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That is incorrect.
“A man and a woman are truly married as soon as they commit themselves to each other by vow before God—not when the marriage is consummated.” source
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“Thus, any valid marriage between two baptized people is a sacramental marriage and, once consummated, cannot be dissolved.” source
You try to make this an either or but it is both. Otherwise, you could not obtain an annulment for a marriage that is not consummated. If it weren’t necessary than impotence would not be an impediment. If only an exchange of vows were necessary than you would not be able to annul. An annulment after all means no marriage took place.For two baptized persons who are in no way impeded from marriage, the sacrament is conferred with the mutual exchange of vows. That remains a valid, sacramental marriage even if it is never consummated. (Prior impotence, of course, would be an impediment to marriage. The couple must have at least the ability to complete the marital act.) Consummation of the marriage makes it indissoluble except by death, but the sacrament along with its graces occurs with the mutual public consent.
A one night-stand, or any sort of fornication, is a lie, in that the body professes a union which the heart does not intend to keep.
But I’m surprised at the ongoing discussion of women’s ordination. It simply cannot happen, and the pope has said as much.
Catholic encyclopedia
According to this marriage in the strict sense, and therefore marriage as a sacrament, is not accomplished until consummation of the marriage is added to the consent. It is the consummation, therefore, that constitutes the matter or the form.