placing men and women as unequal creations of God,
There is alot to unpack. And if you are dealing with someone with a very fixed definition of equality, I.E. one where equality means same-ness, then you may not have any luck.
So, starting out with the church teaching that men and women are unequal; it isn’t true. It does teach that they aren’t the same, but it is adamant that they are equal in human dignity.
from the catechism:
2334 ‘In creating men “male and female”, God gives man and woman an equal personal dignity.’ ‘Man is a person, man and woman equally so, since both were created in the image and likeness of the personal God.’
2335 Each of the two sexes is an image of the power and tenderness of God, with equal dignity though in a different way…
This is scandalous today where gender is thought of as just a social construct. I don’t see alot of evidence for it. Men and Women are
different. Our brains are physically different. Our hormone loads are different. These things lead to behavioral and developmental differences. Differences that good educators often take into account when developing curriculum. If Johnny doesn’t have the same verbal skills as Janey at age 8; its not surprising at all because of the way females tend to develop that part of their brain earlier.
It should be no shock that men and women are different physically, that these physical changes can lead to differences in thinking and emotion, and that those differences might suggest that a person might be better at some things. Recognizing this isn’t sexist.
Now, there are spectrums. And there are some areas where this won’t matter nearly as much; such as doctor or attorney. But it does tend to be true in certain areas. I.E. I make a lousy ‘Mom’. If I had to I could do it, but it’s better if my wife fills that role.
I reject the premise that recognizing the differences between genders is sexist. Any more than you might think that one son who is really good at math isn’t the equal of the son who is really good at reading, or a third son who is kind of average at everything. Equality in rights and dignity isn’t about what you can do.
For the Church specifically, it is bound by tradition in terms of the priesthood. Going back to the early Church, and even to the 12 apostles, the role of priest was limited to men. It’s not that priestesses were unknown in that day, many other religions had them. But Christ and the apostles did not.
Given that the priest role is that of “father”, not of mother, and that Christ didn’t choose women to be his apostles, the Church follows his lead.
Now, some say ‘Well, Jesus was just following the norms of his day’. That doesn’t jive with me. This is a man who
didn’t follow the norms of the day; even when it meant his life.
Do I fully understand it? No. But I believe, and it makes sense to me.
All that said, Women play, and have played, a tremendous role in the Church. From Catherine of Sienna to my own (largely female) parish council. They serve. They lead. They keep the lights on. They just can’t be one role in particular; that of Priest.