This website is run by apologists. Apologists seem to be more of the “Peter” and “James” types. Tradition, dotting i’s and crossing t’s, vehemently holding one’s intellectual position. Others, like me, see ourselves more as “Paul” or “John” type. We want to know, where is the love? Why are our leaders hypocrites? We talk more about the Holy Spirit – not a good topic for the Peter and James type because they like traditional rules and the Holy Spirit implies there is guidance beyond what is written and what we can humanly extrapolate from it.
Also I notice a great deal of emphasis on sins of the flesh. I have ideas about why, but so does everyone else I suspect.
That said, over my years on the forum it seems we have had increasing numbers of people posting about mysticism and touchy-feely stuff than before. About the allegorical and deeper levels of scripture and not just the same old arguments about literal meanings. My CAF experience, anyway, seems like it’is evolving in a positive direction. The biggest thing that has helped me lose my anxiety for CAF is to convince myself I neither have to be seen as right, nor do I have convince anyone else they are wrong. I can try to do it, but no longer do I feel the aching compulsion of trying to fix everyone and everything.
While that’s true, the opposite is also very true. I see discussions on things that people who never talk about in person. For example, sins of the flesh. People who try to be “good Catholics” get precious little information through other means, about what is or isn’t permitted in a marital bedroom. (Which I personally think is and overrated discussion.) Or in a non-marital situation for that matter. And any friends they’d even possibly be able to open up to, are just a ill-informed. Or other personal issues not related to sex such as family issues that result in all sorts of problems and divides. We hear confessions of one family member holding grudges against other family members, even though the families themselves know nothing about the issues discussed. Plus we do get a lot of discussions about how a person can improve with regard to a particular sin or virtue. That’s why I like it here – many hearfelt discussions. I’m sure there are phony posters who just lead others on, but if I can’t tell from the discussion then I may as well treat it as an authentic problem.
Actually I don’t mind getting many opinions on each issue because it gives me the best chance that some combination of them is actually true, or at least helpful. I’d much rather that than listen to any one source which supposedly is accurate – according to itself and or others. I have yet to find such a source on this earth – including my pastor and SD – that I consider infallible and can safely ignore all other sources.
Also I’ve learned that one does not need to get personally upset when threads go stupid or wrong. If we get upset, then that’s our own spiritual problem to deal with – not the fault of the other poster. Gosh if we are that touchy, all it would take would be a 'bot to get us all agitated.
Alan