Wetcatechumen, I understood your analogy. It was very accurate. I was disagreeing with you concluding two sentences:
Birth control is intended to prevent human beings from coming into existence. For that reason, it is gravely wrong.
I feel your wording here is too simple, inclusive, and limited to be literally true.
Abstinance in any moment can be intended to prevent human beings from coming to existence. That’s the inclusive part. It includes too much.
On to limited: There are other reasons it is gravely wrong. For example: A contracepted sexual act is telling a lie with the whole body/self, not just your words. The sexual act communicates “I freely give you everything I am.” However, while contracepting, the person isn’t actually giving everything. They are choosing to withhold their fertility,
whether or not they are fertile in that moment. So, in this sense, it is also a sin against the Truth, not just the Life. Both of these Jesus claims to be, and we should be pretty concerned about sinning against Him in any way.
I didn’t think you actually intended all the meanings I took from your statements, I was just nitpicking because I think it is important for us all to be clear in moral teachings. Because if we get into discussions with people that actually disagree with us, we should be arguing the actual points of morality, not summarized versions that may be more easily dismissed through logic when the actual, full Truth can not be dismissed.
If it were that simple, then the Papal documents on it wouldn’t be as long as they are. There wouldn’t be such a long discussion in this forum about it.