Absolutely not. And for the large part we are. This is not the issue. The issue is, what is an abuse? You will find not fan of absurdity in Mass here. Indeed, we pretty much all believe in following the GIRM as closely as possible. Do you notice the passage does not elucidate what specific abuses? JPII had a a few priests even dressing up like clowns. He had priests gathering all the children around the altar. There were priest using the TLM without an indult. He had priest changing the words to a gender neutral format.
What I am saying is that in the context of this thread, the above quote only begs the question of what is and is not and abuse, and what is observing the norms with fidelity.
You ask the question “what is an abuse?” An excellent question. Let’s look at how reasonable people who desire to be faithful to the liturgical norms of the Church would arrive at such an answer.
Let’s begin with the Second Vatican Council. All you readers out there, go to your bookshelves, or go to a webpage and please read the Vat 2 document “Sacrosanctum Concilium.” (Constitution on the Sacred Liturgy) Find paragraph #22 and read it for yourselves. When I do that I read the following: “Therefore no other person, even if he be a priest, may add, remove, or change anything in the Liturgy on his own authority.”
Now, let us reasonable people ask ourselves what do the words “no person may add anything [to] the Liturgy on his own authority” mean?
“no person” means no person (does anyone dispute that?)
“add” means to include something which is not already there (does anyone dispute that?)
“on his own authority” means without the permission or mandate of a legitimate authority (does anyone disagree?)
Now, we may answer the big question by saying this: If anyone adds anything to the Liturgy without first obtaining the permission of the Supeme Authority of the Church (the Holy Father), that constitutes an abuse. Please keep this in mind.
Now let’s imagine a hypothetical practice and call it “A” It doesn’t matter what it is. It doesn’t have to be anything specific at all. Suffice to call it “A”
Now let’s ask the question “can I do A?”
Is “A” articulated in the liturgical norms of the Church? We look for a norm that says we should do “A”. We find nothing. We look for a norm that says we may do “A”. We find nothing. We look for norms that say we should/may do something that resembles “A”. We find nothing.
Now we ask the question, have I been given the authority to add “A”?
We look through the norms and we find a wealth of examples where we may add things at times (some of them surprise us), but we find nothing that gives us permission to add “A” among them.
Can we arive at any conclusion other than the one that says "I cannot add “A” because I have never been given the authority to do so. ???
We arrive at the necessary conclusion that to add “A” on our own authority, with no mandate or permission from any legitimate authority, constitutes an abuse.
Now let’s backtrack and replace “A” with “holding hands during the Our Father”. How do we arrive at different conclusions?
The Council says “Therefore no other person, even if he be a priest, may add, remove, or change anything in the Liturgy on his own authority” It seems to me that the statement of the church is clear and unambiguous. It is not open to interpretation. It is not open to expansion by adding “except for…”
The final, unavoidable conclusion is that adding the practice of holding hands during the Our Father (unless you happen to be the Pope) constitutes an abuse of the Liturgy. It realy is that simple.