I didnt agree. Reread what i said (i know it was bad grammar, sorry about that). However, virginity is not a concern as far as sex is involved for a woman who was previously married. It all has to be done within marriage.
The idea is that they have never been touched. I do agree that there are men who dont mind that their future wife has slept with 10 guys before them and vice versa for women about their future husbands (regardless of whether she repented or not…by the way, many people dont believe that having sex out of marriage is something to repent for).
I said this on another thread and I will say it again here. Muslim men (the ones that are actually following the Quran and Sunnah) are the ones that protect themselves from every kind of sexual immorality. INCLUDING, looking at half naked women. So, as you can imagine, while the men who are freely indulging in their desires are screaming “i cant believe you believe that you will have virgins in heaven…thats just immoral” , they are busy refraining from these things…ALL for the sake of God.
Their lives are not easy, and I believe, as a muslim FEMALE, that in paradise they should be rewarded with everything that they refrained from in this world.
There are certain people on the day of Judgement that will be held in high esteem. One of them is a man who was seduced by a woman of wealth and beauty and rejected her saying “i fear Allah”