I am not sure, but I think that what you don’t understand is that most people confuse ideologies.
What you want to defend is what we have here in Brazil (mostly), called Social Liberalism - it seeks to balance an individual’s right to property, for example, and social justice. It is the mix of “give health care and education, but let us decide what to do with the fruits of our labor”. Taxes go mostly towards -]corrupt politician’s pockets/-] infrastructure: public schools, public hospitals, security, the army. Anything and all that is in everyone’s interest.
My personal politics are a little left of social-democracy. I would seek to nationalize certain industries that are considered key infrastructure, institute closer arbitration of allocation of land to businesses, and increase regulation of the means of production to avoid environmental damage and worker-exploration. I do, however, see no reason not to operate a mixed economy.
However, we still have rich and poor. Everyone has a right to their own property.
Socialism, in the proper sense, would change that part in bold. It would take every single penny from the rich AND the poor, and then redistribute it. Your work is not yours anymore, it is the State’s property to deal with.
That last sentence in bold is more the unfortunate product of the quota-model pioneered in the GDR. Socialism acts as a check to ensure members of society work toward a social useful purpose, not to deny them basic commodities, or the liberty to spend what capital is afforded them through pay however they choose.
From what we from South America understand of USA problems, is that most North-Americans see Obamacare as a step closer towards Socialism (which it is; doesn’t mean you HAVE to take the next step, though). Same in England with the NHS. It is a fear that needs to be discussed, but that instead politicians exploit in order to gather votes. Leftists want it in hope of future Socialism, Rightists despise it for fear of future Socialism. No one sees that you can try for a balanced situation
I am British - the NHS is one of the most popular institutions in the UK, and parties have often won or lost based on their ability to protect it. It is also perfectly socially acceptable, in this country, to refer to yourself as a socialist. It is generally the same throughout Europe, though less so in the east. The Labour Party generally at least claims to be socialist, and two of the most popular newspapers are overtly left leaning, though partisan televised news is illegal.
US politics, from my understanding, are more inline with your description. The fear of the cold-war has caused socialism to be a dirty word, and it seems, pre-university, it is poorly understood. The U.S. also seems to have a prominent Liberal-Conservative dichotomy in its politics, which doesn’t exist in Europe. In America, opposing abortion and gay-marriage, and actually legislating against gay-people, as in Indiana, is political fair game. Anyone who tried those policies in the UK would be publicly decried, and would be un-electable. Even the centre-right party here, actually called The Conservatives, who are currently in power, are functionally liberal. Even Catholics in this country default to centre-left parties, particularly Labour.
We have poor people still. However, they receive money for food, have access to free healthcare and free education. Any problems we have with infrastructure is due to our terrible management (our politicians keep using social programs to gather votes, it’s ridiculous), and not because Capitalism is a bad economic system.
Edit: plus, abortion. Here in Brazil it is of little concern, as abortion is still (thankfully) a big taboo. Our public hospitals do not engage in those practices (with rare exceptions), so our money isn’t being used on anything our conscience would go against. In the USA, though? Taking MY money to use on things I am decidedly against? No go. You can take my money to give to others; I wouldn’t complain in a Socialist society (give unto Caesar…), but the moment they used MY work to subside sin, I’d rebel (and probably go to prison in the process, not that familiar with rebellion

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My personal feeling on abortion are that, as detestable as it is, it’s better that it is offered in a professional environment, as opposed to the alternatives that people resorted to before it was legalized, and probably do resort to in Brazil. I do not judge parents for doing it. I would rather ensure that our society does not allow the conditions where someone simply cannot afford to keep their child fed. I know, from the lens of someone unaffected, it seems like an deliberate evil act, but abortion is never taken lightly by the parents. Especially in situations where it is out-of-wedlock, and religious families shame the person to the point where they resort to abortion.
I would, however, ban the promotion of abortion, and ban pro-lifers, to allow for a better discussion.
I also find the ‘if I don’t like it, I’ll rebel’ a common theme in Americanist politics (I know you’re not American), instrinsically opposed to gun-control. I do hope that if abortion were to become state-funded in Brazil, you’d try more democratic, peacful methods ofd preventing it. I actually find it funny that many of the people whoa argue against socialism because it stops your being charitable of your own volition, want to forcefully prevent abortion when legalizing it would allow the same.
Again, just want to reiterate, I am against abortion.