Why Are You In Your Present Parish?

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I attend the Catholic Church that is directly across the street from our home. We chose to buy this home precisely because it is across from the Parish Church and School. We’ve been in the Parish for 24 years now and it is home. All our kids went to the school. I sing in the Choir. Our friends are here. We’ve been here through 3 pastors and countless assistants. We don’t always agree with how the place is run, the 1962 architecture – or even the choice of music, but God is here so why would I go anywhere else?
 
the 1962 architecture
What do you mean by 1962 architecture? This is a very specific year. Was there a new type of church architecture that originated in 1962? Or did your church get remodeled in 1962?
 
I prepared a special place for me in a group where I need their specific charisms, and where they are incomplete without mine.
hmmm… it would be nice if this were the case with our choice of parish… but… well… :confused:
Talk to me, y’all: Do I need my attitude adjusted? How did You arrive at “Home?”
I’m where i am at because I’m too lacking in $ to go anywhere else…

but maybe i’m also where i’m at because God… wants me to have an excessively heavy cross… :eek: 😃
 
I am a likely future immigrant to Catholicism, so this question is born of ignorance rather than malice.

I thought being a Catholic was like being a voter: You could only go to the precinct to which you were assigned. “Not So,” I’ve been told. So, I’ve been praying constantly to be led to the Parish where I “belong” and have attended Mass at 5-different ones in hopes of recieving the knowing “You’re Home, Bubba.”

A Catholic acquaintance informs me that I’m being too Protestant about this. He says that, other than stylistic differences between Priests, every Parish is the same. I can hit a different one each week, and it won’t matter. Being a member of the Body is all that counts.

I concede the point that some Protestants - especially us Charismatic/Pentecostal types - have to guard against over-reliance on emotionalism. Even smart Pentecostals caution against this. Still, I recoil at the thought that God has not prepared a special place for me in a group where I need their specific charisms, and where they are incomplete without mine. Just show up for feeding somewhere/anywhere on Sundays, and I’m good to go.

Talk to me, y’all: Do I need my attitude adjusted? How did You arrive at “Home?”
Naah, no attitude adjustment needed. Here’s my story:

I wanted to swim the Tiber, and ‘parish-shopped’ for a year before entering RCIA. I was like Goldilocks: This one was too cold, this one too big, etc.

The one I really liked had no parking so we kind of ruled that out.

I thought we had settled on a certain parish (all were within equal distance of home) because I wept like a baby the first time I attended Mass there.

However, when the time came to attend RCIA classes, the people from the selected parish acted as though I was annoying them. “Don’t call us; we’ll call you.”

In desperation, I called the people at the no-parking parish and asked about their RCIA program. Almost the INSTANT I hung up the phone, their priest called me back, begged me to come in and make an intitial visit. (“Don’t worry—I won’t bite!” he said… and he didn’t, but he did ‘waterboard’ us). 😃

We’ve been members of that parish ever since.
 
I attend the Catholic Church that is directly across the street from our home. We chose to buy this home precisely because it is across from the Parish Church and School. We’ve been in the Parish for 24 years now and it is home. All our kids went to the school. I sing in the Choir. Our friends are here. We’ve been here through 3 pastors and countless assistants. We don’t always agree with how the place is run, the 1962 architecture – or even the choice of music, but God is here so why would I go anywhere else?
This is wonderful!

I have somewhat of what I consider a “home” parish. But only because it is the one that my grandmother (mother’s mother) went from when she was a wee girl to her passing in the early 90’s at 80+ years old. When I was a wee kid and I spent my summers with grandma, this was the church I attended and even went to summer school (more of a Catholic summer school than “make up” summer school.) My mom now lives in the area and she attends that church. I have so many memories of summer school there and Christmasses, etc. And within our family (extended family as well) it’s just been our “central” parish. It’s the one I attended while living in San Antonio before moving to Dallas and the one I will attend when I visit there. It’s the one I always “go back” to.

I’ve wondered recently if I could register there, sort of like a “second” parish or something. And send in money for support as it is also a very small and poor church.
 
Church hopping for a Catholic is required at times in order to attend services for the family if you have a large one, in many instances it is nearly impossible to arrange services when and where you want. Also to consider is invitations to other parishes by faithful members who desire your presence. I receive many invitation to other parishes both by parishoners and Priests also. Father Thomas from the next parish over has been calling me for the past year to come over for coffee, Mass, Confession and parish activities. Father Perkle called me for his 25th Anniversary. Deacon Jim called me for a wedding at the Cathedral and we went to the Vatican for Pope John Paul 11’s invitation for the Jubilee. I find myself at many parishes not by “hopping” , rather by hoping that I can keep up with all the invitations and celebrations from friends and relatives. It looks like I am “hopping” when in fact I am “hopping” to satisfy all my acquaintences.
I don’t consider what you describe as “church hopping” at all! 🙂 I take that expression to mean constantly looking for a church and a priest and a congregation that suits all of your tastes, and moving on when something there grates on your sensitivities (I mean something that in itself is not wrong or an actual abuse). As a Protestant I used to hear things like “Oh, I don’t go to X church any more because i don’t like the new pastor”.
We may well need to search around to find a suitable church for our family or practical needs, as regards Mass times or the like, but searching for “perfection” is, or can be, rather self-seeking and immature, spirituallty.
 
Hello and welcome Home.
I’m in my parish because it’s the one I live within its boundaries. I arrived Home at the moment of my baptism. I was an infant then so it was always a natural thing for me. It is when I had fallen away that I realized that I was no longer home.

You are on a journey leading you to Christ, to the Eucharist. No matter where we are, no matter what time of day or night, any time we are gathered around the altar at the consecration, any time we receive the Lord body and blood, soul and divinity, time and space are transcended and we are all Home, together with all the angels and saints, the whole church is gathered; here the church militant, the church suffering as well as the victorious church in heaven. We are centred on Jesus Christ.

You will be welcome in any parish, any time; either as a member or a “tourist”. Our family enjoys touring around every now and then. It’s always nice to visit.

You will be needed in different ways at different times. You will grow and change. Your growth and development will depend on how you respond to your baptismal call and how well you dispose yourself to receiving the graces dispensed by God in His sacraments.

Right now, I believe you need to find a parish who’s RCIA program appeals to you. The program really should not vary from parish to the next but the people will so that really is the factor. If you already have a sponsor, then his/her parish may be a good idea. If you don’t have one, meet with the parish priest and the RCIA coordinator. It’s more important to let yourself be lead by the Lord. Trust in Him. Sometimes that means we must trust He will work in others (like His church) to provide us with what we need and to draw from us what He wants.

Blessings and Peace be with you.
 
What do you mean by 1962 architecture? This is a very specific year. Was there a new type of church architecture that originated in 1962? Or did your church get remodeled in 1962?
That was the year that our Church was built. It is very big, (seats 1500) very plain and has a very 1960 era feel. The stained glass is encased in concrete aggregate. There is no organ loft but a space for a choir smaller than 10 recessed into a hole in the floor. The hole in the floor was covered over many years ago so that our 45 plus member choir can be accomodated. Forty-seven years later we now need to replace the electric transistorized organ and have very little options. There is no room for a pipe organ so we must make do with electronic. Neither Mary nor Joseph has a side altar. During the month of May we must bring a statue from the school for the May Crowning. The architecture has been described as a “concrete bunker with a dixie cup on top.”

But given all that, it is home.😊
 
I left my home parish after 30+ years there. I was told I was “too Catholic”. I am a convert to the Catholic church. The church my family and I were attending was the only church we were members of. We didn’t go church hopping. My family and I were active members of this parish. I was EMC, Altar Server (as well as my kids) and did sacristan duties for the priests as requested. I served on our ladies group for many years, taught CCD for 18 1/2 yrs, helped with the rectory renovation project. My husband and kids were ushers and my husband was a lector. I enjoyed volunteering for my parish.

I have since changed to another church while my family (at least my husband) still attends Mass regularly with his parents at the old parish. I go with him but go to my church on Sundays.

I liked the more tradional Mass but the actions of the Priest and Altar servers need to have respect and reverence when they are on the altar! There will always be distractions but you have to remember why you go to church in the first place!

Thanks for listening…
 
(“Don’t worry—I won’t bite!” he said… and he didn’t, but he did ‘waterboard’ us). 😃
Ok, this could be a major issue for me, as I grew up in a Baptist household: When your people do that, is it just sprinkling, or total immersion?

sorry. i was in class from 8 a-m till 9 this evening. i’ll be normal again soon.
 
If you are on the journey, find the Parish with the most rock solid RCIA program you can.

Led by the Priest 👍
Uses the Catechism and solid materials (for example, ACM) 👍

Take a look at the web site, do they offer adoration? 👍
 
Hello and welcome Home.
I’m in my parish because it’s the one I live within its boundaries. I arrived Home at the moment of my baptism. I was an infant then so it was always a natural thing for me. It is when I had fallen away that I realized that I was no longer home.

You are on a journey leading you to Christ, to the Eucharist. No matter where we are, no matter what time of day or night, any time we are gathered around the altar at the consecration, any time we receive the Lord body and blood, soul and divinity, time and space are transcended and we are all Home, together with all the angels and saints, the whole church is gathered; here the church militant, the church suffering as well as the victorious church in heaven. We are centred on Jesus Christ.

You will be welcome in any parish, any time; either as a member or a “tourist”. Our family enjoys touring around every now and then. It’s always nice to visit.

You will be needed in different ways at different times. You will grow and change. Your growth and development will depend on how you respond to your baptismal call and how well you dispose yourself to receiving the graces dispensed by God in His sacraments.

Right now, I believe you need to find a parish who’s RCIA program appeals to you. The program really should not vary from parish to the next but the people will so that really is the factor. If you already have a sponsor, then his/her parish may be a good idea. If you don’t have one, meet with the parish priest and the RCIA coordinator. It’s more important to let yourself be lead by the Lord. Trust in Him. Sometimes that means we must trust He will work in others (like His church) to provide us with what we need and to draw from us what He wants.

Blessings and Peace be with you.
…and also with You. (did i get that right?)

Yup, sometimes this is where discernment comes into play. Is the Lord silent because I’m in disobedience? Or because absence of a “do this Now” is the equivalent of “don’t do anything yet”.

Thank God for the Rosary. If there’s a better way of getting focused and attuned than a daily trip through the flowers, I sure wish somebody’d share it with me.

ummmm, “sponsors?” Never heard that one. And now I just got re-confused. The nearest Parish is a block away. The nearest Catholic family (and likely sponsors?) live across the street…and attend another Parish.

Ave Maria, gratia plena, Dominus tecum…
 
That was the year that our Church was built. It is very big, (seats 1500) very plain and has a very 1960 era feel. The stained glass is encased in concrete aggregate. There is no organ loft but a space for a choir smaller than 10 recessed into a hole in the floor. The hole in the floor was covered over many years ago so that our 45 plus member choir can be accomodated. Forty-seven years later we now need to replace the electric transistorized organ and have very little options. There is no room for a pipe organ so we must make do with electronic. Neither Mary nor Joseph has a side altar. During the month of May we must bring a statue from the school for the May Crowning. The architecture has been described as a “concrete bunker with a dixie cup on top.”

But given all that, it is home.😊
I truly love some of that architecture if it’s executed correctly from a maintainability standpoint.

Mary/Joseph altars have no place in a newly constructed church. Everything should focus on the stanctuary and the ambo and particularly the “main” altar of sacrifice. That’s why some parishes don’t even have stations in the nave – they have them in another chapel.
 
My Protestant friend compared us to McDonalds. We’re the same everywhere. 😃
 
Statues of Mary, Joseph and the saints do belong in the church. Also the stations should be on the walls. If you have 100 or 200 people during stations where in the world would they have this devotion?

If your a faithful Catholic who actually understands your faith you don’t concentrate on statues. I go to a traditional NO parish and the people are very devoted to Christ. Before and after Mass they go to the communion rail and adore our Savior on the altar.

Modern churches looks like a barn to me, no different than a fundamentalist church. All the beautiful art in our churches just bring you closer to Christ. I am tired of hearing that we focus on Mary more than Jesus, because I really haven’t seen it. The rosary is about Christ’s life and of course Mary is involved in his life.

Most Catholics understand the position of Mary versus her Son. Of course there are exceptions.

If someone really objects so strongly against the honor we give Mary maybe they need to search their hearts and see if they are being led to a protestant church.

Why should a minority of people who seem to be hostile towards her and the saints dictate what the Church believes. Anyway from other posts I have seen statements made that really upset me regarding our Holy Mother. Maybe they don’t have the correct understanding of what the Church teaches. I don’t know. But some of the posts remind me of posts I see on a very anti Catholic board, and it is disturbing to see the same here from Catholics.

Yours in the Hearts of Jesus and Mary

Bernadette
 
Statues of Mary, Joseph and the saints do belong in the church. Also the stations should be on the walls. If you have 100 or 200 people during stations where in the world would they have this devotion?

If your a faithful Catholic who actually understands your faith you don’t concentrate on statues. I go to a traditional NO parish and the people are very devoted to Christ. Before and after Mass they go to the communion rail and adore our Savior on the altar.

Modern churches looks like a barn to me, no different than a fundamentalist church. All the beautiful art in our churches just bring you closer to Christ. I am tired of hearing that we focus on Mary more than Jesus, because I really haven’t seen it. The rosary is about Christ’s life and of course Mary is involved in his life.

Most Catholics understand the position of Mary versus her Son. Of course there are exceptions.

If someone really objects so strongly against the honor we give Mary maybe they need to search their hearts and see if they are being led to a protestant church.

Why should a minority of people who seem to be hostile towards her and the saints dictate what the Church believes. Anyway from other posts I have seen statements made that really upset me regarding our Holy Mother. Maybe they don’t have the correct understanding of what the Church teaches. I don’t know. But some of the posts remind me of posts I see on a very anti Catholic board, and it is disturbing to see the same here from Catholics.

Yours in the Hearts of Jesus and Mary

Bernadette
I’ll explain my posts so that, hopefully, you’ll see that I’m not “anti-Mary.”

Many of the older Catholic churches are quite elaborate and filled with beautiful statuary, images, stained glass, etc.

Many of the newer (1970s and 80s) Catholic churches are quite stark, and perhaps only have a few images in the nave.

Some Catholics consider the “new” Catholic churches “inferior” or “Protestant” and urge people like the OP not to attend these parishes.

THAT’S what my posts refer to–the attitude that the statues are important enough that people should flee churches that have few statues.

As long as the bishop allows a Catholic church to remain open, the people who are part of that parish should attend that church, even if it is plain-looking by their standards. **Catholics should not be so attached to decor, architecture, etc. that they are unable to worship at Mass in a plain, modern-looking church building. **

I attend two parishes on a regular basis because I play piano. I am a MEMBER of a parish with a very modern-looking Catholic Church. It’s mainly bricks, and only has two images–the Crucifix (life-sized and very realistic) and the Holy Family (again, life-sized and very realistic). We have a “stylized” version of the Stations–pretty, but not the beautiful classical scuptures that some churches have. (We actually have two Stations, because one is outside in the midst of a beautiful garden (that just got nominated for a Community Garden award).

The other parish I attend has 18 images of the Blessed Mother, along with 12 saint images, life-sized, and stained glassed windows, numerous images and depictions of the patron saint of the parish–it’s a feast for the eyes.

I like both church buildings. Because of my busy and often harried life, I really like the plain modern church–it’s very peaceful, and the thousands of bricks, all laid in perfect order, make me remember that our God is a God of order.

But I also like the ornate church because it is very beautiful. (I know other Catholics who say it’s too “busy.”)

As for not honoring Mary–I think you would find that my “plain” parish honors Mary. The Rosary is said before every daily Mass. We do a May crowning. The Legion of Mary has a strong presence in the parish. Her image is in the lobby. We have a 24/7 Adoration Chapel where many visitors and adorers pray the Rosary. The recent “40 days for Life” included a large number of participants from that parish, many of whom prayed the Rosary during our prayer vigils. We sing Marian hymns often. I could go on, but the point is, devotion to Mary is not a question of how many images of her are in the nave, but rather, how much we love and honor her in our hearts and pray for her intercession and help on a regular basis.
 
When i became a Catholic, I prayed hard that Jesus would lead me to a good parish, and he did. But I moved home and now I am in a parish, where there merging, I Go to mass regularly depending on the weather. This parish tho is run more so by the people instead of the Priest. But I go to worship and serve the lord. The Parish itself I wouldn’t give you two cents for. But the Priest is awesome his homlies really reach out and touch your heart. So I would say pray on and for your parish, If you feel comfortable stay there . If not find one close to where you live, I am staying put for now.

Jesus will lead you to the parish but its up to us to follow through with being there. There’s always a reason for why Jesus would send you to a certain parish, and its up to me ( or us) to follow through with staying there.

My opinion thanks

Peace be with you my friend. Halos
 
I have had terrible luck with actual Church buildings.

I grew up (in Florida) going to a parish that built a large building to be used as the church and later for the school to use as a gymnasium. That never happened, so I grew up going to church in a gym with pews. Not very uplifting. Add to that the Irish priests and all the other priests who came to retire, and it wasn’t a very good experience. And yes, we had a priest accused of abuse, as well.

I came to appreciate the sacraments and the Gospel and who Jesus is, because I certainly wasn’t interested in the building or the homilies, I’m sad to say.

After I got married and we settled up here in VA, we went to the nearest parish and have stayed here every since. Another multi-purpose building never replaced by a church. Go figure.

So, I guess I’ve never actually been a member of a parish with a real church. So, that might explain some of my posts.

It is sorta like McDonald’s, isn’t it? Universal. It doesn’t matter where you go - the Truth is the same.
 
Statues of Mary, Joseph and the saints do belong in the church. Also the stations should be on the walls. If you have 100 or 200 people during stations where in the world would they have this devotion?

If your a faithful Catholic who actually understands your faith you don’t concentrate on statues. I go to a traditional NO parish and the people are very devoted to Christ. Before and after Mass they go to the communion rail and adore our Savior on the altar.

Modern churches looks like a barn to me, no different than a fundamentalist church. All the beautiful art in our churches just bring you closer to Christ. I am tired of hearing that we focus on Mary more than Jesus, because I really haven’t seen it. The rosary is about Christ’s life and of course Mary is involved in his life.

Most Catholics understand the position of Mary versus her Son. Of course there are exceptions.

If someone really objects so strongly against the honor we give Mary maybe they need to search their hearts and see if they are being led to a protestant church.

**Why should a minority of people who seem to be hostile towards her and the saints dictate what the Church believes. ** Anyway from other posts I have seen statements made that really upset me regarding our Holy Mother. Maybe they don’t have the correct understanding of what the Church teaches. I don’t know. But some of the posts remind me of posts I see on a very anti Catholic board, and it is disturbing to see the same here from Catholics.

Yours in the Hearts of Jesus and Mary

Bernadette
Here! Here! Bernadette! That’s why I drive nearly a 1/2 hour to the church I attend. I’m tired of walking into a church only to see … white walls. One of the things I love about Catholicism and Mass is the fact that it is a full body experience. It appeals to ALL of the senses.

I’m in the “pit of the ‘Bible Belt’” here and I see all these mega churches that have such business like architecture. blah. I can’t stand it. I wish we had MORE Gothic looking architecture, more art and beautiful statues.

WE are the One True Church. We need to be proud of it and display it. One time when a protestant complained to me about how our churches have statues and there is all this STUFF in our church I asked them, “Do you decorate your house?” When she said yes I then said, “Why would you not decorate God’s house? Why do you spend more time decorating your own place and ignore His house?” “But it’s about Jesus! Not Idol worship!” she exclaimed. “You’re right. But we don’t worship idols. You’re wrong. And frankly, it’s a shame you don’t decorate God’s house and show it off to be as beautiful as He is.”
 
We are an American, Catholic family living in Japan, and although we live near two Japanese masses and my wife and I have no problem with the language, our children do not speak much Japanese (they’re homeschooled); so we attend the expatriate English mass downtown.
 
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