I am not arguing in favor of the virtue of those who reject the Lord but I totally disagree with you that parenting in our culture exhibits a strong or relevant teaching component toward children. Totally disagree. I have seen strong family relationships that incorporate catecheses, but overall failure is the best term I can use to describe what I see and have seen for 40 years in Protestant and now Catholic families.
And it is not just found in Church, in that I believe this is a systemic feature of Western culture. Kids raising themselves in front of the TV or now the computer has been an integral component of American life for decades. This has been commented on for so many years it really isn’t up for grabs. Christian homes may on average include a somewhat higher level of parental involvement but the overall effect is simply nowhere what it could be.
Our current African Priest comments on it from time to time. Every home here has multiple Bibles but the who reads them? Where in his area in Kenya the bible is a precious thing and rarely does a home own more than one, but it is used and the little kids get taught from it. Just an anecdote but certainly the lack of bible knowledge among Catholics makes ithem an easy mark for Protestants who SAY they have the Bible. Catholics wince and think, “Well if this fellow can quote a couple verses and explain a thing or two from Paul’s writings, he must know more than me…”
Too bad because I came to the RCC BECAUSE of the bible and my lifelong study of it, not ins spite of it.
If we pass on to our children a knowledge of the Scriptures and the Catholic faith, no well-intentioned Protestant will take a one from the Church of Christ.
I certainly agree with you that many parents have no clue about raising children.
But I still must protest the accusation that Catholic parents are responsible for the conversion of Catholics to Protestantism (or that Protestant parents are responsible for the conversion of their children to faithlessness).
In spite of the general trend toward parenting malaise, many parents HAVE done their duty and trained their children well, and yet their children departed from their faith and church when they grew up.
This is heartbreaking for parents who have truly done everything right. Hearing others say that somehow it was their fault compounds their heartbreak and doesn’t help bring the child back to faith or the Church.
The fact is that we all have free will, and some people choose to go down a different path regardless of all their training. Even adults who are well-grounded in Christianity sometimes choose to walk away from it.
This is not only true of faith, but other areas of life as well. EVERYONE in the United States knows about the dangers of smoking, but 15% of Americans choose to smoke anyway. EVERYONE knows that they should eat a healthier diet and be more active, but many of us continue to eat junk and be inactive. EVERYONE knows that we should have a will, but many of us procrastinate making a will. These are just a few examples of situations where we are well-trained and fully-educated, but choose to live contrary to the facts.
Education doesn’t guarantee compliance.
At least we have the promise in Proverbs that a child who is trained up in the way he should go will not depart from it when he is old. The promise for all the heartbroken parents is that their children WILL return to the way of faith, perhaps not during the parents’ lifetimes, but when their child is old.