Why do women have abortions?

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We know that abortion is wrong, but to stop it, perhaps the best method would be to find out the biggest causes of it. What do I mean by that? I mean, what is the biggest reason that women choose abortion rather than having the child?

Is it that their family won’t understand?

Is it that they feel that they can’t afford the baby?

Is it that they feel they will be publicly shamed if they have the baby?

Is it that they don’t want to go through the physical pain of having the baby?

Is it that they feel the baby will make them less attractive in the eyes of men, and the baby’s father had dumped her by the time she realized she was pregnant?

What is the single biggest reason that women choose to murder their own children in this way? Does anyone have any statistics on this issue?
 
HappyPerson said:
What is the single biggest reason that women choose to murder their own children in this way?
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“Murder”? Nice, loaded word there, although not one that the women in question would use. :tsktsk:

If you really would like to ask these women why they chose to have an abortion, could you come up with a polite question without “contempt prior to investigation”?😦

Whilst you probably have strong feelings on this topic, so do many of the women. And calling them "murders and “child killers” is counter-productive.:hmmm:
 
Andruschak said:
“Murder”? Nice, loaded word there, although not one that the women in question would use. :tsktsk:

If you really would like to ask these women why they chose to have an abortion, could you come up with a polite question without “contempt prior to investigation”?😦

Whilst you probably have strong feelings on this topic, so do many of the women. And calling them "murders and “child killers” is counter-productive.:hmmm:
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So why do women kill their unborn children?
 
Terror. Sheer mind-boggling terror. You want out. you made a mistake. The whispers of the culture of death soothe you. “All this can be taken away”, “Lots of women do this…”
 
apricot_yogurt said:
Terror. Sheer mind-boggling terror. You want out. you made a mistake. The whispers of the culture of death soothe you. “All this can be taken away”, “Lots of women do this…”
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The deceptive yet soothing whispers of the culture of death give reassurance like none other than the prince of the world can give.
Again the devil took Him up into a very high mountain, and showed Him all the kingdoms of the world, and the glory of them and said to him: All these will I give thee, if falling down thou wilt adore me. - Matt 4:8
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Andruschak said:
“Murder”? Nice, loaded word there, although not one that the women in question would use. :tsktsk:

If you really would like to ask these women why they chose to have an abortion, could you come up with a polite question without “contempt prior to investigation”?😦

Whilst you probably have strong feelings on this topic, so do many of the women. And calling them "murders and “child killers” is counter-productive.:hmmm:
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I actually think that it is counter-productive to not call it what it is. It is simply because we as a culture DO NOT call abortion murder that we have so many. I know that we would still have the murder of unborn children even if we did, but more women would know that what they are doing is murdering their child.

We are being naive in thinking that we need to be more gentle with this topic and the women who are about to commit murder. Would we be just as gentle with the topic of drunk driving? We we not tell the drunk who is about to drive that he is going to become a murderer if he hit someone? I should hope we would all do our darnedest to make sure that person understood that they are about to commit murder if they get behind that wheel.

We can no longer glaze the term abortion (which in its very definition is the termination of a pregnancy after, accompanied by, resulting in, or closely followed by the death of the embryo or fetus:) with a choice or a feeling. With 46+ babies being murdered per year we need to start standing up to this horrific scarifies that has killed too many of our children.
 
there are as many reasons as their are women

the fundamental reason is that the individual woman felt she had no real choice, she was never told about other options, or was conditioned to reject them. that is why “pro-choice” is such a cruel term for the abortion agenda.
 
I know three women personally who have had abortions and I will give you their three differerent reasons:
  1. The gal was 18 and had just graduated high school. She didn’t have a great relationship with her (divorced) folks - actually a non-existant relationship with dad and the one with mom had been super bad but was on the mend. In fact, she was living with another family the last 2 years of high school due to such a poor relationship with her folks. …and she got pregnant. Despite the father’s objections, she allowed her mother to talk her into having an abortion in part because she wanted to please mom and continue having her relationship with mom healed. I believe she regrets the decision but cannot imagine her life with that aborted baby in it - so she buried it deep and tries her best to never think of it.
  2. The gal was in her teens and in high school. She had an affair with an older man who got her pregnant. She borrowed $300 from her best friend, had an abortion, and is still proud of it last I heard. Her reason was because she wanted to be a journalist and travel the world. Her exact words were “How could I travel throughout Africa or the Amazon with a kid in tow?!”
  3. The gal was divorced and had been living with her boyfriend for 5 or so years. They had one child together. She had 2 other children previously. She and her boyfriend were both doing drugs. She chose to have an abortion so that she could continue doing drugs… she would have had to clean up her act in order to continue a pregnancy. Her addiction made her choice for her. She will never heal. She hates herself. She is now clean, with two more children. She lives every day with regret and shame.
 
If you were faced with a drunk who wants to drive home, or where ever, I doubt you would get anywhere by calling him a murderer. When this person is sober is when you need to discuss with him (or her) that by driving drunk he has a high risk of killing someone. While drunk, he can’t really be convinced of anything. His thinking is impaired.

I guess the same can be said of a woman faced with an unwanted pregnancy. There are those who believe that a pregnancy is simply an inconvienence, so it can just be gotten rid of. The time to convience these people are before the pregnancy starts. And there are those who are trying to do just that.

There are people working on both issues. Remember MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving)? We may not have an acronym for the pro-life people, but they are out there doing whatever they can to stop this senseless act.
 
This is very interesting. Does anyone have any statistics to indicate whether there were more abortions during the Bill Clinton administration, or during the George W. Bush administration?
 
HappyPerson said:
This is very interesting. Does anyone have any statistics to indicate whether there were more abortions during the Bill Clinton administration, or during the George W. Bush administration?
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Here are some stats. It looks like abortion has steadily been declining.
 
I’m just guessing here, but I think the reasons fall into these categories:

Lust - Baby wasn’t conceived in a loving, caring, blessed relationship. Mother doesn’t want to give up physical pleasure or has an inordinate desire to avoid pain or emotional discomfort…

Greed - I’m not giving up the money, real estate, travel plans, fancy cars, career plans, chance to be wealthy, etc for a baby…

Sloth - I am not good enough to have a baby. I don’t want to be strapped with the responsibility of a baby. I don’t know how to be a mother. This baby is better off not living in this world, or the life I could give it…

Pride - I’ll be too embarrassed to have a baby. I’m too opinionated to see the truth about abortion; too ambitious to be burdened by a baby; disobedience or contempt of God; resentment of authority; rationalization of why it’s okay in her situation…

Envy - Somebody else will get the job/man/status/opportunity I want if I have this baby.

Anger - I hate my boyfriend/the father/my parents/myself/this baby/society enough to end this pregnancy.

Gluttony - Can’t dream of quitting drugs, alcohol, smoking, sushi, etc for a baby… (already mentioned by a PP)
 
No. It’s not usually selfishness, it’s panic.

Considering many women going in for abortions aren’t rich, wealthy women but poor women, college women (usually birth control failed and college women don’t have a lot of their own money or support from anyone), single women, etc. there’s something more. It’s not because a baby isn’t a convenient thing, it’s because she feels backed into a wall and tries to rationalize saying, “it’s not a baby yet” because she feels there is no possible way to bring a baby into this world.

Trust me, I’ve prayed in front of abortion clinics, the women going in for abortions were usually the panic stricken women in tears. It’s very stressful. Parental pressure, coercive partners, finances, unsympathetic employers, and the stigma attached to being a young, unwed mom are very powerful forces.

And usually, she does love the man she is with but he abandons her or forces her to have an abortion. Yes, there are guys who say, “I want this baby! Please don’t do this!” but there are the guys who use physical and emotional blackmail in order to avoid having to pay child support for 18 years.

All this is enough to make you think, “Hmmmm, maybe this isn’t so bad…” It’s sad, but true.
 
Some woman hold firm that a mass of cells inside of a womb does not constitute a “person”. If I were to generalize based on a few personal testimonies I’ve heard: I doubt many people walk into abortion clinics saying “I’m going to murder my baby today” rather, I’d imagine they say “I made a tough decision before it was too late and I’m going to undergo a legal, out-patient medical procedure today.”

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apricot_yogurt said:
Terror. Sheer mind-boggling terror. You want out. you made a mistake. The whispers of the culture of death soothe you. “All this can be taken away”, “Lots of women do this…”
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Yup.

Abortion is cheap and easy.

You can get an abortion and nobody ever even needs to know you were pregnant!

Abortion isn’t going away. It’s not going to become illegal. There will be squabbles over how late you can have them, some women will have to drive further to get them, maybe minors will or won’t be allowed to have them without parental consent… but, for the majority of college-age women who find themselves in a fix, abortion is here to stay as the easy option.

If you want to fight this, you have to do it by converting hearts, one person at a time. You won’t win every battle, but you can win some and save some lives.
 
st_lucy said:
Here are some stats. It looks like abortion has steadily been declining.
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Thank you. This is very valuable information, and I am happy to say that it indicated a clear decline in abortion, at least through 2004, which seems to be when the stats end. Has this decline trend continued over the past 4 years?
 
Here’s what I think:
  1. No ChoiceI know they say prochoice, but often the stories told sound like they felt they had no choice
  2. It’s LegalTherefore it must be okay.
  3. Not properly informedThey are told that it’s just a clump of tissue. And they want to believe it, so they do.
  4. SelfishnessSome just don’t care.
 
tracydaisy said:
Here’s what I think:
  1. No ChoiceI know they say prochoice, but often the stories told sound like they felt they had no choice
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I don’t understand how any woman could HONESTLY believe that abortion was her only choice. Even for those whose health/life is at risk, there is the option of a C-Section. Even a premature C-Section can preserve the life/health of both mother and child. Meanwhile, women have died from abortion related complications.

It really should be the other way around. Women should be taught that having the baby is their only choice(and therefore, not really a choice, but a natural consequence of getting pregnant.) Yet, the adoption option should always be made clear. So the choice should be, “Do I keep my baby, or give my baby up for adoption,” rather than, “Do I murder my baby, or let him live.”
 
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