Why are there cafeteria Catholics when it comes to the OF?

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**i believe people who attend EF feel like their getting the real deal.**Those people put a little more efficience on the Mass so they are more likely to be a regular attendent.They may take Mass a litttle more seriously and dress more traditional.When the OF came out it loosened the standards.People didn/t feel that the had to be quite as reverend.I think the Church did lose something when it went OF.I think it was to boost attendance.I don’t know that it did.
What does that even mean? That the OF is the “unreal deal?” And if that is what they mean again, how in the world could they place themselves in the position as the arbiters of what is “real” and not real?

Is it a matter of ignorance? Is it a matter of misplaced pride?
 
=ElToro;8019510]What’s with the cafeteria Catholics when it comes to the OF Mass? The Church provides us with legitimate choices and obviously there is no problem with voicing suport for our legitimate preferences. But to make ourselves the arbiters of right and wrong, good and bad by attacking those legitrimate choices which we may personally might not favor makes no sense to me.
Consider those who make the (erroneous) claim that it’s wrong to receive communion except on one’s tongue even where the Church allows communion in the hand. Or those who claim it’s wrong to receive communion while standing even though the Church allows and sometimes even gives preference to this posture. Everyone has their preferences but to attack something the Church allows and in some cases even promotes? That’s bad form and I wonder about the source.
How about those that suggest that using the piano during the Mass is wrong? Yes, the Church gives preference to the pipe organ but that certainly does not mean that using a piano is wrong. Some even suggest the EF Mass is inherently superior to the OF Mass which of course is not true.
Where have these people been taught that they (and not the Church) are the arbiters of right and wrong, good and bad? This issue amazes me more and more.
My dear friend in Christ,

***PERHAPS it MIGHT make a difference if you knew the history and origins of the N.O . mass changes? Then again; perhaps not:***o

The difference between “allows” and DESIRES is as far apart as the East is from the West. I AM of the opinion that because “one can” HAS NEVER MEANT “one should.”

It is NOTEABLE that when one receives OUR GOD in Holy Communion from OUR Pope:

One MUST Kneel
One MUST Receive on the tongue

These REMAIN the World-wide norms for the CC BECAUSE it is more respectful and more pious and places the emphasis back on God and away from us.

This may be a bit of a surprise BUT Mass is about God, Sacrifice, Worship and piety. What We like; what we think is not even revelant.:eek:

God Bless you,
Pat
 
This may be a bit of a surprise BUT Mass is about God, Sacrifice, Worship and piety. What We like; what we think is not even revelant.:eek:
Exactly. Reverence, as in humility, is an interior disposition, not an outward show, even if how we want to display this interiour reverence and this interior humility might be personal preferences of “likes and thinks.”

If someone wants to kneel or receive on the tongue, these in themselves are not better or more reverent or more humble manifestations of piety, and the big mistake that many make is in judging others as less reverent or less humble than themselves because they choose to lawfully do otherwise.

Indeed, it IS about God, not about ourselves or how perfectly we act or are seen to act by others, or how imperfectly others appear to act in our estimation, or how easily tempted we are with a wandering eye of judgmentalism.
 
I’m always shocked by those who said they left the church because OTHERS around them weren’t “towing the catholic line”…

um… WHAT??? I don’t care if someone recieves communion while standing on their head… if YOU left the church as a result, then YOU have the bigger faith issue with being catholic.

And that’s the direct point I make to any SSPXers that I find out there… they abandoned the church. They’re the perfect element to help make sure that abuses are widely promulgated, but instead of being there to help the church through the transition, they left, ensuring that those who were less inclined to follow the rubrics of the OF were the ones left with a larger voice. That’s WRONG. It hurt the body of the faithful to lose some of it’s most orthodox voices. They abandoned the church, which renders them automatically the “less catholic”
Yes, it does seem pretty lame to see people occasionally claim that a music director or a guitar or dirty hands of others or a clown costume from 1973 got them to quit the Church, and then stacking their self-righteous indignation up against what the martyrs went through so as to not deny Christ.
 
To be fair, I don’t think it’s accurate to apply the pejorative “cafeteria Catholic” to traditionalists who think the extraordinary form is objectively better, that communion on the tongue is inferior, etc. Catholics are free to believe that Church disciplines are bad ideas for whatever reason; criticizing a discipline is not heterodoxy, dissent, or disobedience.
 
I think that people like to confuse their preferences with the laws of the Church. I prefer the EF, Gregorian Chant, and Communion on the tongue, but I understand and accept the fact that the church allows the OF and communion in the hand.

I also think people are always too nostalgic about what they think are the “good ol’ days.” From what I hear, there were abuses at mass then too. For example, so called 15 or 20 minute ‘speed masses.’

My advise is to worship the way you want to worship (so long as it is within the laws of the Church, of course ;)) and to not care about what confused people, or SSPX’ers have to say.
Why can’t we have more people like you around? I’m sort of an opposite person; I go to the OF and receive CITH. I recognize that other people prefer the EF or COTT and the Church totally makes that available so I say “do it if that’s what you feel like”; all I’ve asked in return is for those people to reciprocate. It shouldn’t be that hard since those reciprocal options are all licit, so it’s nice to see someone do that.
To be fair, I don’t think it’s accurate to apply the pejorative “cafeteria Catholic” to traditionalists who think the extraordinary form is objectively better, that communion on the tongue is inferior, etc. Catholics are free to believe that Church disciplines are bad ideas for whatever reason; criticizing a discipline is not heterodoxy, dissent, or disobedience.
But you never see people just criticize. There are always calls to end CITH or reinstate Latin or the Eucharist kneeling around here (and I could go on). That is crossing the line from criticism to calling it inferior.

They are allowed to have an opinion, but they are not allowed to tell other Catholics that they are “less Catholic” or have “inferior faith” or whatever just because they are enjoying a licit option that the person doesn’t like. Calling for an option to be suppressed is implicitly saying that (and I know everyone will say “that’s not true”, but that’s how I read it most of the time).
 
What makes you (or anyone else) the arbiter of what needs reform and not the Church herself? Why would the people you mention put themselves in the place of being the judges of what is an abuse and what is not?
So what makes you the arbiter of blah blah? Have you not heard of the reform? Follow closely what the Pope has been doing the past 5 years. All these practices and documents he has released or prefers are for a reason. He realizes that too many people don’t see what mass truly is. Reverence has been lost, and so has Catholic identity especially due to the bureaucracy in the Church, which the Pope has spoken harshly about. Reform of the reform!
 
My dear friend in Christ,

***PERHAPS it MIGHT make a difference if you knew the history and origins of the N.O . mass changes? Then again; perhaps not:***o

The difference between “allows” and DESIRES is as far apart as the East is from the West. I AM of the opinion that because “one can” HAS NEVER MEANT “one should.”

It is NOTEABLE that when one receives OUR GOD in Holy Communion from OUR Pope:

One MUST Kneel
One MUST Receive on the tongue

These REMAIN the World-wide norms for the CC BECAUSE it is more respectful and more pious and places the emphasis back on God and away from us.

This may be a bit of a surprise BUT Mass is about God, Sacrifice, Worship and piety. What We like; what we think is not even revelant.:eek:

God Bless you,
Pat
Why would you type something like the above? What made you do it? 😦

You are providing an astounding example of the cafeteria Catholicsm that I am asking about. No thanks, I am a Catholic Christian. I have no desire to be a cafeteria Catholics.

P.S. Your “N.O.” comment is terribly bad taste in this day and age, no matter what its genesis.
 
…If someone wants to kneel or receive on the tongue, these in themselves are not better or more reverent or more humble manifestations of piety, and the big mistake that many make is in judging others as less reverent or less humble than themselves because they choose to lawfully do otherwise…
That’s true. But what makes someone make a comment like:

"One MUST Kneel
One MUST Receive on the tongue

These REMAIN the World-wide norms for the CC BECAUSE it is more respectful and more pious and places the emphasis back on God and away from us."

They are not the “World-wide norms for the CC.” Kneeling is not even the World-wide norm in the Latin Rite. That said, what makes people make such comments time after times after time? They offer their personal preferences as “norms” when they are not.
 
So what makes you the arbiter of blah blah? Have you not heard of the reform? Follow closely what the Pope has been doing the past 5 years. All these practices and documents he has released or prefers are for a reason. He realizes that too many people don’t see what mass truly is. Reverence has been lost, and so has Catholic identity especially due to the bureaucracy in the Church, which the Pope has spoken harshly about. Reform of the reform!
What? :confused: Be very careful.

If the Church has “released” a new directive or “norm” and one is adament about following it, that is hardly being an arbiter of what is reguired. That’s not my question

Further it would be resoundingly WRONG/FALSE to suggest that receiving communion in the Latin Rite while kneeling and/or on the tongue is “better” than other approved postures and methods because that is the personal choice of Pope Benedict XVI in how he chooses to distribute communion.

I guess I could ask the question why some falsly conclude that based on the Pope’ personal perogative? Is it because it matches their perconceived notions of what is “better” or “best?” I suppose that brings us back to the question of where they came up with such an idea?
 
To be fair, I don’t think it’s accurate to apply the pejorative “cafeteria Catholic” to traditionalists who think the extraordinary form is objectively better, that communion on the tongue is inferior, etc. Catholics are free to believe that Church disciplines are bad ideas for whatever reason; criticizing a discipline is not heterodoxy, dissent, or disobedience.
I think the term “cafeteria Catholic” is very fitting when applied to those Catholics who makes claim that certain elements the Church allows/encourages are somehow bad or “illicit” or “abusive” or even inferior to their personal choices.

Critisizing an allowed/encouraged “discipline” is terribly bad practice. Again, I’m not sure where Catholics get the motivation to do that?
 
Critisizing an allowed/encouraged “discipline” is terribly bad practice. Again, I’m not sure where Catholics get the motivation to do that?
That’s not true. There are many canonized saints who criticized allowed/encouraged “disciplines” and consequently started the wheels of reform turning in the Church. Some were even instructed by apparitions of Our Lord to begin the reform.

Everyone has preferences. Preferences are not wrong. For example, I love incense, and I wish our parish used it every liturgy; however, I recognize that the Church allows for its non-use, and so a legitimate option has been exercised by my pastor.
 
They are allowed to have an opinion, but they are not allowed to tell other Catholics that they are “less Catholic” or have “inferior faith” or whatever just because they are enjoying a licit option that the person doesn’t like. Calling for an option to be suppressed is implicitly saying that (and I know everyone will say “that’s not true”, but that’s how I read it most of the time).
Then frankly I would say it’s you who are being a bit unfair, reading a negative judgment of people’s hearts or faiths into traditionalists’ criticisms of certain practices . No judgment of individuals is implied by traditionalists’ arguing for what they think are superior practices, except perhaps that the individuals have not reasoned through the issue sufficiently or do not have all the information they need to arrive at the truth. Most liturgical traditionalists I know are not implying anything about others’ holiness or faith when they argue about the liturgy.
I think the term “cafeteria Catholic” is very fitting when applied to those Catholics who makes claim that certain elements the Church allows/encourages are somehow bad or “illicit” or “abusive” or even inferior to their personal choices.

Critisizing an allowed/encouraged “discipline” is terribly bad practice. Again, I’m not sure where Catholics get the motivation to do that?
I would say that it is simply incorrect to call a practice allowed by the Church “illicit” or “abusive.” But it is not cafeteria Catholicism to take the position that a certain discipline is really inferior to an alternative. The very principle of Resourcement from Vatican II implies that a current discipline in the Church could be inferior to an older practice, and so, that a return to that different older practice is called for. Laypeople are free to criticize disciplines; indeed, if they are genuinely convinced that the alternative is better, it might be their duty to do so. Catholics get the motivation to call a discipline inferior or a bad idea simply because it seems to them in their reason that it really is so.

And I am no liturgical traditionalist, as a search of my posts will clearly reveal.
 
The difference between “allows” and DESIRES is as far apart as the East is from the West. I AM of the opinion that because “one can” HAS NEVER MEANT “one should.”
Apples and oranges, because likewise the difference between voicing a preference for one over the other as more reverent and declaring valid actions as objectively wrong or disordered is just as far as the east is from the west… and that’s the point that’s being made: we can have preference (Lord knows I certainly do!), but we cannot declare invalid and illicit what the church has allowed as valid and licit.
 
=Stylites;8023185]Exactly. Reverence, as in humility, is an interior disposition, not an outward show, even if how we want to display this interiour reverence and this interior humility might be personal preferences of “likes and thinks.”
If someone wants to kneel or receive on the tongue, these in themselves are not better or more reverent or more humble manifestations of piety, and the big mistake that many make is in judging others as less reverent or less humble than themselves because they choose to lawfully do otherwise.
Indeed, it IS about God, not about ourselves or how perfectly we act or are seen to act by others, or how imperfectly others appear to act in our estimation, or how easily tempted we are with a wandering eye of judgmentalism.
***THANK YOU for the kind responce.🙂

While I strogly agree with most of your reply, there is a difference in the level of piety in the decessions we choose to make.

Certainly piety is both a private thing and a public thing. One errors in not understanding this. Receiving keeling is both publically [the lesser important aspect] and privately a MUCH better choice, because we DO NOT TOUCH or hold God in our hands. Our “bodies indeed are a temple” but ONLY consecrated hands ought to touch the REAL Presence of Jesus.

Similarly Kneeling is both an outward sign of an inward disposition of SUBJECTION to and for our God.

In the hand and standing IMO is an attempt to at least be on a par with our Ordained Priesthood. And this not only is not the MOST pious manner of going to Holy Communion. In the HAND is “taking Christ” while on the tongue is RECEIVING Christ. That is a HUGE Theoligical difference.

Everyone OWES to God the very BEST they can give back to him. Kneeling and on the tongue seems to better fulfill this obligation.

Because of my age and physical condition I Genuflect and receive Christ on my tongue. I ONLY receive communion from the priest and ONLY take the Blood of Christ from a priest or a Deacon.👍

May God continue to Bless you my friend.

THANKS again for the kind responce.
Pat***
 
What? :confused: Be very careful.

If the Church has “released” a new directive or “norm” and one is adament about following it, that is hardly being an arbiter of what is reguired. That’s not my question

Further it would be resoundingly WRONG/FALSE to suggest that receiving communion in the Latin Rite while kneeling and/or on the tongue is “better” than other approved postures and methods because that is the personal choice of Pope Benedict XVI in how he chooses to distribute communion.

I guess I could ask the question why some falsly conclude that based on the Pope’ personal perogative? Is it because it matches their perconceived notions of what is “better” or “best?” I suppose that brings us back to the question of where they came up with such an idea?
***Friend you and likeminded COULD NOT possibly be more wrong.

Do you understand that Our Pope is CHRIST on earth?

May God bless and grant you understanding,

Pat***
 
Most Catholics have not been well educated in their faith over the last 40 years. I have friends who went from pre-school through graduate school in Catholic institutions and cannot answer the most basic catechetical questions, nor do they know many of the most basic prayers.
So, why are there so many “cafeteria-style Catholics?” They are simply misinformed or are ignorant of their faith.

2 Solutions:
  1. Lead by example
  2. Pray
 
=archangel04;8024006]So what makes you the arbiter of blah blah? Have you not heard of the reform? Follow closely what the Pope has been doing the past 5 years. All these practices and documents he has released or prefers are for a reason. He realizes that too many people don’t see what mass truly is. Reverence has been lost, and so has Catholic identity especially due to the bureaucracy in the Church, which the Pope has spoken harshly about. Reform of the reform!
Friend did you know that “the reform” did not require:

An altar facing the laity

Removal of the Communion ralis

Relocation of the tabernacle in a GREAT MANY CHURCHES

Altar girls

Communion under BOTH species

EM’s [anything but] extroidary. Every day nearly verywhere is normal; not extrodinary

Communion received in the hand…

NOT ONE of these was mandated or if my memory serves even suggested.

May God continue to Bless you and yours,
Pat
 
PJM,

When you say “the reform,” are you talking about Sacrosanctum Concilium alone? If so, then I suppose I can’t argue with you. But I think it’s more accurate to apply the term “the reform” to all of the liturgical changes made by the Church during and after Vatican II, in which case several things on your list was explicitly allowed by the reform, including:
  • An altar facing the laity
  • Altar girls
  • Communion under BOTH species
  • Communion received in the hand…
As to these:
  • Removal of the Communion ralis
  • Relocation of the tabernacle in a GREAT MANY CHURCHES
I really have no idea when they were allowed and when prohibited, since they are not per se things that happen at Mass, but rather, features of a church building. The second one in particular I find so self-evidently a horrible idea that while I suspect the tabernacle never strictly had to be front and center, I agree that moving it was a misguided side-effect of the “reform.”
EM’s [anything but] extroidary. Every day nearly verywhere is normal; not extrodinary
I don’t believe “extraordinary” means “used less than 10% or 5% of the time.” It is not a matter of what percentage of time they are used. Rather, extraordinary means “not the standard way of doing things, used only when the ordinary way of doing things is impossible or insufficient.” If unfortunate and extraordinary circumstances (like a shortage of priests, as we have in the US) are in place every week, then extraordinary procedures may be present every week. That does not mean that the extraordinary things are being treated as ordinary, it merely means that the extraordinary things are needed every week.

But to the point, PJM is free to hold that all of the above are bad ideas. I think he’s wrong, but he is not a cafeteria Catholic for judging some practices to be really better than others.
 
That’s not true. There are many canonized saints who criticized allowed/encouraged “disciplines” and consequently started the wheels of reform turning in the Church. Some were even instructed by apparitions of Our Lord to begin the reform.

Everyone has preferences. Preferences are not wrong. For example, I love incense, and I wish our parish used it every liturgy; however, I recognize that the Church allows for its non-use, and so a legitimate option has been exercised by my pastor.
There is nothing wrong with preferences as I have stated more than once in this thread. But that’s a world away from attacking something the Church has approved. If I say I prefer COT over CIH for XYZ reasons there is no problem with that. If I attack CIH there is a big problem with that. The problem gets bigger when people start making silly claims like CIH is not a valid way to receive communion anywhere or that COT is somehow better because the current Pope only delivers communion in that manner.
 
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