Whose mortal sin is it?

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My son will be 18 in April He has become very rebellious, defiant and disobedient. (example, he stays out late or overnight on Saturday nights despite our instructions otherwise; his behavior is subject for another thread)

My question is if/ when he misses mass, is it his mortal sin or ours as his parents?
 
At that age it would be his sin. As to whether or not it constitutes a mortal sin would depend on his disposition (knowledge and consent) and this should be discerned with a priest in the confessional. At 17 years old he cannot be dragged into Church. You can continue to lead by example and express your concern for his spiritual well being. It is not easy being the parent of a child who will not attend Mass. I speak from experience but take heed. Time does take its course and one day you may be pleasantly surprised. But in the meantime never cease to pray for him and pray to Saint Monica. She prayed for some 32 years and her son not only converted but became one of the greatest theologians and doctor of the Church. (St. Augustine) So hang in there even though I know how difficult and discouraging it is…God Bless…teachccd 🙂
 
Thanks, teach, that helps relieve me of guilt. Unfortunately, I’m concerned about the example to my 14 and 9 year old as well, who will probably ask why they have to go if their brother doesn’t…
At what age does it become the child’s decision?
 
Technically, I feel that as long as a child is living under your roof you have the right to have them accomapany you to Mass. BUT, this is not always feasible. A big 17 year old who resists cannot be physically brought to Church against his will. I, too, have two younger kids and they still willingly attend Mass due to our example as parents. (And some of my ranting and raving at my oldest son who is, by the way, slowly returning to Mass).

Certainly, at least in California, when a child turns 18 they can be told to leave the house and be on their own. But then again we are parents and our love is unconditional. So keep up the paryers and allow your younger kids to understand the present situation with open communication. Many times younger siblings learn from the older one’s mistakes as well as the good examples.

Write me back if you wish. I’m hurrying off to Mass…God Bless…teachccd 🙂
 
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