Who to Marry?

[runningdude]

runningdude said,

“Let’s not be unrealistic; no body is perfect, and we know all is a paragraph about the OP’s fiancee…”

I’m not talking about being perfect, I’m talking about how he feels about the two women.

If the OP had to choose one woman to spend the rest of his life on a desert island with, do we think he’d choose his fiancee?

I don’t disagree. I just urge caution, comparing a real relationship with its challenges to a hypothetical relationship with a women who has not been available.

He should end his current relationship only due to the dynamics of the current relationship, rather than make it contingent on someone else being available. I agree very strongly, in fact, with your advice to leave time for healing and reflection following a break up .

 

[Xantippe]

A piece of advice I’ve seen elsewhere is that if one is torn between Guy A and Guy B, that may be a sign that neither of them is the right one. I wouldn’t be prepared to back that piece of advice in every single case, but it’s worth reflecting on.

 

[Costner]

If you loved Jane, you wouldn’t even consider being with Marge. Break it off gently with your fiancé and be with your soul mate.