and not budge an inch or wake up in the least littlest bit.
her - a gentle breeze in a neighboring state wakes her.

solution:
she has - earplugs (soft kind from Target), eye mask, air cleaner next to bed for white noise and goes to sleep before me.
I use: nasal strips, singulair, neti pot to clean sinuses, snore spray for mouth and always sleep on stomach.

works fine for us.
a little work.
but we both sleep

zzzzz
 
What a cruel poll. I would give anything to go back to bed and I am only half way through the day. Our latest plan (with new baby), I go to bed at 9:00. She gives last feeding and is in bed by 10:00. I have the middle of the night one, 2-4 am. I was up at 2:30 this morning an unable to go back to sleep. sleep. sleep.zzzzzzz
 
I can´t anwser the poll…Im unmarried and single…so Im going first in bed:D its logic is´nt it? There are only me:D 😃 :rotfl:
 
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SHE would want to pillow talk and long conversations, spending time together, etc. . . likewise, I would be unconscious as soon as my body hits that nice cold bed. As a matter of fact, I’d be soo tired that if she felt it extremely important to have a conversation in bed, I would get very upset with her!!!
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This describes us perfectly! My husband is a resident, so he works long hours and gets up very early, so he goes to bed early. (He has to be at the hospital around 5-6am and he has a bit of a commute). If I go to bed with him, I ALWAYS want to lay there and chat about the day, but he is literally OUT as soon as his head hits the pillow. So, I usually end up using the evening hours to get stuff done around the house that I neglect during the day (laundry, cleaning, etc). It is also my unwind time, since I spend all day with the kids…so I can read a book, take a bath, etc. I DO wish we went to bed together, and sometimes we get into sync for a few weeks, but my nocturnal side usually comes out sooner rather than later.

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As a general rule, we go together. . .but there are common exceptions. It is not unusual on weekends for my wife to crash before me, and on weeknights (when I have to get up at 5AM) for me to go to bed first.

Commonly, though, we go together. Just another manifestation of doing things together.
 
My wife goes to bed and I stay on the forums! Now that she is on the forums, too, I need to wait for my turn…
 
My hubby goes to sleep first. But get this…in the recliner. Since children, I have stopped “trying” to get him to come to bed with me. I think he just does this so that he won’t have to feed the baby. So I have pretty much given up on going to bed together…I highly DO NOT recommend that anyone get in this habit…not good for the marriage!
 
My wife and I go to bed at the same time. It is our time to relax, talk, cuddle. We often get into laughing fits just sitting there talking. I cherrish that time!

However, if the question was who STAYS in bed…that would be my wife. I am the parent that gets up with the children at night. Nightmares, can’t find a teddybear, need to be cuddled, and need a ba-ba refilled (all happened last night). I don’t mind this. I tell all of my friends that my wonderful wife has blessed me with four wonderful children (so far), then I will surely let her rest during the night.

Besides, she is now a stay-at-home mother. She DESERVES her sleep. The Lord knows she works ten times as hard as I do in a day!!!
 
I’ll tell ya’ll on May 29th:D, actually come to think about it, I guess I won’t be near a computer until we’re back from the honeymoon!
 
He does… I have trouble falling asleep and usually do so in front of the TV.
 
When we first got married 15 years ago we went to sleep at the same time. Actually he slept while I laid there. I’m a night owl and he’s an early bird. We have come to accept that we just have different sleep patterns. We’ve noticed the same in our kids. The girls go to sleep early like their dad and the boys tend to fall asleep later like me.
 
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