Why does God hate me?

[GodCruel]

God gave me parents that made me depressed, they are both beautiful on the outside but I have pretty much one of the ugliest noses a guy can have. My nose would ruin anyone - even Elvis or Tom Cruise. I am isolated and depressed and sick of everything and everyone. I could only get a 2/10, maybe a 3/10 girl which is so embarassing. My wholfe life is a punishment and not a gift - I even told that my mother. I just want to know how anyone in this situation is supposed to believe in God or love him. I achknowledge him but If I really believed in him, how couldn’t I possibly hate him for what he has done? My life is a punishment. Why did God give me parents that make me depressed? Everything is connected, it’s such a perfect plan to make my life as horrible as possible.

 

[paulocau]

Tom Cruise has a … different? nose. I know a lot of women that there is no rhyme or reson to why they are attracted to a certain person. Someone will be attracted to you AND you to them… Time and chance happen to all. Sufferance is good for the soul. Without suffering, how can you empathise with someone who is suffering, too. My life has been pretty awful at times. I was born to a father who didn’t want me and told me so. He beat me and made me feel worthless. My 2 brothers, (who I had to be “father” to) were killed in their 20’s. My partner died at 24. I was sexually abused by several different people and it was as bad as you could imagine. My pain has given me the ability to recognise your pain and feel it too. God loves everyone of us, but he especially loves those who sufffer. He wants to show you just how much love he has for you and the peace and contentment He has for you. Pray to Him. Ask Him to give you peace. Tell Him that you suffer and ask if it be His will, to give you the life you long for. Read the Bible and and Pray, Pray, Pray. You might find that everything is indeed connected and that there is an excellent reason you are who you are, even if you can’t see it, just yet.
I can tell by your writing that you are beautiful. What the world considers “beautiful” and “appealing” are just lies, perpetuated by a media that has nothing to do with God, Jesus or the Truth. Be strong. The Philosopher Boethius said- “the bad times - just like the good - are always passing us by.”
God Bless you.

 

[bmaj]

God loves you more than you could ever imagine! One day we’ll all know the reasons for everything in this temporary life on earth, but until then, try to trust in our Lord’s infinite love and mercy. There’s very good advice in the above response, and I would add one more bit of info… If the look of your nose upsets you that much, there’s the excellent option of plastic surgery which so many people have taken. I went to junior high school with a girl who had a very strange, large nose but was a wonderful person. One September she returned after the summer break with a completely different smaller nose. Fast forward about ten years or so, and she had become a famous, beautiful actress married to a famous, handsome actor. She has always remained beautiful on the inside, too, as I’m sure you are! Try not to “rate” potential girls for dating on a scale of 1 - 10. I imagine deep inside your heart you probably realize that’s not a healthy view of the opposite sex. And I think if you were to ask some grown men who ended up marrying gorgeous females and then divorcing them, they would probably advise against choosing a mate by looks alone. Search and be open to consider a girl with a warm and caring heart, and our Lord will lead you to one who is just perfect who will help both of you grow in holiness. Enjoy the search, and God’s blessings always to you!

 

[paulocau]

And the type of woman that sees an imperfect nose as a deal breaker, is probably not the type of woman you will find true happiness with.

 

[gt14]

I even told that my mother. I just want to know how anyone in this situation is supposed to believe in God or love him.

I’m sorry about your struggles, however believing or loving God is not just for when it is convenient or when we have what we want.

My nose would ruin anyone - even Elvis or Tom Cruise. I am isolated and depressed and sick of everything and everyone. I could only get a 2/10, maybe a 3/10 girl which is so embarassing.

Maybe those women are dealing with the same type of issue you are? Physical attractiveness is something that can fade, but the beauty of someone’s soul is eternal.

 

[TheLittleLady]

God put me in a body that is so deformed that if I’d been born a century ago I would have been exhibited in a freak show. Every time I set foot in public, people line up stare, mock, take photographs of my freakish body. My deformities can never be hidden by cosmetics nor altered with surgery.

Aside from the way my body looks, it is constant, unrelenting pain. My joints slowly deteriorate until I will eventually be unable to walk. Now, in my 50s I cannot walk without assistive devices and then only for very short distances.

I am beautiful. God made me for a purpose. He made no other person to do what I am called to do.

As Scripture says, will a vase complain to the potter “Why have you made me this way?”

My husband, my children, my friends and family love me not in spite of my deformity but including every single part of me.

Please, seek professional help both from your pastor for the spiritual part and from a mental health professional from what may be BDD.

 

[alice24]

I could only get a 2/10, maybe a 3/10 girl which is so embarassing.

Overthink your view on human beings in general. A person can be - by standarts of time, culture and taste - be considered as beautiful, but giving numbers is just…immature and cruel.

Life is not about noses. When I was 14, I thought I was so ugly with my “big nose” as I have strong persian features. I felt ugly as hell. The reaction were different. My mother told me to be “glad as you are beautiful”, my father offered me a nose job in Iran as it is usual and modern for many there. BOTH think I am beautiful, because being a loving parent gave them the understanding of beauty, and both ways were kind and not wrong. Years later, I see I had issues with confidence, as I am really not an ugly person. But know what? It doesn´t matter for me anymore. I like dressing up, I like my body. But it has nothing to do with the love for my spouse. Beauty is in virtue, in grace, in kindness. If you measure by body standards, you describe attraction, but this is not a base for a marriage.
Do you think an “ugly” couple can´t be a beautiful couple? Do you think “ugly” people can´t have good intimacy in marriage?
I am glad this is not true.

 

[Irishmom2]

I could only get a 2/10, maybe a 3/10 girl which is so embarassing. My wholfe life is a punishment and not a gift

I find it ironic that someone complaining about their own nose would rate girls at all, and be “embarrassed” to only be able to “get” a a 2 or a 3…

You have heard from some extremely beautiful people in response to your thread. People that are beautiful because they know that beauty is found on the inside. There are many physically attractive people in this world with really ugly personalities.

Your life is not a punishment, it is a lesson that you have not yet learned the answer to yet. Perhaps when you understand that there is more to life than physical beauty, you will see your life, and your nose, as a gift.

God doesn’t make mistakes. He made you perfect in his eyes. He loves you just as you are, and wants you to love the you he created, just as you are.

 

[LaughingBoy1503]

Sorry you are feeling down. At the same time, I do not know how old you are but you sound very, very young if you have not come to the realization that a ugly nose is not even close to being such a cruel fate. Its something you have to deal with. If you knew the deformities others had I think you would not be so quick to assume God hates you. You are going to have to find a way to deal with this. Sorry to say that but blaming God certainly is not making you feel better and it wont make you feel better. You need to find a way to cope, just like the rest of us have to with the hand we are dealt. God does not hate you, He loves you. Good luck and God bless.

 

[Theo520]

ROFL
Guess you need to find a girl that is deeper than a teaspoon.
But that assumes you are attractive under the surface, and not shallow yourself

Better start working on your inner self, at least until you save up for that nose job.

 

[0Scarlett_nidiyilii]

I could only get a 2/10, maybe a 3/10 girl which is so embarassing.

Yikes–not very nice, judging your fellow human beings like that…

 

[Lea101]

As someone who can’t even get a man if I prance around naked with beer…i gotta say if your nose is your only problem with your face…you don’t have much to worry about tbh, unless you’re talking about a birth defect here, then I empathize.

What are you doing about your depression? And how did your parents make you depressed?

 

[CoffeeAndDonuts]

The fact that you refer to women as numerical values is very troubling. Your nose isn’t what’s stopping you dating, it’s your attitude towards what you ‘deserve’. Ugly guys can absolutely get girls. Your personality is so much more attractive, and if you judge women on a scale of x/10 you need to work on that before you should even think about engaging in a relationship, because it’s very unChristian to rank woman based on how they look.

Also, how old are you that you have Elvis and Tom Cruise as your frames of reference for attractiveness?

 

[GodCruel]

Sorry for not having answered earlier, I kind of forgot this post and this site and just found it again. Didn’t expect so many answers.

 

[GodCruel]

By always disputing and shouting and being aggressive, growing up in an hostile environment is not doing one any favors.

 

[Zlog]

First off, life is never a cruelty all life is a blessing. Saint Maxemillian Kolbe once said to rejoice in ones sufferings on earth, for in heaven we won’t be able to show God our love for him by it.

Secondly, God is all good, and deserving of all love! God made you unique and individual, and all God wants is for you to look within yourself and see this. He gave you free will, you are in control of how you feel, how you react to things. You cannot control what happens to you in this life, but you absolutely can control how you react to these situations. God did not create evil or suffering, he only allows it to give us a chance to show our love for him and our dedication to his virtues. Light does not create shadow, shadows are caused by things that get in the way of light. Will you let yourself be ruled by what gets in the way of God, or by God himself?

If you’re seriously interested in changing your life, read. “A Man For Others” by Patricia Treece and “The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People” by Stephen R. Covey.

You’re life is yours to make, and by Gods grace may it be a good one. God Bless, and may the Immaculate make a home in your heart.

 

[Irishmom2]

. Saint Maxemillian Kolbe once said to rejoice in ones sufferings on earth, for in heaven we won’t be able to show God our love for him by it.

What does this mean? I don’t understand it.

 

[Zlog]

In heaven there shall be no suffering, therefore only on earth (and in purgatory) we may show God our love for him through suffering.

 

[fin]

I haven’t seen you so I can’t make a statement about your looks. However, I think there are people who are less attractive than you but happier simply because they didn’t dwell on their looks. God doesn’t hate you. A lot of people were born with deformities. God loves them. You don’t have deformities, be grateful for your good health. Have a blessed rest of the Advent.