Who needs a friend?

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Don’t get me wrong, I love my non-Catholic friends to bits but it is awkward explaining to people that despite attending mass weekly and it being an important part of your life you don’t have any Catholic friends.
 
Hi Lea, I have a close friend who is just like you… A proper introvert! I am ambivert so I can get along with both. I find it hard though to understand the inner world of introverts in depth which sometimes drives me crazy. It requires a lot of patience from both sides…
 
Most my close friends live abroad. I kind of got used to it. But it is hard on certain days when you really want to get out just to enjoy a nice day…
 
I think communication is one of the most important elements of friendship. One person always trying to do the speaking, planning, texting, messaging is a killer. I think it is a skill sorely lacking today. I am 48 and not just talking about the millinials.
My age and guys older who don’t pull their weight.
 
Ema, I think one of the things I had to come to terms with after university is that there are never going to be any spontaneous get togethers again. It was a rough couple of years.

It’s also hard when something goes wrong for a friend and you are far away. I have had times when I would have given anything to say, do you want me to come by after work? and of course you can’t as you have to plan a trip.
 
Are you saying you are looking for friends? Cos if you are I suggest joining in at your parish, for example volunteering? I had met so many friends that way. I moved to my parish 2 yrs ago and knew no one. I am on my own, do not work and am not in the best health. I joined in volunteering in a limited capacity and have made friends of all ages. I now get invited to Easter lunch and out to coffee etc. my parish puts on the odd film show or social too which is helpful. I don’t know what area/country you are in (sorry not fully functional on this new design yet) but if you are in UK try meetup it’s a website for joining groups, to my delight (and shock) a Catholic ladies group started up the other day! so anything is possible Good luck.
 
Well I have a lot of friends, but sadly few practice their faith. So I kinda got used to hanging out with lots of atheists, though I try my best not to do pagan things.
I don’t seek much in a friend really, I just hope he is honest and does not make fun of people for the sake of being funny. A joke like that is sometimes ok if the other person understands it as a joke, but sometimes people take things too far. But I am mostly introverted to the point I won’t feel sad if I don’t have many friends.
I just wish I had more serious Catholic friends.
I also like friends who I can be weird with but also enter into a serious respectful conversation. I have a friend like that and despite our different worldviews our discussions have made us become great friends.
 
I read a lot about introverts here… One of my closest friends is a typical introvert and I do find it hard to understand her ups and downs. But I try to show her that I love her no matter what. Communication, however, is a very delicate subject between us though…
 
At this point in my life, I feel almost defined by my loneliness. It’s been about 10 years since I’ve had a true friend. I have “friends” now that I interact with, but perhaps friend isn’t the right word. We enjoy doing the same activities and whatnot, but I don’t feel there’s really any kind of personal connection. I’m 38 and have never dated anyone or had any kind of romantic relationship. I’ve pretty much given up on that at this point. It just seems pointless.
 
It’s quite complicated tbh. Even I’m not so sure of what I want my friend to do when I’m down. I’m allergic to showing emotion to others, lol. Which is why I love texting when I’m not in a good mood (because you have a certain amount of control and you can talk without feeling exhausted) Unfortunately my friends hate it!
 
Still learning to be my own best friend …I think when I get around to finally doing that,then I can be compleatly myself with other people.I don’t know,every body seems to bring out different aspects of my personality and it would be amazing to be able to be compleatly myself with friends 🙂
 
I considered myself a “forced introvert” (note : past tense). I was bullied (not so much physicly though) in elementry and cried alot. People saw me as weird and emotional, sometimes even my parents. I wanted to be alone where no one could judge me, so I shut myself off.

Almost never hung out with friends to the mall/somewhere else. I would cry if my mom or dad took me a social event where I had to “look apropriate” and “act well”. I would be the last person to know if there was news in the class. Even, I once studied for the wrong material on a big test because I wrote it wrong and had no one to study with me to remind me about it.

It was horrible, I was sad, developed a pessimistic view and lower self esteem which I still have to deal up till this moment. Deep down I always knew I wanted friends who would not judge me. And I would say I wasn’t deeply into my faith back then despite being a cradle catholic. Didn’t pray about it, but our God is great and has amazing plans for me.

In 10th grade, we had sort of a homeroom where our teacher told us to write advice for each other. What I got from most of the classmates was to be open. They wanted to be my friends and know about me more. And so I did for the next 2 years.

Long story short, one of the best decision I made. I became friends with a variety of people. Yes I still got judged and yes I still cried. But I found some who accepted me for who I am and didn’t judge me.

I guess what I hope from posting my story is that people who read this is that you don’t try to conform yourself to someone you’re not. God made you unique as you are. Don’t see being an introvert as a bad thing. It doesn’t make you a bad friend or a bad person whatsoever.
 
I’m mourning still the loss of two great best friends who moved away from my small town. I’m quiet and don’t like being with loud attention seeking people. I cherish the Catholic acquaintances I have and will keep praying that God will continue to guide me.
 
Lol… When I read what you wrote about texting it was hard not to laugh because it reminded me once again of my dear introvert friend. In the beginning of our friendship I used to think “what’s wrong with the telephone?” as she seemed to be terrified of phone calls but loved texting and emails… I learnt to accept her as she is.
 
Lol! When my friend calls me, I won’t pick up the call and I would text her instead. It used to drive her craaaazy
 
Calling people on the phone makes me nervous as 9/10 it’s clearly an awkward time. I like to send a text first to check.
 
Lol… I am not an introvert but I do like texting as it leaves the other side free to answer whenever is suitable with no pression.
 
Same here. Since I was 4 (in kindergarten), I was kind of aware that the other girls treated me weird and I found out that it was because of my race and the way I look (trust me when I say I look like a sewer rat on meth), up till now, I have the same exact treatment from girls around me. That made me insecure as heck, and I feel anxious about going out, especially without makeup/ugly clothes.

I feel like I would enjoy friendships a lot more if I looked better and was a lot more confident, but at the same time my parents used to say I was incredibly anxious and shy since I was a baby, and such attitudes can manifest later on. So I’m not sure if I would be an extrovert or not. Wish I was though, it can get you far in life
 
Anyone I guess , but I do find it easier to talk with women than men, don’t ask me why , I don’t know ,
How does one write a friendship resume ,lol
Another good question,
 
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